European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 11, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 modern living less equal under the Law Lee Mitgang associated press in the eyes of the single people Are often less equal than married lifestyles other than marriage Are an increasing fact of american census data show that the number of on Parent households increased by 175 percent from 1960 to one person households by 173 and households of unmarried couples by 331 in that same the number of households consisting of married couples with children grew by just 4 homosexual heterosexual couples living out of divorced people and unattached singles continue to face Legal obstacles and discrimination in the Job in finding a place to in adopting Chil getting Loans or in pursuing their chosen a jus published 109page handbook by the american civil liberties the rights of single people Bantam details what rights unmarried people and How the Law has been scram bling to catch up with the changing realities of Ameri can because people Are selecting alternative ways of living these questions have begun to occupy courts and state that is the reason for this said Mitchell chairman of the aclus Equality com Mittee and a coauthor of the new the other All civil liberties Are Ellen Stefan Presser and Marianne Here Are some of the issues addressed by the Book q is cohabitation unmarried people living together against the Law a in 13 states new mexi North South Virginia and West Vir the Laws Are rarely q can a landlord refuse to rent to a single person because he or she is single or divorced a in about half the q can an employer advertising for Job applicants specify a preference for married or single people a it varies from state to the Federal equal employment opportunities passed in Doest prevent discrimination based on marital but Many states have outlawed such q can an employer fire refuse to hire or otherwise discriminate against you because you Are Liv ing with someone you Are not married to a singles have no Protection but there might be a Case if one can prove an employer is seeking to regulate the private lives of single women and not single q can a private employer discriminate against an unwed Parent a this is one area the equal employment opportunities act gives nationwide q can unmarried cohabitants own property jointly a if one owner the property passes to the other and does not pass through the deceased Crown or s q what happens to property owned by cohabitants if they break up a unless the couple has a written agreement to the property goes to whoever has Legal title to q can a Bank or other Lender refuse to extend credit or a mortgage to someone because he or she is single or is cohabiting with someone a Federal Law prohibits such q Are there government benefits available to married people but denied to cohabiting single people a cohabiting single people Arent entitled to or disability benefits under social be and a woman who has a child by a Man she cohabited with cant collect surviving mothers q can a single person adopt a child a but it might be courts have frequently expressed the opinion that single person adoptions Are a second Choice to placement with a married q can unmarried couples adopt a no state expressly forbids but courts tend to take the same lukewarm attitude toward such adoptions As they do with single person q what about homosexuals a Only Florida bans adoptions by but As a practical courts Are Likely to be at least As restrictive in homosexual adoptions As they would be with adoptions by single doctors turn to marketing p by John freed new York times physician Andy Morley sends a quarterly newsletter to each of his patients that offers information on treating the handling High blood pressure and generally staying out of my he says it helps his in the Atlanta suburb of to hold Down the Cost of health care and helps his business at the same Sam Musallam keeps his Oklahoma City office open until 9 on tuesdays and he so the mothers dont miss work and the kids dont miss his waiting room is comfortably like a living he adding people Are you just have to facing what is increasingly described As a glut of physicians in the United doctors Are marketing their serv ices As never in the most noticeable aspect of this some have even brought their offices to their opening clinics in suburban shopping these virtually unheard of 10 years Are Only a few years ago the medical profession considered marketing the american medical associations canons barred most and Many practices that Are now considered a convenience for like the use of credit were frowned but in 1975 the Federal Trade commission ruled that the associations rules against advertising were too a decision that was ultimately upheld by the Federal today More and More doctors Are advertising their services and using other ways to get and keep these tactics Are even being taught in Many medical there Are physicians in this said Ste phen president of the american marketing association and a professor of marketing at Arizona state a majority Are viewing marketing As of grow ing and some View it As a about four or five years it was very said who was an adviser to the american Academy of family physicians for two a few groups even asked if i could keep the word marketing out of my it used to be equated with use car Brown there has always been marketing of it used to be called bedside or a pleasant office he All Are Allan director of the residency pro Gram that trains family physicians at marys Hospital in says the changes in the Way doctors Market their services Are a response to patients we can no longer have the chauvinistic and paternalistic doctor that was common until a decade Bruckheim its not Good enough to you have this ill cure you or ill Cut it today patients ask questions about their Bruckheim and doctors who want to cultivate their practices will answer he added that techniques of developing a practice Are now a Standard part of the medical curriculum and Are taught in programs offered by professional groups like the Ama and the american Academy of family marketing is not a dirty Bruckheim in Oklahoma Musallam said the attention he now pays to his patients has helped expand his 7yearold prac i get a whole lot fewer requests to Send my patients charts to someone he scheduling two or three patients for the same time a once common is becoming increasingly Morley this int an you cant just he sex of on an if you get they give you free Why not give the patient a free ses Sion if he has to wait More an hour or so he said he would not advocate such a policy in every lest a physician return from an emergency Call to face a waiting room full of patients demanding free but on occasion such a gesture becomes a pretty Good marketing said with is writing a Book on marketing for Erma Bombeck youve met the ones today on the Greet ing cards surrounded by roses whose very name rhymes with no the perfect ones with the saintly smiles and the gentleness of a water but in who is she Shes an Enigma who is faster than a speeding More powerful than a Gold american express and Able to leap three cars at the driven to order you Home before is she really life set to poetry my Mother was Genghis Khan in when she lived with us the world stopped while she Mother drives me in 60 years old and she still pours me half a Glass of milk and tells me not to spill you wanta talk guilt i even apologized for having emergency surgery on her Shes an awesome Force who has a hold on you that no one can even if you never saw she is also a bundle of answer me right and dont talk with food in your i know you love but dump i want you to be you have got to Start standing on your own two feet and being responsible for you can live at Home while youre doing she has a scary Quality for knowing what you do when she Doest see what you said when she Doest hear and what you mean when you dont say you spend a lifetime trying to please her and become what she wants you to just when you think youve pulled it she pulls in the nearly choking you to you cant seem to sort out the emotions you feel for her frus a Mother has another mysterious Quality that defies although your father is often louder and pays the she is the glue that holds the family your Brothers birthday is next be there see you at aunt Kates you dont have to know what she looks ill Point her out to get rid of this stupid answering machine or youre out of the whether she is a Good Mother or a difficult know that when she nothing will be the same without the family no on can take the place of the eyes that have seen it the hands that reached out and the very presence that brought you fort and stability just by being the greeting card mothers Are but they dont even begin to capture that Complex woman who touches our lives in such a Way that when she goes the pain is c los Angeles times Syndicate