European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 5, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Arm Landers june 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers when climbing the Ivy Walls in said she would opt for the 200hit Man and leave the Yale men for those who relish Shelley and you i have no first hand or even secondhand knowl Edge about the sex Ual prowess of but on my Many visits to that Cam pus As a the men appeared to be unusually they did not look Celi Bate to very but what does a celibate look like Chaste and curious in dear Chaste and curious you got that was a dumb thing to pass the Humble ill eat the whole dear Ann Landers you May be right that splitting the Check on a Date is at least 15 years but As a 55yearold widow dating in Middle i find men in their 40s generally uneasy and men Over 50 con fused and upset when faced with this Situ Check splitting May be a for example a 63yearold is embarrassed if i offer to age 48 and Liberal about most is All for sharing costs if the woman is just a but when he is romantically inclined he feels age and i had something special going i diplomatically 1 thought began Sug Gesting he agreed now we Are platonic All three men Are interesting and 1 enjoy their the modern woman is not news to but i now believe the one who pays is definitely the one who is in some men cannot tolerate los ing or sharing How can we Middle aged women help our men to try new ways to get comfortable with sharing costs it would be so much More natural and Caster on us i Hope others will Tell How they handle this and Middle aged in Kalamazoo dear Kal i believe most Middle aged men expect to pick up the Tab unless it has been decided in Advance that they split the woman who wants to treat or share the Check can make the if there is resistance it would be Wise to pull Back and graciously thank him for hosting the dear Ann Landers the letter from wet appeared on the eve of my elective sur Gery for a bladder my surgeon and i were discussing your answer As we waited for the Anaesthesiologist to begin the we were pleased with your recommendation to return to her but not with your suggestion that she try various or join a self help the groups and devices May be a Comfort for paraplegics or other neurologically dam aged people with no other x is not in that category and can surely be helped by one of several surgical pro run or walk to your nearest urologist or Gyne and you can soon sign like in Denver dear Denver write to me in four months and Tell me How dry you Many women wrote to say they were helped by surgery but an equal number said the surgery helped not at All or made them that Why i did not recommend c news America Syndicate Reader has idea to save Money and increase pay just about every time i pick up the stars and stripes there is one article or another on cutting the military budget which eventually would affect our 1 do not claim to know All the but it seems to me that they should Cut All the nonessential civilian who make considerably More than the average there Are jobs that could and should be done by military personnel such As we Are far behind the Cost of living if in not about 18 percent be if service members would go Back to pulling the jobs the civilians have the government would save enough to give the service member the 18 percent we need to be equivalent to the Cost of living and still save a i do agree that there Are certain jobs that need to be done by such As hous ing and transportation someone who has and will continue to be in that particular the military spends All this Money to train the then turns around and trains a civilian to do the same for those positions in which civilians Are they should place retirees who have been trained and have experience for such i know there Are far too Many local nationals who do the same Job soldiers do and get More Etc in no Way do i wish to offend the civil or the jobs they do for the gov they Are doing a Fine Job but Tak ing Money from service members who Are preparing to fight for their Why Are we paying part of our own pay Check with Federal tax that would be about half of that 18 percent we need to catch up with the Cost of i also think the military is not doing enough to Cut out like Ham 4 sidders Germany editors note a spokesman from the civilian personnel office of the Deputy chief of he replies we Welcome the Opportunity to com ment on Why the mix of military and civil Ian members in the department of defense is the Way it is and Why both groups pay policy for position military versus in the army Man Power management program is based on congressional statute that the department of defense shall use the least costly form of manpower that is consistent with Mili tary requirements and other needs of the in carrying out this the Dod instructs that civilian personnel will be used in positions which do not require Mili tary incumbents for reasons of train military background for successful performance of the duties involved and which do not entail unusual hours not nor Mally associated or compatible with civil Ian for these civil ians Are integral and important members of the army driving safety on military bases a recent writer wrote quite a piece on safety and driving on installations to pre vent some it really hit Home be cause that i was nearly involved in a i was driving along the parking lot Row looking for a place to Park and saw two adults putting groceries in their i stopped and started backing up to wait for their one of their two Small children playing tag Between the cars ran out behind my car and was nearly this upset natural but what upset me More was the parents never the children continued to hide and Dart in and out until the loading was the Bagger walked past me and inside i spoke to her and she told me what 1 already this happens All the the writer gave the quaint Little exam ple of the diligent Mommy outside four seasons with one child by the hand and another in a after looking both ways is forced to run across the Street in front of a honking Gimme a break that woman has a 10and 11yearold in Tow she Fig ures anybody can see that Many people Good source for another letter and with the 5yearold running out first she Saun ters out looks Back to scream for the 10and 11yearold who Are scrap Ping and stands there waiting for them to catch once they reach Mommy still in the Middle of the Street she takes time to punch or slap either or yes there Are cars honking but its usually the car five Back who cant see the parents seem to be totally unaware that there is some responsibility past Ges you got its your you hold their hand while there you teach them to not in Park ing you teach them that streets arc where cars not you Tell them about and looking both ways and making sure a car sees a pedestrian crosswalk is not some magic zone where nothing can Hap pen it Drivers May not be paying brakes could the car be Hind could Boot you into a child or staying alive and healthy is a joint Effort pedestrian and any installation Ive been on i have not had an Opportunity to drive Over 10 i dont see people speeding in the i see streets so clogged with people you cant i see four adults in uniform walking abreast Down a parking one of them will turn and look at you As you follow along behind but will they move Over people open car doors and set up Strol lers and unload the kiddies in an empty parking you sit there and wait until they decide to children leap out of cars parked in front of you while youre trying to turn into an empty to paraphrase the writer 1 Hope this letter will Wake up some of you careless parents who Are endangering our children and i doubt that it teaching children manners and Courtesy would take an Active Effort and from where i that Way past your Call of withheld Germany pen pals i would like pen pals from All Over the i am 21 years Renalla san Calalina Negros Oriental Philippines i would like pen pals from All Over the i am 17 years my hobbles include going to picnics and aurello 148d real Street Oum Aguete City 6501 Philippines i would like pen pals from All Over the i am a 24yearold roman my hobbles include Reading magazines and Numael Santa Catalina Academy Santa Negros Oriental Philippines 6515 i would like pen pals from All Over the i am 17 years i am a roman Angle Mayola Rocafort Saint Paul College Dumaguet City 6501 Philippines i would like to have pen pals i am 16 years i like Araneta Malray Poblacion Negros Oriental Philippines 6525 in comparing the Cost of military personnel versus civilian Basic pay along with fringe entitlements and other expenses Are considered in Cost ing out the expense to the on the civilian Side these include retire life insurance and health insurance All to which the civilian member con tributes a portion of the some additional overseas unique costs such As living quarters Tempo Rary lodging Home leave and similar benefits arc associated with civil ians employed in overseas areas and who were originally recruited from the costs on the military Side include retire quarters social Security tax death gratuities life reenlistment Bonus and other simply comparing Basic pay will not identify the least costly form of manpower to comply with congressional the army has a 780k thousand Mili tary end strength and for the for Sheable every Effort is being made to insure to the extent those 780k spaces Are in fighting and support units that Are necessary in wartime and not in support organizations that Are peacetime organizations where work can be done by this is especially True in Usa eur where our military strength number is very rigidly Why do military and civilian members of the armed forces pay part of their pay Check Back in Federal taxes because like All other Are the govern funds for the operation of the coun try come from we Hope this information adequately explains manpower utilization policies and Why government including serv pay the 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