European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 25, 1981, Darmstadt, Hesse                                A career and children Renwu b b  sought by Dena Kleiman new York times she could be the Symbol of everything the women movement fought to a senior at she has just won a rotary Fellowship to study in i she expects to attend business school and work in International my Mary Anne Citrino marries and has her Chil she she plans to quit whatever Job she has or eight years to become a full time she is not at a time when Young women have More Joli opportunities and chances for advancement than Ever Many of them now in College appear to be challenging the values of their they Are questioning whether pursuing a career is More important than having children and caring for them if i cant give my children 100 Citrino id rather not be a Mother at in dozens of interviews in the new York metropolitan College women said they were eager to attend Grad uate school and make a Mark on a but they also said they wanted to marry and have and while most said they would like it they often said they thought it was not Many of the women said they Felt threatened by the High divorce rate and what they perceived As the Large number of professionally successful women who had remained even some of the most career oriented women said they planned to take time off from their professions to raise their children even if it meant jeopardizing and in a recent study by Brown University of College students at Wellesley and the state University of new York at Stony 77 percent of the women said that Moth ers should either not work at All or work Only Par time until their children were 5 years some 84 percent of the men they Tell you go have a be have a said Jana a Barnard senior who expects to spend most of this year at but they dont Tell you they just show you the Good the Beautiful the supposedly Well adjusted but if you want to do International How do you do it All perhaps Young women have always been hesitant to Trade a Home life for professional Success perhaps to Days generation is simply More it is also important to note that 25 years ago most women did not think they had a Choice the majority married and remained at Young women want and expect to it appears Clear that much of the feminist Fer ment at institutions of higher learning a decade ago has Job opportunities Are now taken for rather than carry on the struggle for Many College women now Are grappling with other they should they shape their own lives so that they May have both a career and a family when is the Best time to marry when should they have their children those it is generally Are not ones that most men feel they must the women who were interviewed by the times were at Princeton University in the state University of new York at Stony Brook Barnard col lege in and Mary mount in they were Between the Ages of 18 and 22 and studying everything from politics and biology to engineering and Fine the majority had mothers who had stayed at Home while their children were Young but were working now that their families were unlike generations of women who preceded nearly All said that after graduation they expected to attend graduate school or work whether they planned to marry or the conflicts began Over the question of Many said they would like to offer their children what their mothers had offered to them at an Early still most recognized that their 20s and 30s the age their mothers had been when they were children were important years for career preparation and Given this Many said they would pursue graduate establish themselves in a career and then have children at the age of about its especially hard because you know the options Are said Dotty an Art history major at Stony Brook who wants to work in a museum and does not want to marry until she is at least but there Arent any i look around and everyone is doing something what if in unhappy with Rny career will i regret not changeling that same Energy into a relation ship i dont have role models to look said Christine senior majoring in economics at Princeton who expects to take advanced degrees in Law and Busi Ness and Start her own consulting company but will work part time until her children begin i look at a Large number of successful women Are unit not interested in being a its almost harder now because you do have a said Margie a politics major at Mary mount who wants to become a lawyer but also expects to take several years off to raise her you want to do the right you want to be but How do you know what makes you Happy Many challenged the notion of the superwoman and said they thought women who actually juggled a career with children were the not the while some said that they would entrust their Young sters to housekeepers or daycare Many said they found this option unacceptable because in their limited experience the children of working mothers were not so Well adjusted As those raised by mothers who stayed at Many did not Rule out the possibility that once they began they might change their today College women Are attending school and mov ing on into careers at a time when there Are More women in graduate schools and executive training programs than Ever because of affirmative action women often Are pressured to Advance sooner and perform better than their male counterparts so that they can climb quicker to positions of As they looked to their most of the women said they hoped that the men they eventually married would be More involved in childbearing than their fathers had Many also said they hoped their employers would Al Low them to take maternity leaves of As Long As seven years so they could rear their youngsters themselves and then return to their say at the age of but when told that most employers did not have such policies they replied that they would then be prepared to sacrifice their own i dont want some stranger to watch them take their first said Lizabeth a senior at Stony who has trained to become a mechanical but 1 also know i cant take off two years from my motherhood is important to said Debbie a freshman at a career is its not a pleasant Christine a senior at Barnard who is engaged to be married and does not believe it will be necessary to Compromise a career in social work to raise said she expected her future husband to conduct his Haw prac Tice at night so that he could share childcare duties along with the fact is that we want it said Karen a history major at Mary mount who wants to join the for eign service and Hopes to be Able to continue there part time when her children Are Many of those interviewed did not identify with the women indeed some said they resented what they characterized As pressures imposed by feminism to to to raise families without provid ing the answers to How All of this should be at the same they said they had become alienated from women centers on Campus because those concerns were not Ive had enough of the superwoman with their top executive jobs and seven said Nomi Silver a senior at i see no Way someone with a full time Job can take care of a in beginning to realize that marriage just said Lisa a senior at Princeton who said she was applying to Law schools Only in Large Urban centers so that she would be better Able to meet she said had been considering spending time in the Orient after graduation but that if the right person should come it would be More important for me to spend time with him than running around Japan for six in looking for said Kathryn who is an a student at Princeton and is applying to the nations top Law its scary to i want both things and wonder whether having this great career is going to mean sacrificing the new York times 3 Margie Slusher whats happiness Mary Anne Citrino priority for children Over Nomi Silverman raps Page 10 the stars and stripes january 1981