European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 6, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                By Daniel 3oleman new York times everyone wants to make a Good in but for some people it is almost a Way of such social who in every situation strive to make the Best impression they do so at a psychological new research those who always try to be the right person in the right place at the right according to Mark a social psychologist at the University of become extraordinarily attuned to the ways others react to they continually Monitor their social skilfully adjusting it when they detect that they Are not having the desired he cites As the psychological Credo of such people a remark by who said that his private image of himself is very different from the image which i try to create in the minds of others in order that they May love the degree to which a person subscribes to this research seems to have a profound influence not Only on his social successes and but also on the Quality of his intimate for those who Are most adept at making a Good tend to have less stable and satisfying intimate suffer ing in both the Quality of their friendships and the stability of their romantic on the other those who tend toward the other those who do not Bend at All to fit have problems of their the research while their sense of self is far stronger than the person skilled at making they can suffer from the social costs of their Many people have different orientations in Var ious parts of their Snyder said in an for at work someone May go All out to impress while at Home or with friends he is More about 60 percent of people tend to be less devoted to impression As measured by a scale Snyder has while the other 40 percent Are More concerned about making an in most he tend toward the Middle their style depending on the social context of a particular people on the sex he Are those who adopt one or another orientation in All the social chameleons thrive on according to William a psychologist at the University of they dont mind in the least saying one thing and doing but those at the other pole cant stand such a who has done the major research on the said one of the great themes of literature is the relationship Between How people present them selves on the surface and what lurks As a i became interested in the question of where personality resides is it in the Persona the Public face or the private reality As 1 started to do research on the i came to see that for some the Public and private person meshes while for others there seem to be Only a Kaleidoscope of changing social for whom Snyder uses the rather i felicitous High Dis play these key traits they pay careful attention to social scrutinizing others with keenness so As to know what is expected of them before making a in order to get along and to be they try to be As others expect them to for they try to make people they dislike think they Are Friendly with v they use their social abilities to Mold their appearance As disparate situations so As some put with different people i act like a very different those Low on the self Monitor would be unlikely to espouse ideas they do not while those High in self monitoring would do so if it were certain by their very seem to draw people who Are adept at impression manage professional As Well As Many of the More Are among the Best at Snyder so too Are Many successful diplomats and such people can swing with ease from bubbly sociability to reserved or even from conformity to As the situation Snyder and while these same abilities make them skilled at they Are just As Likely to apply them in smoothing social by those Low in self monitoring subscribe to the to thine own self be they feel it is More important to act in Accord with ones no matter the social although one might expect social chameleons to get along Well with just about they seem to have trouble when they Are in the company of those who Are at the opposite in one Wil Liam a psychologist at the University of paired people who scored very High and very Low on the scale that measures when people who both scored High or both scored Low were they got along quite but not mixed the conversations just petered Ickes the lows Are like John fairly taciturn and just the same no matter where they the highs Are like Woody Allens madly trying to fit in with whomever they Are but the lows dont give the highs enough cues to know How they should try to the differences Between the types Are perhaps most striking in their personal the social for Are much less will ing to commit themselves to a romantic Are More willing to end one Romance to Start another and Are slow to become emotional intimates of those they on the other those Low in the trait Are More Loyal being far More willing to be come slower to shift to a new partner and ready to share the growth of intimacy with their the fantasy life of each Type reflects the same social compared with their More frequently fantasize about having sexual relations with someone other than their steady even having those fantasies while engaging in sex with their in Snyder we might expect Low self monitoring individuals to display greater commitment and stronger attachment their marital the two types differ greatly in the nature of their the Low self monitoring As might be tends to be extremely both in time and in a few close social on the other pre Fer to have a wide Range of friends and to have different friends for different they set up so its hard for their friends to get to know them Snyder the social to have a heterogeneous social they play Tennis with one person and go antiquing with he they also tend to pick friends who Are highly skilled in that area their Tennis partner will be their antiquing partner an but those Low in self monitoring play Tennis with the same person with whom they go perhaps social Chanel sons have been found by Snyder to be More responsive to advertising that appeals to ones while those Low in the trait respond More readily to claims of a products the tendency for people to Type has been found in children As 7 years one of the key signs of self monitoring is the tendency to try to find out what others think about something before making Prejs own in a study done by at the University of third graders were asked their Opin ions on a wide Range of topics such As whether or Star wars was the better before answering they were Given the Chance to see How other children had responded to the same some presumably those who will grow up to be social pored Over the data before they would give their own As far Back As 1934 Helene a psycho described Whit she called the Asif per a person wh6 shifted roles in life like an the Asif she had a highly plastic readiness to pick up signals from the outer world and Mold himself Deutsch saw such people As suffering from a fragile sense of constantly seeking to Shore themselves up by winning the approval of others at All the More current View is less according to Frank a psychoanalyst at postgraduate Center for mental the Asif personality is the extreme of a necessary human the ability to have to put oneself in another while Snyders research does not focus on people who Are at either extreme of the pattern he de he does acknowledge that both when can indicate the consensus among those who have done research on the topic seems to be that people Are better off not being extreme in either those who Are at the extreme in self monitoring Are con artists who will say and do whatever gets them what they want at the to Snyder on the other hand those who Are extremely Low in self monitoring like oses utterly stubborn in their adherence to the sense of being right no matter if a situation Doest mesh with that they Are totally unwilling to change to fit they act As they feel they no matter what others make of Snyder does not believe that being a social Cha Meleon or one of their opposites need make one More susceptible to psychological the less he believes it can Lead to specific types of when those High in self monitoring get he has it is More Likely to have been triggered by failing at a social perform such As trying out for a team or play and not making these Low in the become depressed when they feel they have violated their deepest such As being found a hypo 10 stars and strikes april 1fpf