European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 30, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                July 1985 the stars and stripes Ann Landers Page 11 steins dear Ann Landers my wife got up earlier than usual last week and discovered that our neigh Bor was running in his backyard wear1 ing Only his it was before 6 the Sun was not yet but there was enough Light to get an eyeful As he passed a Gap in the f this neighbor usually runs along the Road in a sweatsuit but apparently some mornings he runs in his my wife wants me to Tell him to put his pants we have no kids at Home and Are the Only neighbors who can see i told her not to stare Between the Bushes before 6 May we have your opinion and let live in Orlando dear live there is a Law against indecent expo your neighbor should be asked to Plant additional Bushes to fill in the Gap or put his pants dear Ann Landers my a husband died recently in a car he had not remarried and his whole life was our his Only they saw each other regularly and had a very close to our he left All his life insurance to his i feel certain he did not name his son beneficiary because he was underage and he expected his Mother to turn the insurance Over to the things did not work out that my  intends to keep every she told my your father left the Money to me because he meant for me to have my son now must endure the premature death of his plus a strained relationship with his he says he will never forgive she is not the least bit As she has other grandchild the boy keeps dad meant for me to have that insurance i just know he this is one Rotten Deal but there is Noth ing we can do about my lawyer has told me that although my son is one cannot fight a beneficiary designation on a life insurance nor is it possible to prove what do you think about the Ann in dear Beth i think its too bad your son was told about it served no purpose except to create animosity Between him and his grandmother that will last a you say nothing about your divorce settlement or your  financial your husband May have provided for the boys future in other ways and his Mother May need the insurance Money for her old dear Ann Landers perhaps physicians and other health care professionals believe they Are creating a friendlier climate by calling elderly patients by their first they come across ill mannered and disrespectful especially the 20yearold office clerk who Calls a 76yearold patient every elderly person i have talked to resents one woman told me she gets so angry her blood pressure goes please print this letter in your a lot of folks need educating and i know of no better place to get the message in la Jolla dear Ive had numerous letters from the old folks about its time i printed thanks for the c news America Syndicate reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be Frankfurt writer discusses the Cost of leadership leaders and leadership at what Cost at All soldiers genuinely strive to pursue the army goals and be the most effective Leader they can in Many cases As a they become associates and sounding boards for everyone around these Junior whether officer or often strive to make their unit the Best with solid senior leadership and hard work they propel that unit to the More often than the senior Leader changes duties before those under his guid in Steps the new senior he Hopes that the acclaim and reputation of this unit will continue to some times he is there Only to use this unit As a stepping Stone for his own not the betterment of the soldiers and the army he has sworn to he bears the name of a successful Leader gone and Hopes that that will stand alone As the soldiers motivation to follow this new Leader rules out of he tells his soldiers that he is an open Man a Leader who respects what his subordinates have to he talks of family and caring As Means of communication his primary speak your mind when you feel its important to be but after his favorite Rule never think youre having a casual conversation with someone who outranks this Rule is often heard too the Young leaders take this in stride and try to work around they find the Long hours getting the Days off the family problems alcohol and drug abuse and the soldiers Discon tent brews suddenly the productivity reenlistment becomes a Tough once fire Dup soldiers Are looking Forward to a permanent change of station and their expiration of term of soldiers who previously cancel and want to move Junior leaders talk of problems within their own distrust runs rampant and everyone looks Over his shoulder for the a the senior Man wants to know but army awards policy explained May i ask what the procedures Are in giving several Fine and cos have left the command without awards because they were not completed on time because of late that is a problem of Only Lack of concern by the service members if Usa eur has what Are they 4s Are not Given army commendation medals because they were not commensurate with other even though the jobs were equally some com Manders frown on army achievement medals arms so the soldiers leave 18 months later with a in this policy is not but it seems Only e7s and above receive meritorious service medals so what is going on is that in still perceiving you Are what you in a great Soldier working my ears Are but i really thought my Boss not the one who wrote the award thought i was a Good withheld Germany editors note John office of the Deputy chief of per leadership he usar replies thank you for the Opportunity to explain to the command the army awards your letter has raised three they Are what is the result of late award recommendations what is the Usa eur awards policy and what criteria should be used in deciding which award to recommend each of these questions will be award recommendations and process ing should be completed so that the deserving individual is recognized Here in usar failure to Complete an award recommendation before the Depar Ture of the Soldier from the command is not a suitable reason to disapprove or Down Grade an a recommendation May be administratively entered into military channels within two years of the or service to be the Only permissible policy is that established in the army local policies Are prohibited by the army Regula local supplementation May Only Deal with administrative processing the decision to award an individual a decoration and the decision As to which award is appropriate Are both subjective the award should reflect both the individuals level of responsibility and manner of the degree to which an individuals achievement or serv ice enhanced the readiness or effectiveness of the organization will be the predominant Factor in the tale of dedication during Airlift in your article on the dedication of the Berlin Airlift memorial i was pleased to read the name of a Friend who gave his life one foggy night at Fassberg Raf station Many years Billie Phelps was a very special person to All who knew a Man who had Good reason to hold hatred in his for the pain and suffering he had experienced at the hands of the germans in ear Lier yet this was not the Billie Phelps was one of the greatest men i have known in my Long military he possessed the unique ability to Rise above the character weaknesses that some times plague Ordinary he was not he was a Man of dedication with the ability to show compassion for his Fel Low Billie gave his life in an attempt to get another 10 tons of Coal into Berlin on a cold foggy it was later Learned that he had been on duty for 72 hours without any rest he had been faced with mechanical and weather delays during this period he was no slacker for he gave his the medal for humane action is a Small tribute for a Man of his Caliper but this Small Token would have been acceptable to this wonderful Friend i lost so Many years it is noteworthy to add that during this period of our military the air Force was approaching one year we were in our infancy As a separate we had problems that were staggering with weather and of but we solved them All and accomplished our dedicated people made this operation the Success that it proved to from my View Point As a retired military it was our finest hour and i am proud to have taken a part in this humane thanks for Reading the sharing of my strength and Bartels saudi Arabia pen pals i would like to have pen i write poetry and like i am 24 years Forrester James Christchurch 5 new zealand i would like my name placed on your pen pal i am 18 years my hobbles Are dancing and Chan 3211 Crooks de stat Una Cebu Philippines 640 just try to Tell his Junior leaders arc verbally often in they Are threatened with Relief and permanent offi Cial their competence be comes questioned so frequently that they begin to feel that nothing they do is now lets do More inspection lets train longer watch the family deteriorate to an occasional How dare anyone write on this mans hand after Hes Only concerned with your dont keep that attitude in a Hes moved to another he punched his survived the onslaught without a but what did he really leave behind for the next Guy i Low Many once enthusiastic soldiers have left the unit or the service How Many attitudes of soldiers and leaders alike have been changed How has leadership suffered As a whole sound pretty horrendous its based on True experience with soldiers and fellow leaders whose careers have been marred or we All suffered the the purges watched our friends and Peers walk away with their Heads we All sacrificed family and personal gain and for what what Are a few Small lives compared to one seeking greatness you ask not at the army or its leaders As a but at the system that fails to listen the Leader who places himself above it All the Leader that fails to see past the end of his own if youre out there and this hits take some time to reevaluate and try to find what youre working if its More for yourself than for those you have been chosen to 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