European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 30, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday november 30,. 1b6s the stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann Landers Mcnolly a woman whew life Auh of a kidney transplant wrote to say the would give anything totem whose kidney Theono lived to she amid thank the family for  Tenenty. You said polio my she Cou Leani the Iden Tity of the donor and that you dTflj�3mtwj?a? Law hold it Ann. Not to fast. Two yet no rav husband a 34 received the kidney of a 15-year old lad who was kilted in a car Accident. We too warned to know the family i we could thank them property Wen now. We can t get them out of our lives. The Mother a divorced woman was emotionally destroyed by the tragic death of her Only child. She hat attached herself to my husband in the belief that Herson it living again in my Hosband t body. The woman telephones almost every Day. Shows Pat our door uninvited and does everything possible to be part of our lives. She has become such a problem that we have considered moving out of the City. So please Don t be so Quick to advise people to be come socially acquainted with the families of the do nors. We wish we had let Well enough alone. Sorry in the Pacific Northwest dear Sony Hen s a letter from ton we who agree with you dear Ann Landers before 1 finish Reading the paper 1 want you to know there Are some very Good reasons Why a recipient should not know the family of the donor. I worked in the records department of the liver an kidney transplant unit at the University Hospital in Denver before or. Tom Sularz moved his program to Pittsburgh i left Colorado in 80. I saw Many donor families who expected recipients to fulfil the fantasies they bad for their dead child. It waa common. Less common was the family who later wanted Money from the family of the recipient. 1 could go on and on about the psychological end ashment that occurs when these two families get to know each other. It rarely ends in a simple thank  please get this information before the Public. It could save a lot of grief. Simply Date Mark . Deard atmark Banka for the testimony. A a now Here is another Point of few from one of the world t leading to Insp ants recons. Or. Norman Shumway chief of cardiovascular Arm at Stanford University  a Telephone Conr Enatka or. Shammy Sih not ill Dompf but to know the family of the recipient an not All recipients want to know the family of the donor. Ikea Thor do Erar Tsi the with however we Terezn both Fumju can ally far photo Fol problems and huty Weed out the to Bod Ato out. So far we Hare s. The families we Hare pot to further hate All been very grateful and everyone has or the a Lesota medial school sex i t Potat of few. He said we ban done Hen and Rulith Intro Dac Ratreal their a tasty Watt Myrln  aka. Take Yow pick. . Pagat letters cos should act role. Army Mentor says i would like to Start by asking have you Ever put other officers and Fetlow noncommissioned officers Down in the presence of subordinates failed to up hold what is written in a 670-1 and pm 22-00-20? or just did t do the Job required fan no a Job for which you Are getting paid?1 lands of other professional noncommissioned officers Are trying to strengthen within the army so we May proudly say we aretha Backbone of the United slate army As an incl Rector Iranner at the 7th army noncom i ironed officers Academy bad to Eli Germany. I am presented with the Challenge of building the leadership foundation of future noncommissioned officers. Each time a new group of prospective noncommissioned officers arrive i among 27 other professional noncommissioned and senior noncommissioned offi cers attempt to instil among other subject Mailer the 19 trails of character which include self discipline integrity tact and most importantly assertiveness along with the principles of leadership some being seek responsibility and Lake responsibility of your actions and set the  in class it seems that the same question always pops up How can we go Back to our units and apply what we Haw been taught when our senior cos Wilt not Back us up this question should never have to be asked. Pm 22-600-20 is an no guide which should bread on a regular basis and understood by future and present noncommissioned officers. It contains information on the no support Channel and the duties and responsibilities which we As professional noncommissioned officers should instill in our soldiers. Our soldiers expect this and deserve nothing ins. For example when an on the spot correction is made on t subordinate the deficiency should be corrected at that time even when dealing with soldiers of equal or higher rank. When a senior fails to support policy or presents a negative Altitude in the presence of subordinates it not Only sets a poor example for those subordinates to follow it destroys loyalty within the unit and military. Subordinates see this negative attitude displayed Byan no and adopt this Altitude is their own thus the vicious Cycle begins and carries on to the next Genera Tion of soldiers. We the noncommissioned officers of All armed forces should set High standards and set Good examples for our subordinates to follow. This can Only be accomplished by obtaining those standards ourselves. It has been said a Well disciplined unit is one that accomplishes All missions ensures equipment is maintained and has soldiers who look Sharp and act  if self discipline cannot be obtained in peacetime twill surely not be present in Lime of major conflict. We need competent and professional noncommissioned officers to uphold what is written in Ari and fms. They were written for a purpose not to Lay Dor Mant on a shelf or in a drawer. What it All boils Down to is if you can t do the Job Asa noncommissioned officer gel out of the Way and let someone who can or is willing to try. The army has nouse for incompetent noncommissioned officers. Staff sol John Rhodenizer bad Tolz Germany mom thankful for kindness after Accident i know that you Don t run thank you tellers very often but 1 would greatly appreciate it if you would print this. Recently while i was talking to a lady that i know who will be leaving soon i was tit by a 2 a ton vehicle. The damage was minor a dislocated shoulder and some minor discomfort. I know that the injuries could have been a lot worse because my daughter had been standing in the exact Budoi where i was less than one minute before i was hit never in my Tife have i been More grateful and thank Tut than now that she gives people a hug and a kiss before she leaves. It saved her from what could have been some very serious injuries. I do not know How Many people were there thai showed concern about me and exactly who called the ambulance but there were Many. The medics and the physician s assistant from the unit Down the Street administered first Aid along with the people who were immediately there after the Accident and comforted pen pals Pimm to my lung to your Phi pal a Brno. Me until the ambulance arrived. The ambulance attendants were extremely kind and Kepi my spirits up with what English that they knew and what German i knew. The Hospital staff was also kind they put up with a american who was spleen to say the least. The maps were also great they put up with my 4-year-old who did not understand what was going on with Mommy and did not release her to anyone other than my husband even though there were fiends there who could have taken care of her until my husband arrived. I can t forget the German workers who kept asking if was of and who kept telling everyone to get More blankets to keep me warm until the ambulance arrived. So to one and All including everyone from the com Pany that showed their concern a he artful thank you Roberta Roberta net dim Germany Tobi Trow co. Be 9&apoh.v.041m-kh7 pm Jiuhui my mme in your fun nil leu Al. I a 20. Hurtad Imp . A Hoytol pm fair books tin  Eurim qty us of. Mai boy Bug Eun Ifasi Bur i Urjil my i m it Van Mil.  mttmsunwdsli1i.phkh1 10m.d-Bi dirT1 my a