European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 18, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                August 1985 the stars and stripes Ann Landers Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers we Are the Chil Dren of elderly parents who Are physically and mentally in Good they Are financially comfortable As they Are tireless in their no matter How much time and Tention they its not while they do not ask i the hints Are they want to move in with we know where they stand on entering a Home for the it would be no regardless of our efforts to find suitable we cant take them into our Homes because they would insist on running Pur they have always been Domineek intrusive and difficult to get along we Are in our 60s and have our own health although we dont hang out the family Linen for All to we feel guilty and see criticism in their faces and in the questions they this situation is very difficult to live with and we dont know what to can you help us easy solutions in Tampa dear Tampa you will be damned if you do and dam Ned if you keep the old folks in their own Home As Long As hire help if they can no longer care for them this is the Best solution under the circumstances you dear Ann Landers i am a 16yearold High school Guy writ ing in response to sick at heart in Michi i was a reckless i received four tickets and had two minor i was headed for a few of my dads friends started telling him whenever they saw me tearing around after my second dad got although in too old to be spanked i caught it pretty i got my License taken away for two months and my curfew lowered by one we had some heart to heart talks and each time my parents love came through loud and i straightened i have my License Back now and Haven had to be disciplined Tell parents their kids need them just As much when there getting Tough works i mom and i love in grand rapids dear grand and i love you for writing such an up front and congratulations to your parents for hanging we need More parental involvement and no nonsense Dis dear Ann Landers Happy As a Lark in Onta Rio advises after 35 years of marriage that if you treat your husband like a King he will treat you like a have been married 35 years and treated my husband like a in he has Given me the red carpet treatment walked All Over called it quits in Little Rock dear Rock what took you so Long forgive me for sounding like a broken but nobody can walk All Over you without your per dear Ann Landers i have been needing to go to the dentist but have procrastinated for months be cause i am a its very Embarrass any suggestions on How to overcome this problem choked up in Saginaw dear Sag try singing a in a High key when the dentist puts an instrument in your you May feel foolish but who if you overcome the problem c news America Syndicate Appeal made for learning to work together it is a very Well popularly talked about yet deep Down the majority of society is still not ready to accept the fact that every single person in the world is Dif we All have our likes and dislikes and we All hold our own set of a big fault in society is that it cannot let everyone have their own traits without ridiculing or stereotyping it is a prob Lem that modern society must learn to Deal with before we can really Advance into a More modern and civilized being a member of the armed i have had the Opportunity to meet More types of people than i Ever imagined those from Large or Small wealthy or poor families religious or atheistic those that Are either very ath Letic or and so Many More that i could go on yet i know that i have not even begun to delve into the idea of How Many different types of individuals there really some of my Good friends have been some really strange and i have had Many friends i have envied because of How Well rounded they Are and How together they seemed to i have Learned not to make any judgments about to accept them As they it Only makes especially As a Mem Ber of the armed forces of the United that we should All accept each other and not put each other Down because of or personality it conflicts with the desires and interests of the Mission of the armed forces As a after we Are All working for the same cashing join return tax refunds recently i went to the american express to Cash my income tax refund of i wanted to withdraw and Deposit in my savings because i filed a joint my Check has my wife name and she had already signed the Ameri can express will not Cash it unless my wife is a member of my savings account Here at the Bank also wanted to have my wife id my wife is in my entire sure pay goes to the first National Bank of co Perras i rely on my wife to Send me i since writing this sent my Check Back to my wife to Deposit it for this entire ordeal has me upset and i would like to have an barrel Benton Germany editors note Martha Public american express Community banking re plies joint tax refund checks present a recur ring problem each the Community Bank policies on endorsements Are the same As those applied by Banks in the United in addition to the internal Revenue service irs requirement that a joint re fund Check be signed by both it also serves As Mutual Protection to each party named on the the Community Bank requires that the signatures be in most cases the signatures can be verified either with an id card or through a signature card on file at the Community info Stu in your Case neither option was available since your wife was not in Ger Many nor was she a Community Bank in when a joint refund Check is deposited to a joint Only one party need in this the Bank can affix a stamp certifying the authenticity of the missing account holders a joint refund Check deposited to a single name cashed or partially must contain the verifiable signatures of both if your circumstances Are the same Dur ing the next tax year we suggest you Contact your Legal assistance they can provide you with a Power of attorney authorizing your wife to Cash a joint refund Check As described in your joint tax refund checks Are a particular problem for Mobile military we were therefore pleased when stars and stripes decided to write an article concerning this the article appeared april and addressed a number of critical Points surrounding refund Check we regret that you experienced prob lems cashing your refund the information we have provided should preclude problems with your joint refund next tax information on seat Belt that was a very Good Story about Joseph Jodka inventing the three Point safety Belt in not to steal vodkas but it seems As if someone else had the three Point Belt idea some time before in the year he invented the we had been using them for Over six during my wife was a fan of radio and television personality Arthur several times during his pro he said that if he had had a safety Belt in his car he would not have the Gimpy pen pals i am 22 years my hobbles include Reading listening to music and seeing Good in working As a Secretary in a private amino Vincent Village Bacolod City Negros Oriental Philippines 6001 i am an algerian male of have several hobbles which Are As follows collecting pop and corresponding with pen Choker dear Ess aade Algeria i would Ilka to write to americans Between i would like to know something about in also interested in politics and pop music id like to improve my English because id like to become a journalist or a Braun 49 d5309 meckenhelrrr5 West Germany i would like pen i am 19 years Josephine Paglinawan 58 Figueroa so quillor Philippines 6606 walk he had and would have avoided a Long Hospital he gave the address of a company in new if i remember that made and sold three Point seat my wife immediately sent off for a set and i in stalled them in our new 1951 Buick a Short time we were Able to obtain Lap belts that i installed in the Back before putting the Lap belts in the rear our two daughters had tumbled off the seat a few times because of sudden the belts put a Stop to that and even at the age of seven they let you know if you started before they were belted we drove from to san Francisco in december can remember stopping for Gas in various filling stations in the station attendant would what Are them thar things i would those Are seat never Heerd of such they would what Yew Needem Yew aint in no there were a few along the Way who did agree that the seat belts were a Good no one that i can remember asked where they could get one thing for they were a Good conversation piece and they gave All of us some peace of mind while on the since that we have had at least Lap Type belts in every car weve had and the three Point belts in the last two and we use them All the Gronborg Kaiserslautern country and How can we possibly judge or criticize anyone who is in the same shoes As we our selves Are none of us likes to be judged by so what gives us the right to do it ourselves prejudice is a sign of immaturity and in Many cases none of us like to think of ourselves As immature or yet it is a fact that Many must if we could learn to Deal with these we would have better working relations and eventually our whole military Community would feel More at ease with our differ the military would then be a More appealing Way of life for those of us already and would also promote our standards and purposes into the civilian show ing them that we Are not War we Are working on a More mature and advanced society that May some Day live in total we would be known More for our humanitarian goals than for the fallacy that we Are Here to threaten any nation that becomes stronger or bigger than of course it May sound a Little far fetched that All of this would develop just from learning to be Content with everyone being who and what they but that is what is necessary before society can become More civilized and modern without threat ening Mankind As a it All has to Start and if it is possible in a military then surely it could happen in a nonmilitary envy so lets take the responsibility of taking that Small step for a Man that could very Well be a giant leap for Mankind Anthony Roberts Raf England the and tripes european edition capt Dale us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell Proctor Mcdermott production manager managing circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the department of or the stars and stripes of the products or services everything advertised in this publication shall be made available for or patronage without regard to National marital physical political affiliation or any other no Merit Factor of the or military address the stars and Apo International mail the stars and Postrach 11 10 d6100 Darmstadt Tel Griesheim 06155 6010 Darmstadt Airstrip 2376 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