European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 13, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                August 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 her heart belongs to daddy by John Leighty United press International a after six weeks off at Home in the picturesque Seaside resort of Stinson Ive returned to work for a i didst get enough rays to enter the suntan regional or have time to ride my Boogie Board in the great the Bass passed along the coast untouched by my new lures and the books i meant to read gathered dust near my unused at my own i was on paternity which if done properly allows absolutely no free time for watching an entire television grilling a favorite meal or Hunting lost although it was great not having to commute daily Over the hairpin curves of the coastal i found it just As challenging to master the proper pinning of one of my first purchases was a garbage can a big one As my wife Deborah and i quickly agreed to switch to How one tiny 8ounce baby girl with Brown hair and twinkling Blue eyes can dominate so much time of a mature adults Day and night has to be one of Mother natures longheld one which is suddenly beginning to trickle Down on father last companies allowed thousands of new fathers to take leaves of absence from usually without in order to share the Joys of caring for an infant in its first weeks or they were recognizable by their bloodshot sour smelling shirts and Cradle shaped in my fatherhood became a reality in the delivery room when baby Elizabeth was put into my arms staring right at let out a piercing love at first not Only did i soon find myself Reading Spock and leafing through infant care i also was the Only one to walk into the crowded paediatrics office who want having problems with i contribute some Manly tips on betting women acquaintances congratulated me on doing my part in keeping the household intact during the paternity leave companies Are allowing thousands of new fathers to take leaves of absence from usually without comparable length of unpaid leave offered to women and men 40 30 women men 20 i i ii ii ii 11 i less Hanl 40 712 hectic and tiring time that follows the birth of a in they seemed downright envious until they discovered i haunt lost any despite being All i mastered strapping the flailing baby into the cars child seat in order to drive her around until she fell Only to Wake up when we arrived Back at the front carrying her in a cuddly along the Beach was my daily exercise we also have a Barking and spoiled sheepdog who was like a jealous older insisting on his own schedule for food and he enjoyed treating me like a Sandwich maker who had run out of working expectant of have to take some leave of but if theres a would a sane father Trade a Good Days pay for such chores As changing making running errands and staying reasonably sober maybe its pure Why should mothers be the ones who see a baby first enjoy the daily take part in hours of learn to talk baby babble and stake sole claim to the comfortable rocking chair paternity leave int supposed to be the one Day i managed to go out to soak in the the thick Pacific fog rolled i also found that some Frozen dinners can be if there not burned to a Crisp or dropped on the there also easy to eat with one while burping the Little one with the and i didst miss too much of the the suns still the Best month for Boogie boarding is the Perch bite throughout the and the unread books can be dusted off Elizabeth already is cooing and it wont be Long before Shell say daddy and ask for in the i discovered the pains and pleasures of sharing parental duties with my wife during the precious first weeks of my daughters life and it was Worth every sleepless the changing nature by Patricia Mccormack United press International leaders of the slowly growing mens movement say it is Yuppie men who normally shrug off the notion they need any help who should be listening the Robert a graduate student at new York state College of human ecology at Cornell University in says upwardly Mobile men need to have their consciousness raised about their rights As fathers and family he says today a Man is liable to be ridiculed if he asks his Boss for six weeks off because we just had a baby and i want to Bond with the baby to be a better the sensitive father also is Likely to be laughed at if he asks for Shorter hours so he can be Home when schools said who founded mens support networks in As Well As James editor of Cornell human ecology forum says his Magazine has just recently come to terms with the silent mens in the 14 years of the magazines existence it has had numerous articles about women but never one about mens to Start correcting the problem the most recent Issue was dedicated to the changing nature of we never printed an article not one on the mens mens changing Titus with Sam a Counselor in the College of human contributed a report on men changing the male history reminds us that the Way we define mens roles and relationships has been determined by War and commercial they if there is a lesson to be Learned from the women it is not Only that sex roles have served As a basis of but that people can organize around a common identity of their create a new definition of sex and establish new rules that govern there Are two mens movement the National organization for changing founded by Brooklyn College associate professor Robert Brannon and the National organization for founded by Penthouse Magazine columnist Sidney the Brannon is that Nom leans to male Brannon wants to get men to think in More humanistic ways and Stop trying to live up to the John Wayne image of the great american Brannon group started four years ago As an outgrowth of an annual conference on men and the National network Fielding the conferences had been building for 10 Brannon estimates about men have had some Contact with the mens networks and about have been in mens consciousness raising taking a Lead from the National organization for Norm has set up task titles of the groups give some idea of the direction of the mens a sampling male female relations mens health men and the military pornography ending mens rape and battering and men and Justice for men and women is a major goal of other goals Are making mens lives less pressured for making it socially acceptable for a Man to express a More feeling if that his who is on the Norm committee on men and pornography and its subcommittee on male sex role paints this picture of the male role in the United states the male role defines masculinity and what a Man is supposed to be interested and act the guidelines include such traits As avoiding displays of emotional or we men Are not supposed to let others know when we feel scared or depressed or even when we feel Happy or in As part of our we Are supposed to be looked up to and be this has a variety of possible but the traditional one is a Man becomes the the head of his the King within his Little and he demands respect from his wife and Heasley and Sappington say society has come to accept the notion that girls should be Able to grow up and be anything they want to we have seen Little in the Way of a corresponding change in the notion that boys will be they traditional ideas about masculinity in spite Ofa growing awareness that Many traits of typical male behaviour Are detrimental to society and debilitating to men they report men also die earlier than women from stress related disease Over which they can have