European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 17, 1977, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stars and stripes August 1977 by Richard Flaste new York times when they say they love then Darling we kit Uwar stroke their Cheeks and love them we believe Bui when they unequivocally declare Hal they Halo its hard to know what to some parents take their children literally and Are devastated by the thought of being others respond to Chil Dren a anger As if it were just too adorable for words and of no real significance at Susan a University of Denver psychologist who described Chil Drens feeling in a recent Issue of the Jour not a consulting and clinical toes both of those parental interpretations As common misunderstandings of Chil Drens she says there appears to be a qualitative difference Between the Way children and Duhs feel and express a difference that makes it difficult for parents to get an accurate picture of the she Are at the mercy of immediate emotional they see siblings even them As All Good or All bad or All knowing or consumed with May look As though there overwhelmed by an emotion of the but ordinarily that not truly the Hartor said in an Ordinary she when adults feel mad its against a network of emotional concepts they know that basically they also love this person so its not they have a perspective that Young children just dont Lurter says thai its really important for a Parent to that when a child 1 hate its the Only Way the child can think at that moment and its lie nature of the cognitive its also much to the bafflement of their can leap from one emotion to the next almost before the air has had a Chance to dry their and that can be the abrupt changes Lead us to think the emotions were of no significance in the first but that Harter is really unfair to if you talk to them about what makes them they get so serious about the anger is a real it May not be As dramatic As it children dont have the words to express nuances of anger of Okay i i torn disappointment us a child who Doest feel enraged May sound Harter which will Hurt the parents and scare the child at the same since the Young Ster didst mean to be so powerfully reject fit Hugh a California psychologist whose to discipline with will be published his fair believes that a Good idea for parents to respond to a Childs expressions of anger wild some tune Down reflection of it and thus help a Young child gain an expanded vocabulary about r he May be feel ing All these gradation of things from annoyance rage but has Only the of word so a Parent might respond Tell me Why youre so or Why youre so Dodson says he has noticed that parents reasonable says when you do something that frustrates a its and other adults try to deny a Childs an older for in might in scared stiff of that math and the Parent will youre not going to fait you Haven t failed a test Dodson is a Way of making the kid feel the Parent do enl in and its teaching the kid id lie about real  ends who accept who to bet that Imago makes is who r s spectrum Are Par Ling even a child a continuous Daniel Wiener professor in the medical school at the University of a Nescia and the author of several books w describes children who express their anger to the Point of being who is perhaps sterner than other childbearing authorities and who asserts that cell Furen have to learn to tolerate perfectly Normal for that child to get angry and most of the time id be Neutral about but some children go around a pouting off at the least pretext and then my own reaction would be tip get annoyed or just  to also said hed Sart to1 wonder what he was doing As a Parent to encourage the child to be so and he Woc Jovery to diminish the ii child a tarted to Caw of like a tamper to Wing one Heil Emty re Frain from taking the child too a res until it was dear there would be w More out where All this leaves is in that customary bind dont but dont let things gel out of either by Ermo boat Wick at wits end if you dont want to read sad stories then skip this mine is the Story of a million women who once were Happy in their Lemon scented raising their smelling their and rutting the Sara us every couple of then one Day 1 was out on the playground Reading the american journal on tooth decay when a sleep looking woman Sal Down beside me and hey wanta try a diet Kilts Cula what is it i my wide with till make you she just Lake one go ahead it wont hurl How much does it Cost no she its on if you like ill be Back Here tomorrow with another its an old within a 1 bad developed a real diet rite i had it with my lunch in the evening with on lie on u made me feel toe Cam of Tula Cut with one Day my husband in worried about Vou look Are you taking too Good care of yourself dont worry about i Ive just lost a few ill pig out at you ii but Christmas came and went and the flab continued Lodr Upoff last 1 went la the stare and fear gripped me that nearly hopped my heart from Best the shelves were stripped of Low calorie there was woe to be i rushed to the where Are the diet drinks the tabs the it pal lights the Frescas where Nave you been be theres a ban on the food and drag administration has taken it off the Market because i scold Turkey for i shoved her aside and ran out into the not daring to believe what 1 had can i diet by in there was Only one course left for to the it didst take me Long to find my she was hum you put a Little Lenny taste in and take out half the youve got to help 1 said taken All the diet soft drinks off the shelves in the super i cant go Back to being fat do you under stand i wit do she smacked my face get hold of this Wilt tide you i gave her a Buck in Exchange for a Brown bag that concealed a can of i flipped the top off and took a then i spit it to was pure sugar May my blubber be on the food and drug administrations id 1ui