European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 30, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                March 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers about two years ago my mothering Law developed Alz Heimers she is deteriorating rap the poor woman is unable to refuses to use the bathroom and cannot feed she walks around the House breaking everything in my father inlaw will not hire outside help to care for in forced intimidated is a better word into taking care of this poor woman on wednesdays and in addition to this schedule my father inlaw brings her to our House four or five nights a week till 1 because he likes to go we have two Small children 8 months and 3 years old and i am always i have no social life because i must stay at Home and care for my my husband is scared to death of his father so i get no support from whenever his Mother dirtiest or wets in our living room he i to live like this and leaves the i love my my Home and my husband but one Day i May walk out and never re i Hope you can give me some sound advice because i am cracking up in Brooklyn dear crack somebody your a close Friend or a relative must get your husband and his father to listen to reason before you collapse under the in my opinion you Are being subjected to cruel and inhuman please Contact the National Headquarters for alzheimer disease and related disorders 360 North Michi Gan or write for the free dementia Booklet from the National Institute of neurological and communicative disorders and National institutes of building room it will help you and your family to under stand the disease and Cope with the prob lems related to dear Ann Landers 1 am Reading the letter from the 15 j year old girl who fears getting a physical because she was molested when she was talk to your school Counselor or ask your family you can you imagine How difficult it would be for a shy person to follow that advice How does a teenage girl talk about events of the past that Are so painful and have made her feel ashamed and guilty that 15yearold has the perfect device to make an initial facet face approach without she need Only take along your thrust it atthe and this is the will then have All the information needed to ask the right questions and put the client at getting past that first moment can be the most difficult part of if you print this letter it might help a great Many people right you might also suggest this same approach to others who find it hard to Tell close friends or relatives what in the relationship is both ering feel for her in Salina dear Sal i have told Many hand this column or mail it to your daughter or Friend and confess its your i should suggest it More thanks for the reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but we will withhold your name on request and protect your writers Are encouraged to include phone number and Economy especially if they want a fast questions about exceptional family member policy Why Arent service members with dependents enrolled in the exceptional family member program told before they reenlist for an overseas duty assignment that the medical resources needed for the care of that dependent Are not adequate within the overseas command on due to a severe med ical my Fivey Earold daughter was enrolled in the exceptional family member on i reenlisted for an overseas assignment to prior to re enlisting i asked my Daugh ters doctor if he knew whether the medi Cal facilities in Europe were adequate to care for my daughter s unique As i was planning to take my family with he told me that he did not know but that he would attempt to find after Many attempts to Contact the Usa eur chief surgeon proved i went ahead and but not before receiving assurances from my career coun Selor that i would be Able to take my family to Germany with three months later i received word from the office of the Usa eur chief surgeon that medical in Germany was not adequate to provide care for my and that my assignment would be changed to an All others Why was this information withheld from me until after i reenlisted i realize that All service members must be available for worldwide i feel that i would have been Able to make a More realistic decision concerning my re enlistment if All the facts were available before i now i am forced to request a compassionate reassignment in order to help my wife in giving my daughter the care that she after 10 years of military i must make a decision on whether to continue my i am voting with my Malcolm Duncan Germany editors note James personnel movement 1st per he replies it is unfortunate that you were not advised before re enlisting about the Steps necessary to obtain approval of family travel overseas for soldiers with exception Al family members the exceptional family member pro Gram Emp identifies soldiers with efm during the assignment process and considers the needs of the family member prior to finalizing an assignment and fam ily these procedures include a re View by the Usa eur surgeon to deter mine availability and location of required while this process takes it is necessary to assure availability of care for the family if the Usa eur surgeon determines that the care required by the family member is not the application must be in such the Soldier May resubmit the re quest for family travel if the medical condition of the family member it is unclear whether you told the career Counselor that your daughter was enrolled in the if you the career coun Selor should have included this information in your application for re questing location of assignment possibilities based on your daughters medical re it appears you did not use All of the options available to because a person who reenlist for a specific and who later desires to waive that com May submit a request to that should you desire additional information on the exceptional family member program or assistance in reapplying for family travel if your daughters medical condition has please Contact the personnel movement 1st per com at 21367701 or Philip he 7th medical also replies the exceptional family member pro Gram efm is designed to identify the needs of Ems and determine where those needs can be once that determination is made Mil percen is notified and the Reader offers food for thought food for thought part 1 brain death the great crippler of military affecting an alarming number of army personnel in eur symptoms inability to speak intelligently on issues of National localized anxiety when talking about even the most Basic tenets of army doctrine total Lack of recall when discussing policies and regulations marked by a Dis Tinct inability to plan More than one Day a time loss of motor characterized by the inability to write effectively when expressing ideas that Are criticized and rejected or that fall upon deaf ears leaders who fail to see the need for smart soldiers and subordinate leaders fail to stress personal development of their subordinates fail to set aside time for constructive thought and interaction fail to provide an atmosphere that supports new ideas and innovation fail to Reward those who speak the truth set the due to their own advanced Case of this highly terminal treatment the remedy should be painfully obvious by now so Swallow the bit Ter Pill and location withheld pen pals we would like to have some friends from Bandola Marina Valencia a allude Nonan Norels Yamaha pm Recto Avenue caravan de Oro City Philippines we would like to have pen Hereza san Juan Elvlee Montelo mag Samal Philippines i am an algerian girl of years i want Penfriends from every country in the boys or i write in French or i love listening to Lionel Julio fare Kroub Rue Alt Khosla Bordell Kuffan Algeria i am an Algeria of 18 years i would like to correspond with people of any age from ajl Over the so that i May learn about their countries and practice my my hobbles Are and Stamps i can write in French and Seba Rue Villa 301 Bordiet Bah Alge Plage Algeria i would like to have pen pals from a Over the i am 28 years Piedra verde 185 Anda Davao Philippines 9501 i would like to correspond with people from All Over the i am 24 years Piedra verde 68 r Castillo Davao 9501 i am 15 years old and would like to have pen my Are and Campoy Tibulan Negros Philippines soldiers record is annotated to reflect the needs of the there Are Many Steps involved in this system and it often takes three to four months to Complete the it has been stated from the beginning of this new program that if a Soldier was on Levy or orders that enrolment could not affect a change in that but could affect future assignment it is a recognizable fact that we will not be Able to care for every conceivable condition in a location outside of the Continental United states and so some Ems will be denied entry to the de spite this the Soldier still remains worldwide information regarding the Emp can be obtained through the program coordinator at the army medical treatment facilities in the United states or through army Community As part of your Overall career planning they can help plan for the needs of your stomach stapling we recently ran a letter and answer about whether stomach stapling for Obes Ity is performed in military hospitals Over part of the answer was according to Philip Deputy Grassia said surgery for morbid obesity is a covered champs Benefit and available overseas if All the conditions Are the morbid obesity Benefit of champs is limited to the gastric by gastric stapling or Gastro pasty and certain conditions must be met before they Are he More information can be obtained from Cham Pusey Apo european edition Usa editor in chief Cdr us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell production manager Proctor managing editor Mcdermott circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services 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