European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 16, 1981, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 the stars and stripes february Modem living by Andree Brooks new York times whenever Marie Claire a Young Mother with a 7monthold Cooks meat loaf for dinner these she makes sure she remembers to pack aft the chopped onions toward one end of the eight months ago she and her a medical moved Back from Florida to the new York City where he had taken a new because of the shortage of affordable they moved into Wrights childhood Home in where her brother and sister both in their 20s still it seemed the Only Way they could Ever save up enough Money for a Home of their so now i have to consider everyone tastes when i make the said Wright As she discussed not Only her creative solution to extended family cooking but also How the whole arrangement is working As More married couples find themselves similarly marking time in the parental nest while saving for their own the generations Are suddenly find ing themselves As interwoven in each others fives As they were during the years they lived As Parent and it is not couples and their parents in the new York City interviewed during the past few weeks about such expert talked with great the big they Point is that nobody quite knows what to expect Ana How to therefore All arc proceeding with great continually on the Alert about each other s idiosyncrasies and if Only to avoid outright although the need for caution would seem to engender an atmosphere of tension Between All the individuals involved say this is not necessarily such potential for trouble seems to have been mitigated by the fact anticipating the they find themselves unexpectedly enjoying some of the benefits historically inherent in extended family living Builtin babysitting that allows new parents far More personal Freedom a warmer sense of belonging and closeness at a time of widespread personal alienation a feeling of being especially among the older who report a sudden sense of an Opportunity to better enjoy grandchildren has been another we have a feeling for this baby we never had with our other said Ruth Lutzen of West the Mother of six grown her youngest and Ronald Jen moved in three years ago when they were the couple now have an 18monthold Lut Zens 13th we dont even have to move the baby when we go noted Connie who two years ago began living with her inlays in 4iwe just Call out to my Mother inlaw to we can even afford to go away on vacation there is nevertheless one serious drawback to the new extended family living arrangements one that is never minimized even by those people who say at wits end by Erma Bombeck aaa achoo what do you mean where did i get this cold it should be obvious to everyone where i got watching night after night 1 sat in front of the tube while one sickle after another peered out at me through red eyes cleared up Only by Runny nose dam med up Only by the Mircle of an fevered lips brought Down by an aspirin containing extra strength and irritating coughs dont want to talk about for i Felt pretty then one a tall blonde with a stuff Dup nose was trying to breathe through a and my husband they Are making a Success of the the concern is loss of and it is most acutely Felt by the younger for loss of privacy is manifested in a feeling of still being completely answerable to parental a couple in who did not want their names say they Are having severe problems with the wife father who insists upon staying up until they come Home when they Are out late at my dad just wont go to sleep till he hears the explained the this has forced the couple to stay Over at friends each time they know there going to be very according to them we never really grew the sat my husband is the one who likes his peace and qui said we had our lifestyle and they had theirs even though we Are ail trying her talks of the anguish that can result even from a simple slip such As forgetting the parental Rule about taking shoes off when coming into the then there is the continuing problem of finding time just to be alone the Jenningss say they have overcome this by trying to get out of the House for at least one hour each evening even if its Only to play said Many couples insist that the added Strain on a marriage is More than offset by Relief from other Domestic such As living House or leaving a Young spouse alone a great Deal of the time if you have to travel or work late and for some the Home sharing concept is a bit of a i was constantly biting my admitted Marie whose newly married and his have just moved to their own apartment after living with her in her the Young who moved from had been saving to buy a Home of their own and moving in with his Mother gave them time to get financially established before entering the rental or Homenu Wirig although Walter Foss and his wife have moved to their net Foss said he is grateful for his mothers it gave us a Chance to find something we could really afford and said and Kathy had a Chance to get to know her new i would not recommend it to but if both the husband and the wife and the parents feel very positively about the i do think it can new York to Law Joseph Kugielsky the Foss family of at breakfast Stephen his Marie and Charles their married and his Kathryn and another can you do that Why would i want to blow up a balloon with my nose i didst mean i just thought that for the last couple of Days youve sounded like your head is stopped at the next commercial a woman wrapped in a Blanket who looked like she was living Only for her residuals coughed and my cold capsule lasts for eight hours instead of i said it Doest your capsule is going to outlive you by two when i went to i Felt a Little but nothing the next i counted eight people on commercials who moaned and and still looked better than i i wanted to reach Over and turn them off or change the but i was afraid to get too close to any of i crouched on the other Side of the room and tried to figure out where they find All these sick Ive seen one actress on three different cold com its the biggest thing that has happened to her in her entire i never saw her on anything when she was imagine answering an and for a feverish actress with a stopped up nasal passage and shallow breathing and having to wait in an office of unemployed flu victims who Are applying for the same i feel Lousy As i sit in front of the set in my its like Tom Sawyer watching his own last night i was watching a commercial about a Man in bed who was coughing so hard he  his wife said shed get him a cough at that moment our screen went it was probably a Power but in Wor c Field enter Palm