European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - December 09, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday december a 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers you did ii again and am furious. Several years ago you used a tired. Inane senseless line and several men and their mothers wrote of object. You prom ised not to use it again but Here it is Plain As Day. I i refer to that stupid saying a son is a son until he takes a wife. But a daughter is a daughter All of her life " your Contention was when sons marry Thev Are taken Over by their wives families and Drift away from their own. I worried when i read thai because i had seen it Hap pen in some cases. My own husband How  remained very close to his parents and so did his three Brothers. Our sons Ages 34 and 30, remain quilt close to us and 1 see no signs that this will change so will you please Knock it off Annie it does t Wash. Teed off in Santa Monica dear teed sorry to dispute your statement but the old saying u quite True in to least men out of 10 marriages according to the mall we Raceme in this office and our mall is just about Ai Bones a barometer a you wine a find. People Tell me the truth. There s no reason for them to lie. I Don t know them and they Don t know me. Many letters Are unsigned. The major complaint from molten Aboul their married Sou is this one we never see our dons anymore. They Are always Al their in Laws House because that s the Way their wives want it we feel very Hurt especially at thanksgiving and  i m glad it s different with your sons but they Are exceptions not the Rule. Dear Ann Landers i was interested in your reply to the woman who wanted o know if it was of for a physician to give his teen age Daugh ters Pelvic examinations. You said the doctors with whom you consulted were not in favor of treating members of their own family. What about nurses who work in the offices of physicians should their male Boss give them Pelvic examinations bloom1ngton, ind. Dear Bloomington i consulted three physicians. One said no. Two said they did perform such examinations because their nurses insisted. The women claimed they bad More Confidence in their Bones than in any other doctor. Abo ii was More convenient no appoint ment no waiting and no Bill. Dear Ann Landers my Boyfriend 21 and i 20 have been going out together for the past six years. We be both gone out with other people. But for the past three years we be dated each other exclusively. We have problems like other couples bul one thing Aboul him bothers me a  can t verbalize his feelings for me. I realize his family life has a lot to do Wilh it cold parents. But i am so lir cd of saying of love you and hearing him say i do you too 1 know he loves me but i need to hear him say it. Inthecarol1nas once vow break the sound Barrier things will be belter. Give him � this repeat after me i love you " Al be hears himself say it a few limes it will be easier. Respond enl Tuslas Kay Hen be does. Patience persistence and appreciation Are in key words. For pm reminder All letters to Ibe editor must contain s on request and protect your privacy. Smokers beware Reader declaring War on you smokers. I have declared War on you. No unc is More weary than i of listening to the daily rhetoric against All the logical reasons for not smoking. Let s not rehash the facts. Face it. It s not Lack of information that lets you continue in this mindless addiction. It is quite clearly one of two reasons 1. Either you frankly Don t give a Damn about your health and mine As Well or 2. You want to Stop but the addiction keeps you doing so. The jury is in friends if you wish to Stop there is help for you at the Slop smoking clinic at the Hospital with Nic Otine gum. Assistance of people who know you Etc. The resources Are innumerable. Someday there will indeed be help for people who wish to Stop their smoking that will make the process much easier than the dreadful procedure it now is the devastating withdrawal that affects family and co workers As Well. I wish there was a Sim ple Pill we All could Lake to help the rest of us control our addictions too primarily Over eating watching too much television Etc. But the difference is smokers these addictions while detrimental to one s health certainly do not Hurt of her people. When will you smokers gel in through your Heads that you have no rights if smoking Means it affects the health of other people the fact is that passive smoking can be As dangerous As smoking itself and some studies claim More danger Ous. Exactly what kind of society do we have that still protects the rights of some to endanger the health of others if you can not confine your filthy habit to your own air space then you have no right at All to indulge your addiction in any Public place and thai includes the Exchange Public sidewalks and Parks. Are you Reading smokers the fact is that it is impossible to confine the smoke in an open area Short of a northeastern wind blowing at 30 Mph. I was recently at a meeting where the smokers argued that by blowing their smoke in a direction away from non smok ers that the smoke could t cause discomfort. How ludicrous. Elementary Laws of physics you idiots demo Strale that Short of smoking in an airtight closet you cannot confine the smoke by blowing it away from non  shall i demonstrate for you by performing the famous Experiment with Iron sulfite Rotten egg Gas each time you Light up the facts Are smokers Don t actually care about the health of others much less their own. How Long do we All have to sit passively by having our own health endangered at committee meetings Gast Hauses Elc i am somewhat involved in Community act Vilics but 1 have had enough. I have no intention of retreating. I am simply going to exercise similar  Pil Tak t at my future committee meetings i Contro fully intend to pull out my child s Black. .,., v. I. An j Lurn on at Aroun 30 decjbc5. I rather enjoy some of the new Rock tunes and i am certainly planning to listen about half Way through the first half hour of the meeting about the time smokers Light up. But so As not to disturb them 1 am going to face the Box away from the smokers so As not to cause discomfort you understand. My Girlfriend likes to hum really loudly Why not that s her habit too i have another Friend who is a gum Popper. Why can t she smack really loudly also oblivious to annoyance caused around her another Friend really likes to sing and i mean loudly so you can look for him Bel lowing out his ditties All Over the area any place smokers Are allowed. Lei s Tave this absurd game one step further the above habits Don t even come close to endangering lives like the addiction of smoking. Let s be fair folks and allow the practice of other such habits too. Why not let erratic Drivers and drunks on the roads my child once liked to throw rocks. Thai was definitely a habit when he was around seven years old. He was stopped by the authorities his father and me for the common Good because he was in danger of hurting others. Should he not by smokers rights logic have been allowed to indulge his habit if smokers can endanger my life and discomfort me by making me Trail along behind them at the Exchange parking lot can t i have similar rights to indulge my habit of annoying them with loud music boxes have you Ever left a movie theater and nearly choked to death trying to gel to your car behind All the addicts who have pc two hour without Uli saying their and Ilion the Point of this Absurdity is that some body in authority has got to Call for a ban on smoking altogether unless it can be pen pals. I would 11 it a zip i irom All Over la world. I am 72 Starc old. My Hobo Are Wolno Zoino Lom Ute fun a of and Reading Novart Elim s. Tar Bro Herat Orienti m 20 year old ind Karn no Ensmin. I correspond with a Opla from to Over the world bul i Dort l know Nyp a Palt from Ira United state. Tha United stairs it very Incerti howl country. I d Alto like to Exchange Pojl Tardi and to a. 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