European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 31, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Photos by red Grandy said 90 per cent of the marital prob Situ the in her work with the Frankfurt epee Deal schools centers around the parents disagree about How children should 1 makes or confusion among she Tucey get double one Parent telling i one another Parent giving a different set a on Parent there u no doubt about i is the but this is just one of Many is in single Parent life for both the Chil n and Parent involved in these situations might fit society perfect picture of suburban its hardly the life of alcohol and we that Many like any it has i positive Anil negative Lenson Phil else single Parent a the he or is also the one who must give the bulk of love and port the child a special relationship Duvel it 0 unique Stynson said Larie a cosmetology teacher who left husband when Shi was three months pregnant i her now i had no one else to re my life so i shared it with her Daugh of the closeness i and As a single Parent i am constantly being Rawn but not being Steryon i Vaalulu that if 1 were 1 Duld be but As a social worker i visit 1 see married women who Are my her demands that weigh heavy on the single arc Money and  old i who asked that her last name not be used is Mother of four Ages and she gs5 Secretary who gets no child support from former Jan never leaves her children on week she plans family i resent being both a Mother and i would like Money for 1 would like to Ible to go la Paris and once every six Itte it bothers she said Irving divorced parents say they feel a special gallon to spend As much Lime with children As a father who has custody of his kids is not by to bowl with the boys on go out on a von play Golf All Day the i Mother who works All week limits shopping i so As not to be away Loo Larie Davenport said until her daughter was 1 Hayed Home with 1 frit i owed it to i never resented i never fell she was a men 1 went Ott to work id look Rickand set Ber in the window with a ii acc me anxious to get Home and be with Elkend rulings have become a regular part of Henry webers lifestyle during the past two hat he has been alone with his two i 13 and Llis Job involves frequent adv trips a can keep him away from Home All on inlay and sunday he likes to do things with ills i nig suddenly becoming both a Mother and Wasa it was holy he the part was the housekeeping the food prop getting the clothes washed there were Tumany things i never had to do in Iwason and planning Are the key to he considered getting a but his Chil i bid they could take care o the they w the responsibility mid the so v 1977 everyone pitches in with the weve All Learned to Weber each one of susans children has a its up to them to keep the House she people Tell me i run this House like a first 1 am hut in not hard on them t i Hank its Good for they were spoil they have Learned that its not an Al Condl  Weber feels the changes have been positive with his their lifestyle requires More respond he the children have adjusted and accepted the its forced them to mature More rapidly arc really quite remarkable when 11 comes to family plans and we discuss things like three Headd cd neither Stenson nor Davenport feel their children have suffered As a result of How a child spends to divorce depends on How the parents re Lenson if the parents treat the child As if he la missing he will think he is missing if parents treat the situation As if it is Normal there will be no i dont think my child feels Hes never known a but i feel strongly that our Home is one big difference la a on Parent family is the parents social instead of mom and dad going out to dinner or to a Mother might go Tut with Bob on and Bill May come to dinner on she May not go out at social life for most divorced parents with children is not the swinging singles Susan rarely goes divorced men cant afford to take you there paying so much Alimony and child sup port or sending kids through those who do go maybe even Lind someone find their children play a role to the rela a child can be a problem in a new rela Stenson especially a woman boyfriends see the child As a a reminder of a previous a competitor for an other Mouth to a divorced mans on ing other Are viewed a woman can demonstrate her affection for a Mun through his she feels the Way to his heart is through his she goes out of her Way to show what a great Mother she would Lenson when divorce shatters a and a Mother or father carve out a new life alone with their Chil he or she expect be but most manage to gel it Many complained that the biggest hurdle was something they were not expect ing Community disapproval and the Community Kroes in Sten son people Are looking for you to they Are looking Lor signs of that you Are not making both Susan and we bar faced problems when neighbors complained to social workers about their staling they were neglecting their Chil Dren Stenson said normally the Community is support Ive of a divorced Man who has his but the Community is threatened by a single woman with a Shes doing something Many women want to Shes a living reproach to women who Are taking abuse in the name of their men see nor As a she might influence their whether people accept or reject the single Parent it a becoming a fact of pants in this lifestyle feel that it belter nor worse than any Weber i am but in not hard on father and son relax with after dinner chess the stars and stripes Poge 13