European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 12, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday september 12, 1985 the stars and stripes Arm Landers Page 11 tetters dear Ann Landers a couple of Days ago you printed an other Citer about horrible mothers in Law. For years i had an uneasy Ami often hostile relationship with mine. She was overbearing intrusive and extremely critical. We ceased communicating after a major Row. It ended with accusations name calling and a door slammed so hard a picture fell of Floc Wall. Now four years and one baby later my husband and i decided to take a Chance and Stop by to see his parents. They greeted us with tears and open arms. We both expressed deep sorrow at the years wasted in bitterness and recrimination. We have invited them to our Home next week and i know it will be a warm and Loving reunion. Parents too. Can learn. They deserve a second Chance. My husband is elated at this Happy turn of events. We both feel that our children deserve grandparents and if my Mother in Law is Good to them it helps us too. Blood ties can never be broken. Everyone is affected by family rifts. Life is too Short to waste years bearing old grudges. Please Tell daughters in Law everywhere not to be smug about wars  such victories Are hollow at Best. I be Learned a lot during 14 years of marriage. 1 Hope to be a Mother in Law some Day and my experience will equip me to do a better Job. Happier now in Arizona dear happier what a constructive letter a real Day brightener too. I Hope your philosophy is contagious. Peace it s wonderful dear Ann Landers next year my husband and 1 will Cele brate our 40th anniversary. To outside observers 1 have everything a woman could want furs jewels trips to Europe two houses several cars and some Beautiful works of Art. This past year i Learned that my Hus band has been involved in several crooked deals. Large sums of Money have been involved. At a time in our lives when peace of mind should be ours i am angry de pressed and frightened. My husband be came physically violent when i confronted him with what i knew. When i told him we must straighten things out he threatened my life. Is it too late to leave i m afraid i could t Cope without him but i feel As if i am living with a stranger now. I also am heartsick because he was such a swell Guy. 1 need help but i m afraid to confide in an outsider. Also he would be angry with me for seeking counsel. I am a prisoner in a situation i did t create. Please Ann Tell me what to do. Lost in Paradise Deti Losta swell Guy does t get i Rohed in crooked business deals and Knock his wife around. You Are in desperate need of counselling and i arise you to get it. Don t underestimate your ability to make it alone. I Hau an idea your life would be easier without this Man and i Hope you have toe courage to nuke be break. Dear Ann Landers Twenty five dollars is Riding on your answer. I bet my Friend that Elizabeth Taylor has the largest Diamond in the world. It was her engagement ring from Richard Burton. Am i right Athens. Ga., Gambler hop. Dun Ond a the criticism of reimbursement services answered of weighs 44.4 Carat and is reputed to be cursed. First let me stale that the 1st army div s travel Section in Nuernberg is the Best with which i be Ever had dealings. Thirty have  German ladies there who have evidently had a great Deal of experience with travel vouchers. But what is most important is the service thai office provides. One goes Inlo the office. There May be a waiting line at each desk but the wait is usually Short Seldom exceeding 15 minutes. One goes to the desk. The lady computes the travel voucher and informs the customer to get in the cashier s line while she takes the documents to the cashier at that Point the length of wait depends upon the length of the cashier s line. The Point one May go to the travel Section in Nuernberg and be paid within a half hour. When going on toy i pay All the Bills out of my own pocket tickets Gas food hotel etc., and All i m asking is reimburse ment of my expenses not a favor or a government Dole. I m getting upset about the finance people who Sam to feel that they re doing me a favor by paying inc. I went toy to another Community. I had to pay hotel Bills while there. I went to their finance office and was told to come Back in two weeks another one requires one week. If Nuernberg can compute travel vouch ers on the spot Why can t any other finance office in the army it s time these offices were cleaned up and made More customer oriented. People Are entitled to the Money for which they present vouchers. We Are neither beggars nor welfare cases. It s time we stopped being treated As if we were. Name withheld St. Leon rot Germany editor s note a spokesman from the office of the Deputy chief of staff resource management Liq usar More on those crude americans7 1 would like to add my support to the writer from Brun sum Netherlands rude americans spoiled  i May not have been on the same vessel As she but i had the same experience. 1 would not like to believe there were two boats on the Rhine that Day with the element aboard that she witnessed. On the Berliner no one missed the fact that those causing the disturbance were americans. They were disgustingly callous insensitive Brash and above All immature. I was so ashamed of them for represent ing my country that i found myself refrain ing from speaking in apprehension that my English would Label me As one of those ugly  As an american Soldier myself i spoke to them asking that they curb their Lan Guage and behaviour. I was ignored. Waiters compelled to use the stairs to carry heavy trays of food and refreshments to upper Levels found the Way blocked by these individuals who chose to sprawl on the Steps. Not Only the waiters but also a uni formed Man with a Walkie talkie requested that they Clear the stairs and were mocked and taunted. Finally an older woman fell while trying to navigate the stairwell since she was unable of rc3ch the railing. She addressed them angrily in German and was laughed at. In another recent stars and stripes a Drunken Serviceman in Izmir Turkey Dis graced himself his country and his fellow men in uniform by making obscene remarks about the founder  the Republic of Turkey. Where do these irresponsible men get the adolescent opinion of themselves that As americans they have the divine right to demean the citizens trash the landscape and profane the Beautiful countries and Cul Tures of those people to whom we Are Only guests when will the authority that Many seem to Lack within themselves for self control recognize that these soldiers by their Brash and irresponsible behaviour arc staining the image of America All americans and in particular the armed services stationed on foreign soil when will the same Young men so willing to throw away their time in destructive and immature behaviour realize it is an Opportunity for increasing their growth by being open to the Rich culture of others Robert f. Butehorn Bamberg Germany eur replies you Are absolutely Correct. Travellers Are entitled to reimbursement for expenses incurred. Customers Are not beggars or welfare cases but the reason finance personnel exist. Rudeness or bad attitudes by our sol Diers or by our civilian employees cannot and will not be condoned. For what you experienced we offer our sincerest apol Ogies. If you should experience o problem like this in the future go directly to the finance officer. When you perform try May we Sug Gest you obtain an Advance prior to Depar Ture. This will keep your out of pocket expenses to a minimum. Of course upon return you will still be required to submit a settlement voucher. The department of army s established goal is to pay All travel vouchers not later than five working Days after receipt. Unfortunately military requirements duties and personnel shortfalls sometime prevent reaching this goal. Timely payments Are a concern to he Usa eur and Are con stantly monitored. You should know that your travel vouchers should be submitted to your servicing Home finance office. That office has your official record of travel pay ments is charged with the responsibility and can Best provide the finance support you deserve. Any payment made by another finance office must be coordinated and approved by your servicing Home finance office prior to payment. This requirement could hate caused some of the delay you encountered. We were pleased to receive your Laud Atory comments concerning the 1st army div s travel Section. Thanks to Schweinfurt Center 1 would like to commend the child care attendants at the Johnston child care Cen Ter in Schweinfurt for the outstanding Job they Are doing. It is not often that such a positive environment exists for children who must be away from their parents for the majority of the work Day. The attendants Are genuinely concerned for children and this is made More evident when your child comes Home in a Good Frame of mind. My daughter is excited when she gels to go to the child care Center. She shows no reservation at being left at the Center and talks about going Back right alter i pick her up after work. The program they offer the preschool children is excellent. My daughter is learn ing new songs dancing painting and crafts. She is developing her motor skills at an incredible rate and is also learning ser alphabet and numbers. Having used child Caie facilities at sever Al other military communities the staff at the Johnston child care Center is much More enthusiastic and generous with their time. The service they arc providing the Schweinfurt military Community is greatly appreciated. Betty a Flimon Schweinfurt Germany pen pals i would ilk pen my from an or la world. I am 10 Vera do. I it a Ruding timing looking a to and Atao Movitt. Jug Bong no a Simou Cio Hwi is. Guk Utown Nunn Ort ill pm Point s25 i word to pan from m out it writ i am 17 Yuri of i Fotiov Onia to Lett. In dig my singing. Boito b. Patoc co Boll a Liu Gul human. 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