European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - May 18, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the stars and stripes wednesday May 18, 1977 modern Medicine those suicide threat too of ten Are not Idle Dezarm a famous verse tells of Richard Cory Arich and attractive Man envied Fay All who knew him. Who one Calm summer night went Home and put a Bullet through his  year an estimated 250,000 men women and children who have lost Hope at tempt suicide. An estimated 75,000 More their cries for help unanswered actually Complete the act. The traditional suicide victim used to re semble the fictional Richard Cory. He was a successful White Middle aged male who seemed to have everything in Lite but was secretly obsessed by what he lacked very often a sense of self esteem. In recent years that profile has  is now the third leading cause of death among women Between is and 29years old. The victims tend to expect too much of themselves and cannot express their rage or despair. Young people under 18 have become increasingly vulnerable to suicide. It is the eighth leading cause of death of 5 to 14-year-old boys. Among males 15 to 24 years old the suicide rate has risen 250 per cent during the past two decades. For them self destruction is a logical Extension of the numbness and deadness Many Young people use As de lenses against a hostile  statistics Are probably under stated for they do not include the single car accidents without skid Marks the diabetic who deliberately Stop taking insulin and the  do people commit this most unnatural act the major reason Many suicide experts believe is loneliness and despair. Hence Christmas and springtime see Man suicides. For the hopeless the yuletide Only emphasizes their desolation and Spring flow Era brag to Promise of merry Sunshine. Most of us at one time or another think offending our lives. But the suicide victim makes it More than a passing thought. The vast majority Are depressed and exhibit what or. Calvin Frederick of the National Institute of mental helth Calls the three its of suicide vulnerability. Such people feel helpless and out of Luck helpless to improve themselves or their lives and Hope less about the future. Some individuals resort to suicide be cause they feel rejected Hurt and angry and want to get Back at someone. Their suicides Are often dramatic and unquestionable with no attempt at concealment. Other commit or attempt suicide out of impulsive Ness loss of face or misguided  have serious underlying problems. A person who is about to take his or he life May show sudden changes in behaviour becoming More agitated or withdrawn than usual. The potential suicide victim May ask about the hereafter talk about somebody else a suicidal Thouk pfc or give away favorite possessions because he or she won the needing them any More or make a will pay up insurance and put personal affairs into order. Such actions Are Crie for help. Any of us May someday save a life if we learn to listen. Let the distressed person Venti late his feelings and feel he  listen ing to. A take threats seriously. Too often they Are not Idle. Do not Tell the person that the crisis will pass or try. To Challenge and Shock him out of his feel Ings. Ask questions. If a person is contemplating suicide he will probably talk about his problems. A query even if ill founded shows concern. Beware of sudden recoveries. The urge to kill oneself is Apt to recur if the underly ing problems still remain. Take positive action. Stay with the person or make sure somebody else a Friend relative teacher Clergyman co worker stands by until the crisis passes. Get professional help. Check with a physician clinic or Hospital As soon As possible. There Are More than 900 Community mental health centers with emergency services plus 200 suicide prevention centers around the United Stales.  Art Buchwald Washington the news item that has rocked America is that i now costs parents $64.000 to rear a child including education at a state supported University. A Low income family can rear one for $44, according to prof. Thomas j. Espenshade of Florida state univer sity this is a 60 percent increase Over what in Cost in 1969. With All due respect to prof. Espenshade 1 think his figures Are Towlow. While he threw in the usual things such As food clothing housing and education. I think he failed to take into consideration the following items automobile insurance for a teen Ager $1,000 a  insurance for the parents when the company cancels everyone s policy because of the claims filed for the teen Ager s Acci dents $3,000. Repairs to Interior of the House after a party Given by teen age for 50of his or her Dearest friends $2,000. Food and drink dispensed to non members of the family who Forone reason or another Are always at the House $6.000. Rug and furniture damage caused by teen Ager s untrained dog Rock concert tickets for children starting at age 11 and lasting until they get a Job which could be age 30 $3.800. Orthodontist Bills for straightening Teeth by braces $2,000.-orthodontist Bills for replacing braces that were accidentally lost on overnight camping trip $1,200.replacement of Tost Winter gloves shoes socks and overcoats left at a Friend s House whose name child cannot remember $800.hi-fi equipment absolutely essential to the peace of mind of a Young person $100 to $1,000, depending on whether child pays Cash rouses family credit card. Birthday presents for friends who Are having lavish parties their parents can t afford $1,200. Birthday parties you give for your own children that you can Tafford $2.000. Collect Telephone Calls from children at Camp school or Gas Sta Tion on the Highway to find out Why kids have not called collect in three weeks $5.600.unpaid tickets for illegal parking sent to parents because car is registered in their name $780.miscellaneous items not covered in the study by prof. Espen Shade Legal fees for pot busts and arrests for disorderly conduct orbit Downs to protest building of nuclear Energy plants damage to neighbor s property done by your children abortions Purchase of Church or school raffle tickets your children have been unable to sell parcel Post packages ski trips remedial Reading Christmas. To Beon the conservative Side Well put Down $8,780. Prof. Espenshade did a Good Job but i suspect he just did t talk tothe right people. 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That he can treat so i Grin and Bear it or Tell my husband ii hurts too much. Fortunately he is a very patient Man but i feel i am let Ling him Down. Could this be whys Many men in their 40s leave their wives for younger women not looking Forward to my fifties dear not looking you need a new gynaecologist dear. In this instance a druggist will do there Are several excellent lubricants on the Market that could solve your problem  inform that ignorant gynaecologist so that he can Hel other patients. Dear Ann Landers today my Boss walked in with a beautifully wrapped package and Laid it Only desk As if it were pure Gold. I haled to unwrap in in was so Georgou. Do you know what was inside that Box a bottle of Nylon dip for laundering lingerie. Do you consider this an appropriate gift after the Way i knocked myself Oul for her for 28 years i have worked for her. She broke her leg iwo year Sago i look Over die business was Given Power of attorney signed checks and paid the Bills. I worked seven Days a  Tell me i should leave. But How can you leave a Job you dearly love Peggy dear Peggy if you love the Job Don t leave. Just be aware that gratitude has a Short memory dear. Your big mistake was failing to make the Porper financial arrangements when you accepted the additional responsibilities. People who assume they will be taken care of later rarely Are. Dear Ann Landers i came to this country in 1971. Because i had difficulty with the language did not ask a girl out until four months ago. I am 24. The girl i invited to dinner works is 21. After a second evening out told Marie i was in love with her. She said she liked me As a Friend and nothing More and suggested i take out her girl  i m afraid to Date an american girl. Was i foolish to Tell Marie of my True feelings do you think there is a Chanc that she will change her mind. Unhappy dear a a Normal 14-year-old fellow who has t taken out a girl in six Yean could have fallen Inlove with a Fin hydrant. 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