European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 26, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                June 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 sibling rivalry modern living natural As skinned Knees by Patricia Mccormack United press International when the kids get into cat and dog try not to whistle a Little polish your inspect the plants for stick within if the Battle becomes life threatening you May need to Don hockey plunge into the Middle of the fray and try to separate the warriors keeping them apart until they Cool that what experts advise about squabbles among those apples of your Eye Haven turned even when roughing one another up verbally or by the sibling rivalry is a fact of family life As natural and unavoidable As skinned writes Seymour reit in sibling the Tome for parents wanting to Brush up on the subject was prepared by the Bank Street College of education in new Dorothy consultant from the says the books most important message is intense interactions Between Brothers and Sisters the love and Alliance and protective Ness and rejection Are a Normal fact of with the entry of a second child into a a drama begins and continues with each new older children May demand attention by getting into or developing skills and capacities so As to evoke Praise and they May directly attack the baby or show anger by shouting or fighting with other they May hug the baby so hard it they May hide their real feelings and develop physical symptoms like rashes or they May take up old ways like bedwetting or sibling rivalry goes Way the Bible re counts it Between Cain and Jacob and and the tale of Joseph victimized by his older even fairy tales Are full of Cinderella had to Battle older Given the Young Childs drive to overcome deep feel Ings of its easy enough to understand Why this particular Story is so reit kids respond to Folk and fairy tales for Many Rea sons and on Many but its Clear that one reason these stories involving sibling rivalry Are cherished is because the youngest and weakest players such As Cin Derella often come out on they win the Power and Are thus Able to live happily Ever Berry Harvard medical school be says sibling rivalry can be a major Spur in childrens learning to live learning How to How to win victories and suffer How to love and How to Cope with their own unloving he says kids need to learn these lessons in and warns that failure to do so May make it far More and emotionally to learn them later As reit says sibling rivalry depends partly on the age Span Between experts generally agree that jealousy and rivalry Are More intense when the age Gap Between siblings is from one and a half to three he Here the Gap is and patterns of development Are fairly which leads to greater an age Span of four or five years reduces Competition Between since they share fewer immediate needs and a Gap of six years or More Means less and less a 6yearold Busy with school and other widening has a reasonably Good sense of identity of his or her secure place in the scheme of things and a new baby is no longer seen As a serious to this surveys also he that in Many cases theres More jealousy Between siblings of the same sex than Between those of opposite he two children of the same close in will have a lot of common needs and interests and this generates More quarrels and but All this is claims the important thing is to ensure that each family member has a generous share of and the Challenge is to treat each of your children As an when a Parent sits Down and works out a problem with a that child is helped to feel his or her individuality and to develop a personal sense of Pride and this reinforced on a Day today helps every child whether the or tenth to grasp that he or she really does not Only to Home and family but eventually to the wider the value of daycare centers by Paul Raeburn associated press children Given Day care in their own Homes or in another Home lag in social and educational skills behind children going to organized daycare centers and Nursery a new study children attending Nursery school programs scored consistently higher across the Alison Clarke Stewart of the University of California at Irvine in terms of developmental these children were six to nine months advanced Over children in Home she one Hundred fifty children Between the Ages of 2 and 4 were tested for such things As How they interacted with their with strangers and with Peers their conf playfulness and and their language abilities and memory Clark Stewart her study was one of several studies of Day care presented at the annual meeting of the american association for the advancement of a study by Kathleen Mccartney of Harvard univer sity suggested that childrens language skills Erma Bombeck if everyone is you can hear a chant that has become a groundswell of whiners sweeping across the Plains of America this theres nothing to theres nothing to it comes from children who Are silhouetted in the lights of a million refrigerators who expect nothing less than food that will roller skate onto the counter top and introduce it comes from children bored with re runs and it comes from children who can spread More guilt with that line than a broken i have a theory As to Why the children of the 80s Are always it in that their appetites Are More insatiable or that their bodies need More food for its the Advent of foods stamped just add water and thaw and precooked and slice and that the and intelligence were most developed in daycare centers with experienced a High ratio of staff to Chil and ample Opportunity for the staff to interact individually with Deborah Vandell of the University of Texas in Rich Ardson found evidence that Many third Grade students who came Home to an empty House the so called Latchkey children whose parents Are working seemed to do As Well As those children who came Home to their these results do suggest that the Latchkey experience is not inevitably the negative we previously thought it to Vandell the studies Are part of the second wave of daycare Clark Stewart the first studies were intended to find out whether Day care was As Good As traditional care by a Childs the new studies Are looking More closely at different kinds of Day for reasons of economic and personal Neces fully half of the mothers of preschool children in this country Are already using some form of Day care for their she for these the important question is not what is the effect of Day care but How can we provide our child with the Best possible daycare environment her study was part of a project she began 10 years ago called the Chicago study of child care and devel the new study did reveal one exception to the developmental advantage schools and daycare centers children in Day care in a babysitters Home were More eager than any others to play with an unfamiliar presumably this was because these children have More chances than others for social interaction with Clark Stewart she said her study does not mean that putting Chil Dren in a Well equipped Center with a Well educated teacher and a Small class of responsive children will automatically promote their parents who put their children in Nursery schools and daycare centers were Likely to be highly educated she what this Means is that children in this study whose development was advanced not Only had the advantage of being in High Quality daycare programs but also came from families that gave them education and Good she i come from a generation that got its food the old fashioned we earned if we wanted ice we had to mix put it in dry ice and Salt and turn a slave wheel for a Hundred years or if we wanted we started with the yeast and the flour to make the if we wanted we were prepared to wait until we got All the ingredients mixed together and bake if we dont slow this present group of kids parents Are going to go bankrupt trying to feed the old stand used to take so Long to set by the time you got the squeezed them and took out All the seeds and bought a chunk of ice that you chopped up and shelled the Popcorn and then found a pan that was old in Case you Burnt the Bottom you were Lucky to get your sign up by a kid plops the Frozen can of juice into a dumps in ice cubes from the automatic ice cube shoves a foil pan containing remeasured Oil and Popcorn into the microwave and within 10 minutes Hes on the phone to his mom or dad theres nothing to were making it too easy for we dont even give them the Challenge of Bones eating fish used to take hours by the time you stopped chewing every five seconds to remove a everything is beef Doest have pork Doest have and when was the last time you had an interlude with a Chicken neck kids dont have to Chase Mustard around a Jar with a knife they just squirt it Catsup has been seeded up so they dont have to wait and hit the bottle for olives Are on Little plastic Trees that you pull to the top of the pancakes Are ready to pour from a entire dinners Are read made and what in suggesting is weve got to get kids Back to playing with their i know what youre but id rather be solvent than c c los Angeles times Syndicate