European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 13, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 20 the stars and stripes Friday May 13, 1977 a creative Day with the kids by Richard Flaste new York time parents and children sometimes find it so hard to enjoy each other. They la Start off on an Outing with Radiant expectations and by Day s end they la be shouting weeping recrimination a. Or. William Glasser a los Angeles psychiatrist whose approach is at the heart of n new Parent education program suggest that the critical Clement of a Day of fun to Gether is for the parents to vow they will not be critical. People laugh because it sounds so mechanical Glasser said the other Day. But How do you learn anything. Criticizing children he feels is the Mast destructive thing you can do Beca Itne it s not objective net some thing the child can handle Loo full of so he urges parents to plan a creative Day with their children and then say to themselves today i m not going to Tell the children to Stop and when the critical posture is resolved away. Glasser says the kid comes out of his Shell and Yoi Start enjoying each finds criticism generally use less anyway. It s usually he says Why did you spill the milk Well he can t in spill the milk and who knows Why he did it. The important thing is he did and what is he willing to do to change it. Maybe a Dif Ferent cup will make a the ideas of respect and planning in relationships with children Are at the Bottom of the Parent involvement program that grew out of Glasser s reality therapy an approach to psychology that evoked Aca Demic criticism but Public acceptance through the popular Book reality therapy. Three years ago. A therapist Tom Mckiness who was trained in Glasser s approach decided to Start the Parent involvement program Frith Parent groups organized through los Angeles schools. This year be is attempting to make it a National program. In the last month a former teacher. Ethel Perry has been sounding out schools and groups in the new York City area. She has tentative plans to set up a reality therapy program in Merrick . In nor waft Conn. social workers has been trained in the approach and has begun with Parent through the school Board. The program resembles other More sub used ones not Tel Parent effectiveness Irato tog Espat Sally in the Way Atli aimed at help of. Parents Deal with conflict. Ther approach begins with Parent and child working at a close relationship not just superficial communication but Dis Cussion about things that matter to both Ottem and activities that both enjoy. When something goes wrong some in tolerable behaviour such As one child beat ing up another the Parent is instructed to Calm the situation Down and ask what Are you doing that s to be done without \ any intention of evoking an expression of guilt or apology. Once the youngster has said what he s doing he must evaluate it. Is it doing any goo the reality therapy approach dwells on behaviour instead of feeling. So the next question is what can be done instead if the com is Young the Parent May have to Supply the alternatives. Then there has to be a commitment to the plan. If All that does t work the procedure starts Over or the child May have to go into another room until ready to agree to some workable does sound mechanical. Glasser con tends no Parent is going to let a child do anything he wants. This approach at least gives the child a Chance to have something to do with the plan it s a Way for the child to learn to take charge gain responsibility for when parents groups meet they talk about specific issues and practice handling them. New name for Banka Dericard Banka Dericard. Barcla card cart Blue Sumitomo card and a Host of other Blue Whit and Gold charge cards around the world an get Ting a new name bearing that name Are being issued in the United states and the change is to be completed worldwide by Chi. 1,1979. The operators of the system. National Banka Dericard incorporated say the new name will make the cards easily recognized and eliminate confusion created by a multiplicity of say visa was chosen because it pronounces easily in most languages. But spokesmen say privately the change also reduces the visibility of the giant California Bank that founded the system the Bank of America largest in the United states. Although Bine White and Gold cards now Are famed by Independent Hanii in 22 countries the name Banka Dericard appears prominently on Many of the cards and merchant displays. As far As i know there s never been a problem with the name Banka Dericard but it has always been a con Cern said Paul Schindler. A spokesman for the Bank of America. " it was fell the America part of the name might be up setting in some foreign countries. Visa provides a Nam for building a system that does t have an economic or geographic sure to Cah use thu Caks i until you it to att off. Banks issuing Blue White and bold cards belong to a corporation called Banco Ltd. Which is governed by a 12-member International Board of directors. No one draws a salary from Banco however. It is run by National Banka Dericard incorporated Nib under a five year contract. Nib also runs the . Baniameri card program and is owned by . Banka Dericard issuers. Paul Marcus senior vice president of both Nib and Banco said the name change was going Over Well at the 8,000 Banks that belong to the system. We have just admitted some new Banks in several countries including Argentina Norway the persian Gulf area and Nicaragua. Adopting this common name was very attractive to them and in certain cases very important in stimulating their interest Marcus said. Visa Bank cards will be issued in 22 countries. Banks outside the United states were never required Touse the name Banka Dericard Marcus said but Many did so because they knew there was a tremendous card Holder base in the United states. Us. Residents bold 33 million Blue White and old cards followed by Canada with s.4 million the United kingdom 3.2 million Japan n8,, spate a. Prance 623.000. Italy s7,00� and soot Africa 174,000, literature supplied by Nib said. Last year the cards were used for is billion dollars Worth of purchases and Cash advances in 110 countries spokesmen said. Marcus said Blue White and Gold cards is Ned in Braz Colombia Greece Mexico Lebanon and Portugal Tju not carry the name visa and will be valid Only in their respective countries. A by Erma Bombyk at Watts end there Are three four word express Ion that give me stomach cramps. One is one size fits All one is have a Good Day and the other is you can t miss the latter usually accompanies a 15 minute Sel of directions a fold out map and a series of a list of emergency num Bers on How to get to someone s House. It has been my experience that most people know exactly where they live. They just son t know Bow to get there. Most of them Over train you forthe trip. Who among you has not received directions from mister Rogers who talks to you like you Are the poster child for mental health begins by asking do you know where you Are now when assured you Are at Home he says. Fine go to the end of your driveway and turn right. That is the hand you write with and then go to the traffic Light at the end of your Street. When it turns Green signal for a left turn. That is the hand nearest the window and get into the Middle Lane so other cars can pass you As you will begging Etc. There s a Charles Kuralt Breed who not Only give you direction of Bow to get to his House but throws in jus enough history to confuse you. You la be turning left at the Little Church on the Comer which incidentally had half of its Structure Burnt to the ground in 1836. Don t confuse this with the Structure on the previous Comer that also Burnt. That was rebuilt in 43, but the architecture on tha one is strictly doric Swatch it the directions 1 love Are the ones Given by a Rowan and Martin team where a Man is on one phone and his wife is on the Exten Sion and together they Tell you How to get there. I d take the freeway and exit at ramp 34," says the husband Are you crazy they la be driving half the night his wife interrupts. Take Northern All the Way to the gooney Golf course then make a right that Road is torn up says the Hus band and they la have to Back track. Come to think of it. They could use Miller Road and that Way when they miss the turn off there s an All night station open with a phone to Call us for our House is a doozie to find the Street changes names three times on you comes to three Forks and does t go All the Way through but it you turn where the Road arrows Bear right and go two doors past the Barking dog you cant miss it. 10 . Inc
