European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 1, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse                                1ven Aine Steans to divorce one would think they could live with the tact of being evidently Many Steppe Watts a said Lucille a sociologist at nuts Era who has studied the lives of remarried in this Day and she feel they conceal from new friends the fact that their children were not born to them but came to them through do Berrian Stepfather will just love it if you Tell him the Huie boy looks just like she theres still that tra do clonal idea of a together from the first and walking hand Inland into the i think the dominant form of the american family Grill be the remarried in the according it Duberman ails eve Era others wbb have been looking closely at the plight of family to Eeling ignored ignored not Only by the family  not see themselves As stepparents and step children but also by  who Are Busy studying intact original families single Parent the plight of the remarried can be the approach the new marriage fully aware that an earlier attempt had failed and Are usually determined to do Well this they dont want the children to they All want to be but the situation a stepparent enters has been a going concern for some and the a have to tread he is entering what has for at least a a Mother headed Home in which the children have taken on Awre responsibilities than their age they May have had a Good Deal More Freedom or become the Moth v in the area of he Otien fall w talk h each kind of or Emo seemed to Tomol we to jul Tiff Flat 111 of i Al z Jeffia of Rhea firt who Uirt i  pm a taif v Paul an anthropologist who led re search team for the Western behavioural science Institute in its study of stepchildren for the National Institute of mental Laudt now the Stepfather comes in and the stepchild autonomy May be Cut Back the child will be asked to do less and in a be  u can be quite one immediate area of Botha Kaaa is often the stepparent May find thai be of the Home Are already designated for particular and intrusions will be its easily solved if you move to a new Bohan Nan but if you the kids will have to move Over for the or heu have a hard time just finding a place to read the another problem is the division of la going to do what an astonishing number of families actually put charts on the Bohannan and it seems to at the Long Island jewlsh4biwde warns not Tushy Way i1 just Becote theft a Iteni Trent in the that Doest Lotah that item be saw every cd old deeds la know 1 ail of a in some paradoxical natural Parent of the child is somewhere off in the its research has children Are happier when they can maintain an easy relationship with the absent Parent so it can be said that the closer that original Parent the or the stepparent May find the natural Parent to be a nettle some a continuous or if r life better left in the past and a rival for the Alle Giance of the 3 some stepparents Are very resentful of the Parent who has but tit very  the stepparent not to intrude on the the Thold has with the natural anger Rover that Parent win Force the child to and that r on the other he dont try to imitate the other Parent the child knows its and it just v the  to raising family to second is retain seem  take a deep breath rat Johanna at research indicates thai it u apparently m Man Overbe teeing than raising a family that has not Piper fenced Lwee and Hie children have to face an obstacle Bohannan All children do these Yogi Gilers just have a different obstacle Bohannan learn studied California families in san Diego scientifically selected from differing backgrounds and living the research ers found that the stepchildren fared no better or emotionally or in than children growing up in their original what the kids do to you so much Energy is spent on what parents do to end for their but relatively Little on what the children do to their Par children indisputably provide some people with a great Deal u Michael l the director of the infant Laboratory at the educational testing service in observes that having children Means More people to love and who love you and care about but at the same he lust adding a single child to the husband wife relationship makes everything incredibly More How much tune ii the father to spend with the child Mother to spend with the child All three to spend together a number of Rnea rcom Ham looked at the marital re Kosup to see if it suffered from one of the reseal Dent Harold professor of child development and family studies at Cornell after looking at hundreds of couples Over the that generally the sense of satisfaction with the marriage does drop during  Charles a research pc do Elst and marriage at Purdue did a Timily study with Simi Lar one reason he for the drop in satisfaction is that these Days there u so much concern for children that parents often neglect each marriage takes a Back neat to to tech were constantly being told that we to Tell tur children How much we love them every and that and if by Richard Flaste new York youre not doing something with your Chil Dren you feel but you Only hate so much time so somethings got to and the marriage goes first when he sees this happening to urges them to pay a Little More at Tention to each other before the marriage in addition to Ibe demands of Al Joey described and to upon Oteta Delthe children Presenti they often in but sexual Between parents who Are a raw of being heard a few go to such he that Abeyti wait until the kids go to Camp or to a or the parents build the Muter bedroom at the far end of the the act of childbearing can fill some parents with Raymond who is the at the child development laboratories at says that Many mothers today have decided that they will raise their children in a different fashion than the one they Learned but a fact often Coward that despite Autte enough typed advice they receive on now to babe in an emotional situation were not very ration the parents become he look frantically 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