European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 11, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers saturday january 11, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers a 60-Yenr-Oldwoman whole and asked Why iy., Eta never stand up and offer a sat 0 an older person on the bus. You said it was general  Lolohe needs of other Sand unfortunately  i say ii � two things. One mrs Parent who own a car never Nde the bus with their children and hey Don. T know what goes an. Two kids learn manners after consistent repetition of instructions and observing Good example set by adult. Pop and i took the bus together often. One Day he decided he had reminded me enough already and said stand up for thai lady now or you won t be Able to sit Down when you get Home that was the last time i Ever hesitated about giving up my seat. Haw i wish today s parents would take the time to teach their children manners. Mannera Are nothing More than Basic Ordi nary consideration for others. The Reward Are enormous and they loll a lifetime. Also tire dear Abo you can say that Agulan again and again. Dear Ann Landers please keep idling your readers who choose to suy with an alcoholic to Contact Ai anon. Thirty two years ago 1 married a Man with a drinking problem. I thought he would quit for me sound familiar but of course i was wrong. I raised four sons by myself. My Hus band was Busy doing i own thing. I did t leave him though god knows i wanted to hundreds of times. I had no Money no place to go and i believed a Drunken father was better than no father. Wrong alcohol is a liquid drug. I have spent Many hours Reade up on the subject. Almost every alcoholic compares his drinking to someone else s always a Hea vier Drinker and denies that he has a problem. I can Tell them All there Are Only three roads  alcoholics Anonymous the psycho Ward or the morgue. Kids and teen agers Are drinking at a younger age and More heavily than Ever before and it s getting worse. For every alcoholic there Are at least five people who Are affected by his drinking. In Ai anon i found the peace of mind1 that saved my sanity. Please Ann Send those nervous con fused and empty  to us. There is a belter Wuy to live and Ai anon will show it to them. Reader in British Columbia Deir . Tanju for � Chance to say it again. Alcoholics Anonymous to an in Erna. Tonal Fellowship for Bolh men and women. It has absolutely the Best Success Rte for rehabilitating problem drinkers. A-., has proven much More effective than psych try counselling or religion and lit few. . Welcomes undone who shot of. No questions asked. At anon is in organization for people who decide to stay Wilh an alcoholic. It caches them thai they need not  it up or sleep in it nor should they in for him or her or try to cow his tracks. Bolh organizations Are in the Plant Book. They perform a marvelous service and a cd aged and sad Tho Samb of lives. Dear readers i am so pleased that the author of that heart warming poem. A b  made herself known. She � sir Westrum of Glenville Minn. The poem first appeared in a Book called perspectives on a Reader shares personal insight into eating disorders you be heard of anorexia Nervon and you re Slatting to hear More about bulimia pronounced boo tee Mia. Both arc eating disorders that a damage to both the physical and emotional parts of a person. Though it More common in women men also Are victims of the disorders. It s a psychological problem not a i seac you can t catch it. Bolh eating disorders involve an obsession to be thin. How Many times have you read a Magazine or heard a commercial about a new diet product or another diet plan diet is a four letter word our modern world is obsessed with the word Dalti. It seems to be considered attractive you Are supposed to be  the anorexic and or bulimic take it 10 a dangerous extreme by either starving themselves or by self inducing purging vomiting or laxatives or Bat the victim put themselves into a limbo they cannot seem to get  of. The bulimic lives in a world of secrecy afraid to be found  and rejected. They can be of Normal weight but the fear is to gain weight. The anorexic usually starves herself and even a Cracker could cause her to vomit because she believes it will cause immediate weight gain both the Norwic and bulimic Are experts on the calorie Content of foods. Their food lists have two headings Good and bad. The lower the calorie Content the better. But a bulimic May of on a Binge and consume 20,000 calories in one silting then turn around and purge it away. She s disgusted with herself because of her habit hinging and purging. Shame and guilt Are constant feelings of. The anorexic and bulimic. Cd to meet a person with these disorders they Are pleasant and outgoing people. They arc people a losers wanting acceptance by whomever they come in Contact with. They take on guilt if they feel any rejection. They believe they must have some thing wrong with them if there is rejection. They Are very physically Active to Burn hidden calories. They never let anyone get too emotionally close someone May find . The anorexic turns sexually in Active but the bulimic can Liu very sexually Active. Their self image is so distorted that the Mirror will show a thin or Skinny person but the anorexic or bulimic sees fat. Whether they Are conscious of it or not they re slowly killing themselves. Many have died from it. No one is immune to it anyone in any lifestyle can suffer from it. Well known celebrities have suffered and some still do. Haw does it happen it could be several reasons none of them simple. An abusive relative a husband boyfriends girl friends a wife or the world s obsession with dieting. The abuse could be physical or emotional or both. The end result is a living hell for the sufferer. The person with the Dit order cannot cure herself. It lakes help from a professional and self help. Self help a the strength within yourself. The first step is to admit the problem to yourself. The next step is the hardest. Admitting it to an outsider prefer rally a professional. The professional will nol judge you or be Little you they Are there to help. You need to learn not to be so hard on yourself Don t let negative thoughts and feelings run your life. It s time to see the positive it s there and you need to feel it again. You arc not alone thousands of people suffer from these disorders. I am one of them. I am re covering from a six and a half year Battle with anorexia and bulimia. I know the self hate and the humiliation first hand. I know the loneliness and the depression. I have been going to therapy for six months and my determination to. Beat my disorders is growing. My lowest weight was 110 pounds which ii very Low for a 5" 10" woman. 1 experienced the self induced vomiting and laxative abuse. My diet consisted of Coffee no calories and occasionally some Good food also Low caloric but i d purge anything that went past my lips except Coffee. I lied to doctors friends and loved ones burling my loved ones became they could see me disappearing before their eyes. With their love support and prayers i am responsibilities of patients cited your report on military medical facilities showed the concern and Effort which the Dod is investing in medial care for Mili tary families. That they do want Quality care is obvious. What the reporter did nol emphasize is that health care b a two Way Street. Clients of the system or patients have responsibilities too which Are not to abuse the emergency facilities and to follow the care prescribed. Too often people dash into the emergency facilities because it is easier than making an appointment for care during regular operating hours. They also think they know better than the doctor. Health care professionals cannot do it All and they should not be blamed when the us incas or ignorance of the patients reduces the effectiveness of treatment. No obstetrician military or not Ever approved of the diet or smoking of Many of the pregnant women observed in eating places around the bases. If military personnel and their dependents were required to be responsible patients Dod would be Able to recruit and retain committed Quality staff. Helen Israel Moe Rongen Germany human rights reminder offered considering human sight week was observed recently 1 feel that the United Stales should look Back and Sec what it has done for the advancement of human rights Over the past 37 years. The United states has had a few successes including the improved human rights climate in Argentina however her continues to a a Gross violation of human rights in Many countries. Many of these countries Are considered allies of the United , for example tie nation of Chile. The autocratic regime of Auguito Pinochet has been responsible for the disappearance death and torture of Many people. However the United states has failed to protest Towse tract fecs. Similar events Are taking place in Turkey Pakistan and the Philippines. As a signer of the Universal declaration of human rights and a country dedicated to democratic principles the United Stales must take action and Stop dragging its feel on the human rights issues in these coun tries. If we Don to then the observation of human rights week will be meaningless. James a Smith 111 Frankfurt pen pals i Rau Ilki to Pom it two in to Mill coat re. I am 17 Voon old. I hive Kurot Erath Tor tin Man Khmel i Llu 10 to worn to put Khouv two hid in Bill to enl kid us to a Ivri in to Wertli my err hmm i on  cd a not la Barton. Jour to Ukko ainu he term mar 41 Feid aka to Haw myi i 14 Van eld Luxl ipuh Mam to tour he ounce ural Auto pint a Tahr inc. Ciui dmm. Dir Anu ally 50lp.o. Ton a � i a n inn on we would m � 10 Hove in us published id your fun pal column inv Hobby a bib of Jinns re my my Eufrocina neural often ill 4504, philippine on the Road to recovering. But i also know that my eating disorders did t happen overnight so i cannot it pct hem to go away overnight. It s scary sometimes but 1 am Loo Dele mined nol to Ever fail kick again. So. If Yuu read this and you re a person with a eating disorder whether starting or have been on one for a while remember that Yuu Aren t alone get help1 Don t let it run your life if you Aren t a sufferer. Don t find it too easy to condemn. Every one has problems no one is perfect. Take it from someone who knows Pai ale Quinn acc Kersula Germany Wall souvenirs i noticed in the stars Anil stripes a Pic Ture of Secretary of state George Shutlz standing on an elevated Pat form adjacent to the Berlin Walt looking into East Berlin. The thought occurred Why nol suggest to Easl Berlin and East Germany that they offer portions of the Wall for Sale As souvenirs in the form of bricks chunks stubs. Dust etc., which could be manufactured into mementos As plaques desk pen sets paper weights or just something to tick around. They could can a bundle in much needed hard currency while we would Benefit from manifesting a different perspective in lifestyles. We would lose a tourist attraction. How Ever we could always reconstruct a replica of the Berlin Wall in Disneyland. Nicholas Oriska Augsburg Germany european edition capt Daue k. Patter we. Us editor in ctr cmos Jeffrey t Yakiv. Us of Mil editor in Chi . 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