European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 14, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers letters dear Ann Landers As a female who has gone through 1 have always Felt that breaking up was a lot harder on women than regardless of who initiated the but i had never seen any studies on this subject until yester the research was done by a Wellesley College Robin she reported her findings at a meeting of the american psychological the based on 171 men and 173 revealed that women suffer More loneliness and anger after the they also tend to eat too much or too suffer headaches and it was Learned that 49 percent of the women who terminated relationships suffered physical ills compared with 26 percent of males who broke up the among those who got 88 per cent of the rejected women and 76 percent of the discarded men became ill with some ailment or the study showed that women like to spend More time talking about the they Are also More eager to remain on Friendly this according to that women want to keep the relationship alive if Only the memory while men prefer to forget it and move what do you think of this Ann in dear it sounds reasonable to i would Point that there May be a great Many exceptions on both dear Ann Landers this letter is in response to the woman in Shamokin who complained about Doc tors who have no she was very upset because the physician who took care of her close relative didst at tend her i believe it is totally unrealistic to expect a doctor to attend the funerals of his if every doctor did there would not be enough doctors on duty to take care of the i dont wish to seem but i believe physicians Are obligated to give their patients the Best possible and to expect anything beyond that is my father was a no one will Ever convince me that he never be came emotionally involved with his a i remember the evening he came Home with red rimmed didst want any supper and asked Mother to cancel their theater he had just lost a Beautiful Blu eyed patient to she was Only 10 years my father was heartsick and it to sure you will receive hundreds of letters in defense of i Hope you will print daughter who dear Louisville despite the fact that doctors bashing is in Vogue these i did receive a Large number of letters defending heres your letter and my thanks for dear readers i keep promising no More arguments in this space about but this poem from was irresistible the left ear is the right the right ear is the wrong both ears and its a truck safety expert differ on Seatbelt Issue this is about the Seatbelt i am a truck Driver by i spend Many hours on the Ive seen Many types of accidents and Ive seen some of the get emotional Over the seat Belt three years ago i was driving my mid sized american car in the i got Broad sided by a pickup the truck was going so Mph upon needless to my car was i didst even get a Why i want wearing my 2inch had i been secured firmly into place by my seat i would have been held in my seat As the truck rushed into the Center of my the entire left Side of my body would have been shattered by the truck and the Force of the i was knocked into the passenger seat seat belts Are Good for certain types of the Seatbelt tests have proved that in a Headon people Are safer wearing a seat but i Haven seen them doing any testing on the results of wearing a seat Belt in a broadside or a situation where a car slides under a a vehicle or when a vehicle submerges in will people in those situations have enough time to release their seat belts so they can stay alive 1 know 1  have had enough it comes Down to Freedom of does the government have the right to say buckle up and live but does the government have the right to say buckle up and be crippled the rest of your life or worse yet buckle up and die i think it should be an individual the answer int in making people Wear their seat the answer is in the stronger enforcement of Speed stricter penalties for taking away driving privileges from repeated traffic violators excessive Speed reckless drive the military rules for driving Are Good and the penalties for it makes one think before they if the As a whole could Start enforcing the prac Tice of Safe and defensive driving then the Seatbelt Issue  be an reach out and help someone7 i am very familiar and impressed the military family support i was also impressed with your recent Spe Cial Section on military family support centers Are limited by the fact that caring professionals can Only do so much for Large numbers of they have the same 24hour Day restraints As everyone else in the people have to care about other sponsorship programs Are Only As effective As the sponsors cultural Shock and adaptation to new Job situations Are difficult enough under the Best of Cir too Many people seem to no one did anything for my sponsor was Why should i do anything for anyone else if you had a bad experience at a new make sure that no one else has the same if every family Mili embassy and private business cared about just one other really during each family support Center personnel would have More time to solve the really big problems every family experiences at least once during a help Doest have to be expensive or Dif bake a cake and invite another family Over for Coffee and keep some ones children while she House Hunts or goes to the fix a simple meal for some one who is get together for a picnic indoor or outdoor with other wives while your husbands Are on visit a lonely newcomer or show a new family where you like to go sightseeing with a Trade children for an afternoon or Volunteer your time at a Day care Center or reach out and care youll be absolutely amazed at what doing something Nice for someone else will do for Kneebone Norway dieting writer recommends tops recently a letter appeared by a Young woman seeking stomach last year i was 70 pounds overweight this year Only 25 pounds what has to me is a terrific organization called off pounds tops is group therapy and support at its it is a medically oriented organization that promotes no particular diet except sen sible eating and any diet your doctor rec there is sharing and caring and privacy no shame and plenty of weight loss in our All you need is a desire to lose and the ability to watch and learn from fellow i am not on a strict diet and not depriving myself and not exercising any More than i Ever did i am eating sensibly and thinking about everything i and have lost 45 pounds Over this past i could never have done that there Are tops chapters All Over eur tops is an International group head quartered in a nonprofit group which supports obesity anyone interested in tops May write me at Box Apo Ramstein Germany on the question of Vietnam the week of april 29 through May 3 marked the anniversary of the decade since the ending of the Vietnam it is ironic that this time signifies the end of a death Ridden Contention for an indirect it represents the essence of newness and beginnings of my Hus Darrell Nevels presently serves in the army safeguarding our Allied inter est in my father is not to share in any of my the Marine corps lost Many Fine men but Lance William killed in Vietnam on was the vital link that brought the conflict into our on his second valiantly he gave his leaving my 3 years and my getting having my first child and my first Job after graduating from High school and attending College Are All some major accomplishments that came during this period but because of the involvement of the in i cannot relay these Joys nor any of the others that have occurred Over the medals and ribbons do not the week of special segments and retrospective television reports induced me to in quire of the Era what was the cause Why did it happen Why did it end the Way it did who was to blame Why though my Stepfather was there Over the i still desire More knowledge of the i Hope sincerely that the in its Federal relations maintains All dealings with the world so As to prevent another manmade calamity such As Vietnam to youths should not have to Deal with such matters As this need Lessly in the Connie Nevels Germany 4 Margaret Torres Germany editors note Ernie safety he usage Lar replies to set the record years of extensive testing have proved hat the use of seat belts prevents or lessens injury to vehicle occupants in All types of including the collisions mentioned in your misconceptions concerning he situations you described Are common and can be clarified by a simple understanding of the following facts thousands of lives Are lost each year because people Are thrown against wind Shields or out of car doors by the Impact of your chances of being killed in an Acci Dent Are five times greater if you Are thrown from the about i of 1 percent of All injury pro during accidents involve fire or submersion to any scat belts also greatly improve your chances of surviving such an a seat Belt can be unfastened in an instant with one your seat Belt can increase your chances of remaining so you can get Clear of a sub burning or damaged car after you survive the if your car is struck so that it swerves toward another car or your seat Belt will keep you behind the wheel where you will be Able to steer out of further even with increased enforcement As rec an Accident can happen at any time and in any and you will not have the Opportunity to decide whether or not to buckle the next time you slip behind the wheel of your think about these buckle the european edition Usa editor in chief us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell production manager Proctor managing editor Mcdermott circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the 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