European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 27, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers tuesday May 27, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers something has been bothering me for Yean and i have never had he nerve. To ask anyone for tear of revealing my ignorance. Will you help Over the years i am in my Middle 50s 1 have seen of. Many people cry f when they Are unhappy. But i also have seen people cry when they Are overjoyed. The most recent example was woman who won $10,000 on the Dick Clark show the 125,000  it was very exciting. She got her last Correct answer a Sec Ond before the Lime ran out. Three relatives dashed up from the audience and hugged her. She sat Down in a chair and cried Why Why Why Plain ignorant in Chicago it Trcic according id be writings of or. Edmund Batter prolific freudian theoretician tears of happiness do not appear unless the Happy went has been preceded by n Long period of uncertainty despair and anxiety. The flood comes As a release of tension caused by All those negative feelings it i interesting too Bow often laughter ind Leara Are departed by a hair s breath. Sometimes laughter turns to tears and rite versa. How complicated we Are dear Ann Landers i have a dear Friend who is driving me crazy. I will Call her Wiilie she and her husband just celebrated their 57lh wedding anniversary. They Are both 79 years old. Tillie is upset because her husband s sex drive has slowed up. She lays she is sure he in t seeing another woman because he is never out of her sight. I tried to explain that time takes its toll but she says she has t lost a darn thing in that department and wonders Why he has. Can you explain it confidentially speaking in new England Dearco fld a 79-year-old male should hot Bex petted to perform sexually like be did when be was 22. In Nike that Tillie does t think she s Tost a darned thing in that department but a sprit maybe her memory in t As Good it used to be. Dear Ann Landers a few Days ago my husband and i received a wedding announcement in the mail. We noted the Date it was posted and it was on the Day of the wedding. The following Day we received an invitation 10 the wedding. It was walled one Day before the wedding. If these folks really wanted us to attend the wedding Why did they Send the invitation so late that it would be impossible for. Us to attend and Why did we receive an announcement As Welt As an invitation we Are Hurt and confused. Had the invitation arrived even three Days before the wedding we would have attended. Now we Don t know if we should Send a gift. Your opinion of All these questions is wanted. No City or state please just baffled dear Baff sounds As if your imitation was mailed u a fun bought. I would be in no hurry to Send a gift. Dear Ann Landers when the hostess brother in Law left the dinner table and threw up in the sink she called the Guy s wife in handed her a sponge and asked her to clean up the mess. You thought that was of. Why did t she give that Slob the sponge and Tell him to clean it up just asking in Conn. Dear just you have a Point. Many ethers wrote to ask the same question. I assumed the Guy its too lick but maybe i was wrong. System of making medical appointments explained my family lives in Wei Truetken and i am having a terrible Lime making an appointment for my 18-month-old daughter at the Wiesbaden ophthalmology clinic. She was seen last summer and was to return in november of 1985. La is More than four months later and i am still unable to make an appointment Cor her. I called sent. 2 and was told her doctor was booked up. On oct. I he was booked for november but i was told to Call Back on nov. Id. On nov. 15, 1 was unable to gel through All week even after calling for is minutes twice a Day i was old the doctor was on leave for december and no appoint ments were  dec. 13, again after calling for Many Days he was again booked for january. Then i was Able to reach the appointment desk and Laid to try again on March 10 and that her doctor was leaving in late March or Early april when i asked that she be scheduled with someone else i was told she had to Sec the same doctor unless he Hud left on a permanent change of station. What i would Tike to know is this Are there so few appointments available and this is Why four months have passed without getting an appointment is it because the doctor is Loo Busy and if so Why can t my daughter see another doctor Are the appointment lines so Busy that everyone has this difficulty gelling through or is it be cause 1 am calling Long distance each month i have spent at teas 10 min utes a Day constantly dealing and it has taken is Long As five Days to reach the num Ber. I did ask my local patient affairs office to make her appointment when they Call the Wiesbaden clinic but they told me that since it is for a follow up appointment that t must Call for it myself. Deborah Harris we Bruecken a Germany editor s note cot. Martin e. Ziti administrator us a f regional med ical Center Wiesbaden replies As a regional medical Center we serve an enormous population from throughout Europe and the Middle esl so the total number of ophthalmology appointments available is Small compared to the Popula Tion served. As with everything resources Are limited in terms of Telephone lines and clerks la answer Ibern so you encounter the same problems whether you Are from the local Cannon comments on arc since recent articles on the armed forces recreation Center arc have generated considerable interest i feel the need to share with the readers and the arc workforce some of my own perspectives. As the Deputy chief of staff personnel of Usa eur it is my responsibility to ensure the continuing viability of arc in providing recreational opportunities to All service Membris and their families throughout the Neucom area. Implicit in that responsibility is provision for courteous hospitality services and attractive recreation programs at affordable rates. Also implicit responsibility of management is the enhancement of a supportive leadership climate for the workforce in the Pursuit of the a Fri Mission. Consequently i View the unfortunate remark attributed to or. Anton Gotsche with deep concern and have directed him to personally communicate to the workforce and ease the pain of a misdirected comment. I sincerely Hope that the Loyal and competent arc workforce can accept or. Gotsche s explanation and put this incident behind them. He will Institute additional internal communication Means in the future to improve dialogue. As a Mailer of overreaching interest i need to relate to All concerned the challenging times facing not Only arc but All morale welfare and recreation activities. The prevail ing imperative is to manage All Nafis in a More business like manner. As an enduring recreational Complex arc must also undergo a Long overdue modernization Effort in terms of improved management More efficient business operations and consolidation of facilities. The ensuing necessary adjustments will cause unavoidable personnel turbulence. I want to assure the workforce however that while some reduction in Force May occur it is our sincere desire to Minimise the personal anguish and concerns of those who have loyally supported arc throughout the years. Mij. Gen. Archie s. Cannonjr. Deputy chief of staff personnel a Usa eur Heidelberg Reader tired of hearing whiners if t hear one More complaining married e1-e3 or whining family member of Elel i think til scream before they eat married did these kids give any thought Al All to their financial situation after marriage did they not con Sider acquiring some rank and saving some Money before marrying for the Good of the government and per haps for the Good of these kids they should be offered an instant Early out. In a time of budget crunch the government cannot afford to baby sit and Moll coddle these immature people. Pen pals i would ilk to Nuhi a Tandi Fawn other court Lyle through four pen Pel auth 1 in x surf old and ilk ill Mylna run if ind Nedlung Pomi Boot i am Auk Noirl Markusi g. Torrel pure Mutu Catli Klagert Oulu guile ally we would like to be in tour pen my column. We Are to Bovi and would ill pen Eali from Over in world. We Are Bolt ii Hurt of. Cur rabble Art a tit to Dong ind collecting Iti Cpl we i learning Enol Lui. Carilyn Roeh Helm time . 7 h04 Lillar  Germany let these kids try to hit up their civilian employees for tax free rent Money tax free food Money free medical care Etc. Aba White some of these kids Are complaining about commissary prices they sure have some fancy audio and video gear and Nice cars. This letter is written with no malice. I simply would like to shake some common sense into these kids which they desperately need. Marriage and its economic results Are these kids responsibility not the government s. Quite frankly in the last few years the government has made it too lucrative to get married. Mare Money and getting out of the Barracks Are not reasons enough to get married. Name and location withheld brat information Oversea brats i � new semiannual bump urm about the Veneal experience of Ute who Ell ended or Mere Eudoc lated Ullh Dod or . Nov err ment Tupp arled Junior and senior Hjohn school around the world. Towt planning run last  a Rollert and Olla Yinqu Lohn Art needed. We in a Noo Wolf own Viallon. For More information write overseas , am tas sen Antonio Tei 7iiw. Area or calling Long distance. Most patient affairs offices do assist patients in obtaining follow up appoint mils we a initial appointments and we encourage Yon to a them and avoid the fru Stalkn and expense of nuking Long distance phone Calls. Your patient affairs office pm. Simply and us a message request Jne an appoint ment and we will hold it until we can 111 their request. Using this method we will Book an appointment within three to Fite Days which meant that your daughter will be Stan sometime within the next 30 Days. Your patient affairs office will be notified of the exact Date and Lime so they can pass it on to you. You May Hare been misinformed about your daughter being unable in see a differ ent physician if you desire a different physician and appointments arc available icy should hate booked your daughter with another provider. We hate reminded the appointment clerks id Honor thai Type of request. The appointment system is changed on no. 15,1985, to provide a constant 30-Day period of appointments. This Means thai every Day we will be opening another Day s Worth of appointments in each clinic. For a Busy clinic such As ophthalmology you should Call first thing in the morning. If you an not successful Call Back the next morn ing and keep trying. Obviously it b to your advantage id have the patient affairs office insist Yew when you Are calling loaf distance. R he j european edition capt Dale k. Patterson used Cdr in chief Cmor Jef by i. Zakem ugh it put Edurn h of Kef 6.w. Sikac Kweku. 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