European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 3, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann land ers april 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers my husband and i recently became friends with another Young couple in our we Are All in our during our last visit i asked Ruth what her father did for a she told me he was a i it must have been Nice ing up with your own personal physician on Call any hour of the Day or and never a thought about the size of the Ruth said her father always treated her and her two Sisters for their illnesses and even gave them gynaecological she saw the shocked look on my face and explained that it was perfectly Normal and no one in the family thought a thing about i was stunned when she we still go to dad for our yearly Pap smears and is this common practice among doctors it sounds like sexual abuse to surely ruths Mother Why does she allow it As a Mother of three daughters 1 would never permit this kind of thing if my Hus band were a i do not believe it is Normal please give me your Opin in Alabama dear amazed i checked with five physicians two on the East two on the West coast and one in they ail said it was not a Good idea for a doctor to treat members of the immediate As for a father giving gynaecological examinations to his every one of my consultants agreed that it was highly one said it was he sounds As if the Mother of these girls must have a few bats in her Belfry dear Ann Landers i have worked All of my adult life As a Secretary or office a few years ago my husband and i decided i should quit for a while and stay at Home with our two Grad school after 18 months i Felt As if my brains were turning to Bubble gum and decided to get Back in the work i applied to a Well known firm for Par time work As Secretary to a senior the executive hired me immediately and i was the hours were great and the salary was better than i a week after i my Boss called me into his office to Chat so we could get to know each other he told me he had hired me because he liked my i had not been Given any skill tests and assumed 1 got the Job because of my excellent i did not respond to my Bossy advances and continued to conduct myself in a professional three months later i was fired for i know 1 was foolish to stay on after his initial sexist remark but i took my chances and now i have it on my record that i was i am humiliated and some of my friends think i should sue him for sexual id like your in Long Island dear merely being told you were hired be cause the Boss liked your looks does not constitute sexual i dont think you have much of a Case but it would be Wise to discuss this matter with an actor reminder All tetters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not rend unsigned but we will withhold your name on request and protect your All letters Are subject to questions about pm privileges for retirees my parents recently visited my wife and me in my dad served in the army for 28 retiring in and my Mother was right beside him the entire his career in the army included two years in five years in two years in France and 15 months in his decision to stay army for so Long is a contributing Factor to my making the army a career and i have been in now for Over 10 with 38 collective years of army experience Between imagine our Surprise when my Mother was denied entry one Day to the Heidelberg commissary and the Hei Delberg Exchange for not having a visitors i know what a visitors pass i got one for my wife parents last they Are relatively easy to if you Over look the but i never even considered getting a pass for my who both had military id cards which they assumed As did i would admit them to military in the id card does work in the United i can Only assume that the reason they were denied entry in usar eur is because cafes feels that they could not handle the massive influx of Reti Rees coming to Europe to shop in the sex the Point to be made Here is that there is no readily apparent reason Why retirees should not be allowed in Exchange if the need if there is a regulation which denies entry to retired combat veterans and their dependents when they visit perhaps it should be publicized so that other Active duty person Nel wont be embarrassed when their parents Are denied entry into did 1 mention that this All occurred two Days before Christmas on my parents 34th wedding anniversary and that 1 found my Mother in the parking lot by my car crying after she had been denied rather to the audiovisual Center where she hoped to buy my father a Christmas present withheld Germany editors note we received two replies to this the first is from master Bruce customer relations Public affairs he Safe Europe let me assure you cafes shares your concern Over the plight of the retired Mili tary and their family members wishing to use Exchange facilities in at the same its important to note cafes Doest make these but were certainly required to abide by the various status of forces agreements sofa with our Host coun tries in Europe establish who authorized Access to Exchange As outlined in Usa eur regulation retired military must reside in Germany More than 30 Days and obtain a valid customs certificate before entering die Exchange to Purchase no rationed the decision to Issue this certificate rests with the local Community customs the responsibility to pay the value added tax to the German govern ment for such purchases rests with the for relatives visiting them in military members stationed in Germany May obtain a visitors pass from their local Community commander or my Cus Toms this authorizes the sponsor to escort visitors to the but the visitor cant make although such restrictions Are Regretta ble for those whole made the military open letter to Drunken Drivers boy i had a Good time at that with that Good music and Why is that car coming toward me Why is he in my Lane of my god noon you probably wont know in but in the one who will along with to save your life when you come to the Hospital by in an emergency room youve been in an Accident As a result of your you Are now in the Emer gency room with myself and the other peo ple i mentioned and we Are trying desperately to save your but its we Drew a medical Bat blood alcohol test and you Are two and a half times Over the Legal and this is not helping you were the one in the wrong the Driver of the other along with his wife and 1yearold daughter were pronounced dead at the it want in we cant help them but we Are concerned with you right you have be internal and external including a fracture of one of your cervical which has severed your spinal you will no longer have feeling or be Able to move below this Point if you you have stopped breathing once on us because of so in breathing for you now with an Amu you have tubes coming out of both of your trying to Supply your body with blood and weve notified your wife and Shes sitting outside our trauma Shes crying really hard weve tried our very using the equipment we have but theres nothing More we can the doctor is Tell ing her that you have you might have had a better Chance if you had been Wear ing your seat Ive seen accidents like yours some not As bad and some if you can imagine and ill probably see More be cause of my profession and the stupidity of people like you until you learn that drinking and As they say in really do not and that the wearing of seat belts can if not totally personal in wearing them this night might have saved your but its too late to think of that maybe the people who read this will learn from please dont drive if youve been drink make other arrangements to get and always when driving Wear a seat Belt and maybe i wont see you in this emergency Domenichella Germany Horning in on writers snooze time i would appreciate your assistance in get Ting the word out to the Public concerning the use of automobile horns in residential Kaiserslautern military Community regulation titled personnel noise addresses noise restrictions be tween the hours of 10 and 7 i have been awakened As Early As 3 on and on an average of three times a week prior to 6 because horns Are blown to inform residents of the building that their ride has 1 have spoken to some individuals when 1 have had time to get up and make Contact with or get the tag number and Call the but still cant reach i believe we need to re educate everyone on the local Laws and regulations which Are in not everyone works the same or sleeps the same so a Little common sense and common Courtesy Are in in sure this problem exists and not just in the Kaiserslautern military thank you for your assistance in getting the information withheld Kaiserslautern their a Gruff response from a store employee tasked with enforcing these rules simply wont be we take such accusations action has been taken at the Heidelberg audiovisual Center and the words out to All our stores to make sure our employees fully understand what these restrictions and Are sensitive to those who May not be familiar with this Mark personnel serv ices he also replies As a result of the nato sofa and the supplementary retired military personnel Are not considered to be members of the Howe special administrative arrangements made with the German government allow retirees limited Access to retirees must be visiting or residing in Germany for More than 30 Days to be authorized Access and purchasing rights less rationed items in cafes and class i they must also Register with the nearest office of the 42nd military police group customs and with the local German customs authorities to obtain a German customs All purchases Are subject to a monthly payment of a 15 percent tax rate subject to change levied by German the Purchase of rationed items hard tobacco products and Petroleum is not in countries other than Reti Rees should inquire directly with the local overseas commander in the country that is to be it is unfortunate that the writers father and Mother had to endure such an embarrassing the above in formation explains what can be done to prevent the same event from happening to someone the european edition Usa editor in chief Cdr us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell production manager Proctor managing editor Mcdermott circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the department of or the stars and stripes of the products or services everything advertised in this publication shall be made available for or patronage without regard to National marital physical political affiliation or any other non Merit Factor of the or military address the stars and Apo International mail the stars and Postrach 11 10 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