European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 13, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                April 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers after More than 30 years of what 1 believed to be a Good i found out my husband has been unfaithful for Many some Short term one ext along this was a terrible How could i have failed to see ail those telltale signs maybe it was because i loved him so much and trusted him he admitted said he was that he had been foolish didst know Why he did it and our marriage was the most important thing in his he promised to break All ties with the woman and never see her after sleepless nights and buckets of i decided to forgive but his infidelity has changed me from a Loving wife and Mother to a suspicious i feel As if he has made a fool of and wonder How Many people Are snickering behind my can a person really forget and Start Over please Tell me depressed in Altoona dear d you must forgive and forget for your not let the past Bury its dead and look ahead to a new and better its there if you want i realize this is easier said than you will need a lot of counselling to get the rage out but it will be Well Worth the time and the alternative is ultimate dear Ann Landers i am so angry right in i just had another major argument with my parents on the same old topic two years a neighbor the Man smoked six packs of cigarettes a he used to Stop his coughing fits by lighting up another spent the last eight months of his life with an oxygen he died of emphysema at the age of my Mother loses sleep Many nights be cause she cant there Are times when she keeps the whole family awake with her mom smokes about 4vz packs a dad has a circulation problem that has forced him to be on disability for the past three the doctors have pleaded with him to quit but he still goes through four packs a not a Day goes by that i dont beg my parents to give their lungs a i Hope you will print my maybe if they see it in print they will understand what they Are doing to the people who love them the cant breathe in Connecticut dear Conn Here it is and i Hope it will but dont bet the there Are millions of smokers who would love to but its awfully Tough because they Are but the addicted can quit if they Are willing to suffer the agony of How ironical that the agony of lung cancer or emphysema is so much every lung cancer victim would gladly turn the clock Back and quit if he had the but for him its too letters Reader talks about some problems with sure pay pen pals i am 27 years i would like to have my name included in the pen pal Section of your my hobbles Are Reading writing to pen playing table tenpin and i Lapa Sanda Macalam Leyte Philippines i am 19 Yean Ftp and would like to have pen i pm taking Palms tag Bularan City Philippines i would like to write anyone who Doest receive any Wolf 909 10th 31701 i am 32 years old and would like to have pen Catalina Cordero Adelfo Polo Molok South Philippines sure pay sure pay less recently when i received my Bank i discover that my sure which has been happily going to my account at american express for several had a frantic phone Call revealed that not Only was that Check but the pay Check that was supposed to arrive today was not there panic thanks to the efforts of the Amelco Branch manager at the missing checks were found to be going to my Sav Ings account in the United reason a payroll clerk incorrectly coded the com Puter to have my whole paycheck go where my savings allotment was when an employee or service member has successfully had sure pay put into an account for a Long period of it would seem they could safely assume that it would this does not seem to be the at least in luckily my balance was High enough so no checks bounced before the error was Dis and the people at Usa eur Are going to write a letter to the Bank telling that the error was not considering the damage that a bad Check reputation can do to a i do not think a letter after the fact is a Good several months ago i suggested that civilian less be annotated with some sort of code telling where sure pay deposits were i was told this was impossible due to computer it didst take much computer space to make this had this system been in use i would have found out my Check was missing immedi not two pay checks i think that if sure pay is going to be a sure thing that the payroll sections should get their acts together to ensure that these things do not happen again and unfortunately they happen All too the suggestion from the personnel at the finance and accounting office was that they could write a letter telling my credit Union to return the or i could draw on it since i have been writing checks on an account i thought i was Good for two pay checks neither was a Good so be sides the stress and this situation is also costing me a Telephone Call to the states to get the Money transferred into my somewhat dormant stateside checking account so that i can Transfer the Money into my account thank you Garringer and get your act Demers Germany editors note we received two replies to this the first is from Martha consumer american express military banking facilities let me thank you for recognizing the efforts of our Branch manager in i consider our Many employees like Garringer As one of american express most positive i can understand your irritation at hav ing a longstanding sure pay relationship go your concern is certainly valid especially when your financial reputation is at while american express has no control Over How the finance office handles your pay i would like to emphasize the Many positive benefits of sure pay that outweigh the occasional of the mos important Point is that your pay is always available for your family regardless of your duty status leave or temporary in addition your salary is deposited directly into your account in Short no More waiting in Long payday there is no monthly service charge on your american express checking account As is the Case with Many stateside Reader decries linguistic ghetto Newsweek Magazine in its special report English everywhere 1983 devoted a prestigious Page to the Tongue tied americans Page the findings May sound but Are nevertheless take the Pun of How an american lady stopped in a hotel bar for a drink in West Germany i want a Martini dry and the waiter brought her three Drei in German Means the report continues americans have a reputation for being global illiterates Only one in 10 can speak another some other interesting observations i May quote americans linguistic xenophobia can cause embarrassing when president Carter went to Poland in his american interpreter translated his greetings As desiring the polish people but most foreign it scorn those americans who make no Effort to learn the local and you can be sure that the germans Are no exception to this the american practice of Liv ing in self imposed ghettos where Only English is spoken is particularly irk we Call them the Lazy says a mexican Auto the report unfolds some unbelievable statistics the american predilection for English is hardly discouraged in the country few schools teach languages to students under when they can Best learn another but that is no bar to getting into the nations colleges Only 8 percent have a foreign Lan Guage but which american service member in West Germany will believe this one but americans who want to learn a foreign Lan Guage cannot count on study help from the the army education centers in Germany go begging for students for German any education adviser will Tell How often a class had to be cancelled for Lack of linguistic xenophobia or linguistic Ghet to dwellers or just Lazy americans Magno Pereira Frankfurt opinion on the subway vigilante your recent editorial representation of two sides of the vigilante Issue does not accurately represent two opposing sides As is inferred from its i agree with the author of the letter that condemns Bernhard Goetz for his putative act of self cannot under stand How anyone can support the so called subway i did in contrast to the previous support him in the regardless of the prominent debate concerning individual fights government this dispute actually arises from the inconsistencies in the established moral values of american we must first recognize and define our personal regard for the value of human can there possibly exist one justifiable argument in support of anyone insidiously attempting to murder four teenagers Bernhard Goetz should not be impugned for his obvious Lack of remorse or because of his self exploitation sustained by the he simply should never have been accorded the luxury of his current Irvine Germany reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but will withhold your name on request and protect your and your paycheck is protected against theft and i Hope your problem has since been satisfactorily resolved and that you Are once again enjoying the benefits of sure i appreciate your letter and the Opportunity to reemphasize to our other clients some salient Points concerning a Vareur spokesman also replies the civilian payroll office regrets the error in processing your pay a great Deal of Effort is made to prevent these but obviously they do a letter written to a Bank explaining the circumstances has proven effective in eliminating returned Check charges and avoiding Adverse action against an employ this is the reason a letter to the Bank was the Lack of printing a Check or allot ment address on the earnings and leave statement when a change is made has previously been recognized As a deficiency of the current the department of army has agreed to include this function in the redesign of the civilian payroll sys tem currently in the redesigned system is scheduled to be fielded in fiscal year for general sure pay is a term that applies Only to military it provides for guaranteed direct Deposit is the term used to describe the method of payment for those civilian employees who have Money going direct to a financial there can be no guaranteed Deposit As with sure As the disbursement of funds for civilian employees is contingent upon receipt of a properly completed time and attendance the european edition Usa editor in chief Cdr us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell production manager Proctor managing editor Mcdermott circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the department of or the stars and stripes of the products or services everything advertised in this publication shall be made available for or patronage without regard to National marital physical political affiliation or any 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