European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 16, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday february 16. 1986 the stars and stripes Anh Landers dear Ann Landers the letter from bummed Oia in West Palm Beach rang my Bell. I be been there. In fact my ton it 35 going on 10. Bummed is worring about get. Ting her kid through High school. The Oddi Are he will never graduate. Mine graduated from Reform school. Then he graduated from the prison systems in five states. We have had him in and out of therapy since he was 9 years old. He has had problems with drugs and alcohol Start ing at age 1 1 and has been threatening Sui cide since he was is. He is Accident prone and Bat wrecked every car he has driven. His uncontrollable temper has made it impossible for him to sustain a relationship with a woman. He has mistreated every female he Ever went with. Of course they get tired of the abuse and leave. He then runs Back to us and rants and raves because the whore walked  he can t hoj a Job but it is never his fault. We have offered him More psychiatric help any time he is willing to accept it but be says he has never met a sane psychiatrist and refuses to waste any More Timeon screwball. Our other children Are Good Young adults and have never caused us any trouble. But one child like this can keep the whole family in an uproar. It s Plain hell. This son was raised with the same love and atle lion Hii siblings received yet he is totally different. I am not writing for advice. It is too late for that. I guess maybe i just wanted to let other parents who have this problem know they Are not alone. Meanwhile if you have any theories on Why our son is the Way he is i would like to hear them. Sympathetic in Florida dear sympathetic Many things in life defy explanation and Bow Cudrey turn out is one of them. Vow pm sounds is if be hat been pm Liaa ally disturbed from Early childhood ii also is apparent that be has a criminal mentality which Many experts now Benet u til by chemical problem i Ike brain. Sometimes Roe Kation b a pm  it was kind of you to write in the scope that of scr parents with distorted Ellorea might Foel better knowing they Are not alone. To As Yon am Betat of to of them. Dear Ann your advice to the woman whose min ister husband is chased by women in the congregation was perfect. You advised her to treat him As if he were the most Honora ble. Faithful and trustworthy Man in the world. Yoo said give him something to live up to and chances Are Good that he will not let you  my husband is a medical student. Behave been married for three years. His work schedule is terrible. Some weeks we Are together for Only one night in six. He works with some very attractive females. It would be so easy for him to slip into an empty room with a Gal Nave been tempted to cheat occasionally but my husband1 Page 11 letters and i m sure he feels the same about me. Keeping the Faith in Syracuse dear Syracuse Trust on both sides is far More effective thai accusations threats or game playing. Thanks for the testimony. In reminder and letter to a editor must Connate rules for commissary Exchange shopping reviewed i recently began dating a woman in the Canadian armed forces stationed at cab Lahr. Recently when she was visiting me i tried to take her shopping at the Ramstein commissary and base Exchange. At both facilities she was  Entrance eve though she presented her Canadian armed forces id card. We were told she could Goin Only if she was stationed at rams Lem and had orders to prove it. This seems to me a shameful policy. Can Ada is so often referred to As our Good neighbor and closest ally. Their military is Over Here doing the same Job As ours. . And other nato military personnel Are welcomed into the Canadian Exchange which incidentally has similar and often cheaper prices. So Why Are we treating our Good Canadian friends this Way i was embarrassed and ashamed of this policy As Well As angered a Little. I would like to know Why it is this Way staff sgt. Scott r. A boo Ramstein a Germany editor s note we hate two replies to Thuc letter. The first is from col Ronald s. Leach commander he european Region a Force commissary service a coms air Force commissary store privileges Are not normally extended to military personnel of foreign nations unless approved by he Safe. However non us. Nato military personnel who an assigned to a nato inter National military Headquarters that is located on a us. A base in Germany Are authorized commissary privileges. Com hoary privileges Are generally More restricted than several other base activities in that funds for commissary operations Are appropriated by the  with the mandate that authorized personnel will not sell or give away commissary purchases. Our second reply is from master sgt. Bruce a Zell Szorf customer relations specialist. Public affairs office he cafes Europe our Foj sighs. The floor checker at the Ramstein Mala store was wrong in refusing entry to your head. Members of the Ca Nadian forces who present a carib form 20, along Witk members of the British army s just in Case you did t know this is to inform the he . Army Post Al group Europe that yes at one time there was a reduced rate for greeting cards that weren t sealed but just had the Flap lucked in. Also there was a local rate  letters destined for the same town or City  that was Many years ago. Now i join name withheld in Ansbach in dating ourselves Hal Kelley shape Belgium editor s note our new York office replies the letter writer is Correct in stating that there was a time when Christmas cards could be sent at a reduced rate provided the Flap was tucked into the Enve Hope rather than using it As a Seal according to Rita Monroney the is. Postal service historian in Washington persons doing this were actually tending their cards As third class mall rather than first class mail. The latter because it was sealed bad an element of privacy which the unsealed mall did not. Those sending unsealed mail at third class rates were not permitted to include any Type of personal communication and were Only supposed to sign their cards although this Rule was often violated. This practice remained in effect until the 1967 Christmas season. Then on Jan. 7, 1968, postage rates changed and the first ounce of first class Man became six cents while Oki first two ounces of third class Ball also became six cents. So there was no longer any  to mail ing unsealed Christmas cards. The rate Structure for the Yean prior 1968 looked like this one ounce of first class mail was three cents from 1932 to 1958, four ecu from 1958 to 1963, and five cents from 1963 to 1968 at which time it was raised to six cents. Two ounces of third class mall were two cents from 1929 to 1958, three cent from 1958 to 1963, four cents from 1963 to 1968 and went  cents in 1968. Lonely Reader shares feelings living overseas with the military no matter How rewarding can be a very lonely experience at times. Please print his for Al those out there who like me have occasion ally Felt this emptiness of heart it takes away the sting or at least it did for me when i wrote it one lonely night perhaps ? i am so lonely for those i love for those who Are close to my heart. There Are time when i feel As though my very soul shall burst. The emotions that race through rerun so fast that i can scarcely grasp them for even a moment. I am so alone. I cannot share the Burn Ings of my heart with anyone. There is no one Here to listen and were there i do no know that i could even Tell them then. The Depths of the soul run beyond our human sight. Even we cannot touch the very deepest part of ourselves. How then Are we to share that dynamic intensity others we simply do the Best that an. Or do we perhaps that fright of withe can the unknown drives us into quiet secrecy. Secrecy. If we choose not to share the Depths which we con reach perhaps those which we cannot shall stay in the beyond and be safer there. Perhaps that abysmal part of us is woebegone and wretched or insecure or  perhaps the contrary is True and those soulful Depths Are diffuse and Beautiful magical and tilled with White Light. Perhaps that which we cannot reach an fear so blindly u the very heart of god. The very reason for All that b Good in us. The abyss May in fact be the Zenith. The perennial Paradox. Perhaps the burnings of my heart which i cannot speak Are known to one. Perhaps i am not  withheld Clessen circa a. 6th general dispensary overlooked in a recent edition Judy Sarasohn writes that the Camp new Amsterdam clinic is the Only is. Medical facility in the Neth  staff at the 6th general dispensary located in by unum the nether lands May take Issue with that the 6th general dispensary serves a military Community almost As Large As the one in and around Camp new Amster dam. The last time i looked they we reconsidered to be a us. Medical facility. 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