European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 12, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Daily Magazine by Lisa Belkin new York times five years Miriam Lieberman lost a daughter in her seventh month of one Day the child simply stopped at the she the staff  look me in the they acted As if it was just another medical after labor was induced and the baby was Lieberman went Home and cried for thinking she must be crazy because she so deeply missed a child she had never last Lieberman had a this time in her third by then she and her had two healthy but they were not the Only she that her second loss was less devastating than her this time she talked about her feelings even with those doctors and nurses who didst want to she asked for tests to determine the cause of the miscarriage because its natures Way just want a Good enough answer for and she joined a support meeting with trained Counselor and empathetic women like Lieberman Are in part a symptom and in part a cause of what psychologists and doctors Call a changing attitude toward miscarriage and still they Are less Likely to accept Assur ances that All was for the Best and Are More Likely to Grieve openly for a time rather than sweep the memories across the United hundreds of sup port groups have grown up to help them do just they Deal with parents who have suffered a Range of experiences from a miscarriage Early in pregnancy to Stillbirth at the to death shortly after through the parents learn that it is All right to balk at invitations to visit friends with that it is common to blame themselves even though they know Treyve done nothing wrong and that it is natural that years from when the pain has there will still be thoughts if the baby had lived he would be in kindergarten by even Early on in the pregnancy they have come to see themselves As said Muriel an assistant in psychiatry at Massachusetts general Hospital and an instructor at Harvard medical there will be sadness and the kinds of feelings you have if anybody close to you they need a Chance to doctors estimate that there Are about carriages in the United states each including still stillbirths Are generally defined As pregnancies that end in the birth of a dead fetus after the 28th the Center for disease control in Atlanta estimates that 10 to percent of All pregnancies end in Miscar that number May be doctors among other Many women Are waiting longer to have their other possible she Are Pelvic inflammatory venereal smoking and All Are thought to be More common among women researchers say the approach to and by women who have miscarriages is patients Are less accepting of the platitude that natures changing attitude toward miscarriages and Stillbirth said Richard professor and chairman of obstetrics and gynaecology at downstate medical most of these patients want to know they want answers and we try to find hospitals Are changing their in february of last Meg Feldman arrived at mount Sinai Hospital to deliver her first child and unable to find a told her that her baby was dead in the she had Felt the child move just before she left the House and remembers its been so Long and in going to see you so the Hospital she prepared her for an induced delivery and acted As if nothing was they tried to place her in the maternity Ward to where she might have watched other mothers nursing their healthy before the effects of the aesthetic wore they told her to decide whether she wanted to see her baby and permit an with the help of her husband she decided to do both and is thankful that she but she Felt too groggy to hold the she though she now has a 4monthold daughter named she still regrets that she never cradled her whom she named partly because of stories like mount Sinai organized a bereavement program two months staff members Are taught to suggest that parents hold their baby if it is fully to name the baby and to hold a memorial they arc in to treat the miscarriage like a not a according to Ginny who is organizing the the network of support groups is growing in 1974 a group of women who had suffered miscarriages or stillbirths formed for aiding a Mother experiencing neonatal when the group it was the Only one of its kind in the there Are now 12 chapters in the United states and eight in then came source of help in airing and resolving which is a Clearinghouse for nearly 400 groups around the we Are a place where parents learn that what they feel is said Ingrid the profession Al Counselor who directs the pregnancy loss peer sup port the usually six or eight meets for six one none and Telephone counselling Are also there is no charge for any of the serv july 1985 the stars and stripes Page 13