European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 30, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                August 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters Ann Landers eliminating mix ups on joint assignment requests i am married and love my wife very my wife and i Are both in the army and Are stationed together in after we were married in september of 1 we filed a copy of our marriage certificate with our local personnel we also filed paperwork requesting that we be considered for the married army couples six months department of the army has no record of our and the which we both for the army couples have been mis handled to the Point we were told we must submit a new there Are other factors that serve As examples of bungling incompetence but i will forgo mentioning them for the Sake of exp a few weeks my wife got orders for fort shortly after i got orders for fort my wife and child will be sent Miles away from me because of the failure of the system to respond to the needs of the i have talked to my Chain of the personnel and just about anybody who will All i hear is that it is probably too late to change the fact the system is made up of these people Are handling me As just another form or id and obviously care nothing about their i plan to Call my congressman in the near it needs be pointed out just How insensitive the system can it seems we will be the ones who will suffer because of someone else i have never Felt the degree of frustration generated from this situation our records Are clean and we declare that we Are professional i find it hard to keep my attitude from taking a the european edition capt Dale us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell Proctor Mcdermott production manager managing circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european 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think of my wife and child get Ting on that plane and flying so far and not knowing when i will be Able to see them i see i just dont under stand what to what would you do if it were you 4 Wilfredo Urquia Germany editors note chief warrant officer John manage ment actions enlisted personnel management 1st personnel replies it is unfortunate that the writers application for enrolment into the married army couples program was the procedures for which require the local personnel office to Send the application directly to the army military personnel normally work first personnel come was notified by the army military personnel Center a week before the writer wrote his letter that his assignment had been changed to coincide with his wife next duty this change was immediately passed to his servicing personnel for the Benefit of All especially married army the army has announced major policy changes to the mar ried army couples beginning the current married army couples program and the joint domicile program will be combined into one program entitled the married army couples the army military personnel Center will consider for joint assignment Only those couples who request consideration in and Vance by enrolment in the married army couples soldiers who Are currently enrolled in the program Are not affected by the new procedure and joint assignment consideration will remain married army couples who have not enrolled in the program should do so prior to those who marry after will have 60 Days from the Date of marriage to additional information regarding the program May be obtained from military personnel wife makes plea against abuse i wonder what Ever happened to the com Mercial about spouse abuse its the one where the Soldier walks in and Doest speak to his wife and leaves her sitting in the chair in asking because there is a lot of this going on at the Post where in living and in even going through this men need to be reminded that we Are we need them even More now since we Are so far away from the people we love and cant share our feelings with we Are also making big sacrifices being with but to be pushed aside by them is a greater Hurt that Only women under this is Why in writing this and i Hope it can help servicemen you must take time out to love and appreciate your when you you Are no longer two As god says you both become one what you we women if you Are we feel but ignoring us and making us feel we Are not important in your lives leads to lots of misery and Low we Are your let us be but also make us feel i have read a lot of letters in the stars and and they Are mostly directed toward the now in directing this letter to the men just because you Are the Active service one and take it hard because you have a lot of things you dont like Doest mean you have to take it out on you got in the you knew How it would its a Job where everyone has to its not easy for the dependents and you but if together we join forces and try to make it All come to everyone we can make it work dont drink your share them with and we can solve them in a better husbands give us a Chance to listen but mostly to love you withheld Germany dear Ann Landers 1 am unmarried and work for a High tech through colleagues at the office i be came an adviser to a coed Ages 14 they Are terrific two months i accompanied 14 of them on a weekend we stayed in an inexpensive the other couple that was Pup posed to Chaperon a had to cancel at the last 1 hated to disappoint the kids so i took them they behaved the Motel manager even complimented them when we last week one of the girls who went on the trip came to speak to she was obviously apparently two of the Motel rooms her room three girls connected with one shared by four one of her roommates suggested they All play a strip game that ended with one Guy totally naked and most of them less than fully they then coerced one of the other Guys into taking a Shower while the girls she was terrified that someone would find out and it would get Back to her Par i told her what they did was grossly very disappointing and not and she should forget about it with the Promise never to do anything like that driving Home that night i got the what if they had been caught what if her parents find out i was the Only adult pre could i be criminally guilty of any thing please hurry your Call me Mike dear Mike i cant see How you could be charged with anything in since you were completely unaware of what went you appear to be blameless to next dont offer to chaperone 14 kids without Check the room arrangements and make sure the connect ing doors Are and one More suggestion its not a bad idea to look in on the Little Darlings once during the night to make sure everybody is where he ought to dear Ann Landers i was recently asked to serve As a i went to school with Mary but we were never close i was quite surprised to receive such an yesterday Mary called to say the dress would Cost the shoes to match Are and the Headpiece is the last two weddings 1 have been asked to participate in were also i paid for the dress and shoes for one wedding and although the other Bride paid for the i had to buy shoes and Fly to Ohio at my own she Howe pay for my hotel All three of these dresses look very bridesmaid and 1 will not be Able to Wear them without offending How do i Tell this person that i just cannot afford the Honor of being in her wedding poor in Indiana dear in Tell her just As you told and in the future dont agree to serve As a bridesmaid before you know All the details and have thought it Over c news America Syndicate pen pals i am interested in having pen i am 21 and am presently a Beauty Santos 20 Saint Jude Street Nino Village Ardao Davao Philippines 9501 in looking for friends of All Ages and from any where in the in 16 years old and my hobbles Are dancing and wind sch 78 56 Wuppertal 1 West Germany i am 21 and would enjoy writing to people my hobbles include Reading listening to music and letter 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