European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - October 14, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                A Magazini Byke franckling United press International p Atrick a 1 cd was Busy any my the. ,.nnn Day we ii his Lodding daughter  i hiris Ashe played Al i k Kathi 3i ear of former woodsman saw she was mining red and having trouble breathing he  up Emma and called her on ih., Back a Lew limes ii did t help so i picked her up by me Ankles hit her a Lew my on the Back and out tame a Penny. 11 could Hnvi-1�. N disastrous bul i i inn 1  Welch said. I Kymm what la do " Welch is one of the r a win Breed of tamer1-, i Jav or married who am Maying Home to raise then children either by Choiu or economic necessity athe number of or morn grows experts Are i dim that nurturing Trade Kinnally a maternal role is not a female prerogative for the past live years. Or Kyle Pruett. Associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the Yale child study Center in new Haven. Con has studied 20 families in which the lather was la primary care giver. He found Hal. When compared 10 standardised tests on problem solving. Ird social skills the children performed above the Norm moreover. He fathers within a matter of clays or weeks relied on their own intuition to look Afier their infants rather than second guessing what would my wife do now the families in the new Haven study ranged from welfare recipients to professionals. In one third of the families the father did not have much of a Choice. He lost his Job and his wife did to Pretl said there was no difference in performance by the kids of lathe s who decided iwo years before Conception that they were going 10 do  Welch and his wife Ellen Pope made their decision Pilot to Emma s Buth on Jan. 30, 19b4. Welch a former heavy equipment operator for great Northern paper co in Millinocket Maine stayed Home to take Cate of Emma do the laundry the cooking Tiu cleaning and the grocery shopping when Pope returned to her Job with a statewide environmental group the society Lor the Protection of new Hampshire forests. In part Welch a gut  role reversal would give him More time to do creative things like read and play the piano. I certainly anticipated having More free time i thought i d handle hip jobs better than i have handle the boredom better than i have by t in fact it has been somewhat tedious monotonous. I be found myself struggling with depression not real bad depression but i did t think i would have As much trouble. It was sobering to find i did t have As much appreciation for what housewives go through. Trying to be creative with food is More than a Challenge. It is hard to be putting interesting stuff on the table night after nigh and not got into a real rut. I have a real respect for  Welch said. There s a network of women who get together and there is no such network Lor House husbands. It can get kind of  David Tankoos of new Haven found just the opposite in his 16-Rnonth stint of caring Lor daughter Kalie. Tankoos look in the or. Mom role when his wife Liz. Went Back to work in june 1983, two Rno Iti. After their child was born. Tankoos had burned out of his 10-year Job at n residential treatment Center for emotionally disturbed adolescents and  a breather. Before we had the child. I swore i d never  a diaper in my life but some things become second nature. Once i got used to the routine it was  Tankoos said sometimes you play it by ear. One other woman brought me under her Wing at Katie s swimming classes. We had lunch regularly with three other women. I was a father in a Mother s group the fact that they took me in was interesting that helped Deal with the Day to Day frustrations and anxieties. Katie was never sick rarely even had colds. With Liz s support and the support of friends it worked out Well he , Tankoos is Back at work this time As a sales consultant for a publishing House. His wife is Home taking care of Katie full time on a leave of absence mof9 and More father Aro staying Home to raise their children. Or. Moms keep the Home fires burning from her Job. We have a Good relationship. Katie has Henri no Bas. We Are much closer than Many fathers Are to their daughters. It s been very  Tankoos said when she gets older want to see How she let is about other men. In terms of being  the Pruatt study Lound that having the lathers providing primary care had no effect on the children sexual identities. They Are All very comfortably masculine or comfortably feminine children. It would not be obvious to the casual observer that they had been raised by the father Pruett said when the children talk about their families they lend to be very traditional even though theirs Are not one Mother is a judge the daughter talks about her Mother cooking the dinner washing the dishes Demy the laundry when in fact the Mother does t do that very much Pretl said. You have to look Al play and How they Rev no  inner selves. These childrens play is relatively fre of sexual stereotypes the boys Are nurturing the qiri1, Are very feminine but Ilso Are very competitive a i curious. Flexibility is an extraordinary asset to family development. The Richer the responses you Anvi. T a less you Are Likely to acc knocked of your feet to said. Welch said he expects his relationship with Emma will have a balancing effect on he sense of sexuality we Are trying to bring her up As anything bul a Sweet Little  his wife agreed she s obviously very attached to him. I Haven t noticed any favouritism of him Over  Pope said. I think it is an advantage for her. She is exposed to so Many things. He takes her places docs things with her i probably would t do like fixing the cars. Monday october 14, 1985 Pat and i have tried to work out n pattern where  can both Goi Souhr Neq Lor outto Vos. Nil consequently we i happier working women Pend a lot of time with their children that s not to say thai working fathers Doii t the in Otic wants to have Len connectedness  Pope said Welch said he ranking about Goirn. Hack to work soon now that  i old enough to to to any cd there is no int a i Raj i Iti pending and i May put an application in he said out i won to Al All disappointed it i Don 1 Jet picked " the Yale study of or. Morns began As ? one year Effort. Pruell continued it on his own. And it is now in its sixth year fight of the original 20 families Mill have the father As primary care giver. I feel i have to  it going because we know so Little about this  Priuett raid the number cd single fathers has jump in 1?5 percent Iron 1074 to 198s the number of lathers now involved m the c Rol Shpir children r rapidly Murca Ioc bet air of won a in the workforce Rij because1 men Aro finding re pleasures and Rath,5  rewards in doing it " or. Janna . A child psychiatrist on the rot ii University school of Medicine acuity incests Pruit s general finding1., bul faulted the Lack of a control ii in Tor direct comparison on child development level1., the general clinical impression is that lathers Are perfectly capable of raising sheif children i think Ihal is accurate. Some of our work Here confirms that lathers Are As capable of maternal behaviour As Mother. Are caller said. It is not a hormonal prerogative the Good Point he is making is How quickly fathers can adapt to the situation and utilize the instincts that they  she said. I think there is a big implication for single Parent families. And there is an important message Tor divorce courts that Given the proper environment either Parent can be a Good care giver " the stars and stripes Page 13