European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 13, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday August 13, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Caridei dear Ann Landers i know Here Are Many men and women who have this prob Lem but ire reluctant to write. Ii ii extremely difficult for me o put this Down on paper but i Fedi must. My son killed a Young girl White driving drunk. Two Yean Laler my Best Friend s daughter who also was driving drunk killed her Roommate. When the second Accident happened i had a five hour talk with my Friend. We unburdened our selves to one another. It was wonderful for both of us because in was the first Lime we had Ever opened up our feelings about the agony and guilt we fell. My Friend said she had t had a Good night s sleep until we talked about our feelings. I told her the same was True of me. We Are both heartsick for the mothers and fathers who have lost heir children but we suffer too. We Are the parents whose sons and daughters have killed peo ple while driving drunk. We have no Choice but to forgive our children and live with the Nightmare everyday. My Friend and i want to do something constructive. Talking to one another is Fine but we would like to do More than just talk. Is there a group we might join to help gel drunk Drivers off the streets and highways and at the same time give us the peace of mind that comes from doing something positive Kings Park . De up Yon on right on. I Inge it thai you Contact Madd mothers against drunk driving. The National head quarters is tooled a 669 Airport freeway suite 310, Hunt Tea 76853-391. This organization Doe an excellent Job. They will be ple cd to hear from Yon and others to mull to do Tome turf Pool tire boat thu born Gnu problem dear Ann Landera 1 know you get your Best phony tetters from Yale but this one it for real. I m Noi a Yale but i la be a freshman in the fall please put this letter in language that will not offend anyone. I need help and this in t the kind of problem you can talk to just anybody about. My folks have no idea. I fad. Ave never told anyone to put it bluntly i cannot urinate in front of any body. I have had this problem for a Long As i can remember. For the last two years i have been in boarding school at Hotchkiss i always waited until i was alone or could get a private stall. I Don t know of any other kid who has Tail weird bang up. I have to get Over it soon because i will be living with a lot of Guy and 1 would die if anyone found out about ii. I feel abnormal when 1 see Guys relieving themselves without living it a second thought while i stand around like a nerd wailing for a private place. I be been Reading you Ever Lince i was in the eighth Grade and 1 think you Are a very sincere and smart lady. I Cue help me. Anonymous Freak in Conn. Dor about Are not Weirdo or a Irak. Want you have is Calk � bashful  i a primed letters tool thai problem before. The inability to urinate in the presence of others is purely psychological and no big Deal. When Yon get to Yak talk to Counselor about it. Once Yon find out Why you at eloped that inhibition you will be me to free . Wittl b my and Elci band Kayc  . Broken Finger spurs medical question i have a question i Hope can get answered. My Hus band and 1 were wrestling around and i accidentally broke his Finger. It has now swollen to the Point that he can l Wear his wedding band. I have asked and pleaded with him to have his Finger a Rayed. He refuses to do so. His Rea sons for suffering in pain Lei me give you the conversation he says if i go in they la ask me How it happened. They will do a investigation to find out if it is on or off  i ask a Harj the difference he says my commander ill be Coa acied to make sure that the broken Bone happened off duty. If so we will have copay for  you re in the military they should t make you pay for it i retorted it is free for  get in an Accident unduly he says. You mean so Tell me that a dependent can gel hurl As often As they want and gel All their medical attention free but if a service member gels Hurt off duly he she gets charged i said. He agrees i said that s stupid. Servicemen. Ers tire humans not machines they can always pre vent an Accident from happening just because they arc of duty he then tells me there was a Soldier who lacerated his Finger on a jagged piece of brass. In was an Accident thai he dropped it. He went into the Hospital and he explained what had happened. An investigation was done and it was found to be an off duty Accident. The Soldier was Ihen fined around $600, excuse me charged 5600, i always thought that hospitals military arc de signed Loaid service members not dependents. I think if they want 10 keep those dedicated Soldier sin they need to Lake care of their off duty accidents Loo without charging them an Arm and a leg. Please Correct him if he s wrong. If he is wrong i apologize Bui if he is right i think corrections Are in order. Name withheld Hanau editor s note Sec. William p. Strete de sense eligibility enrolment system deers project coordinator he 7th medical cored replies thank Yon for your letter and let me express my sincere Hope that your husband has sought treatment for his injury by this time. I can assure you that your husband or any other Soldier for that mutter will not be charged for medical care simply because his or her injury or disease occurred while on an off duty status when a Soldier is injured or contacts a a base whether on or off duly the circumstances surround ing the incident arc Inre Sagale. In cases where a sol Dier is Farad to ban contracted in illness or incurred a injury due to his or her intentional misconduct or we lung negligence certain administrative actions May be implemented As specified in a 600-33. These casts Are by no Means common and Are scrutinized very closely by a number of authorities before they can be finalized. Wilful negligence to defined As intentional disregard for proper Ore trader the circumstances. Intentional misconduct if wrongful or improper conduct which to intended or deliberate. Under the Circum mince Yoo hint presented your Hus band s injury would not be considered an act of wilful negligence or intentional misconduct because no Ham was intended or anticipated. Sheinberg Reader praises store manager i am writing in reference to an article in the military Roundup in a recent stars and stripes. Entitled scrolls of appreciation presented to 13 by Otis it listed the individuals and their Home cities except for one very important Man Herr Wieland wet Mann. It slated executive manager Morten s department store  Reading your article one might assume that he works in Heidelberg or Frankfurt. This Fine gentleman is from the City of More which is the near est major City to Sheinberg where the mighty 7lhsupport come is located. In May 1985, heir Wellmann worked with therm women s club in presenting an exhibit through out his store entitled american women  and tomorrow which led to numerous inquiries and school projects in the area. The americans Here thank him for his support. Orot. Mary Pat Kleer Heinberg Germany catching up with All the dishonest folks ii does my heart Good to read in the the stars and stripes about the department of the army catching up with these people who have cheated the govern ment army out of millions of dollars for Many years. 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