European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 14, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday december 14. 1966 the stars and stripes Page 7 Busy mom offers ftps for Holiday serenity san Francisco up Holiday shoppers suffering from gift buying stress should slow Down and give the most precious present or All a Little bit of themselves says recovering super woman Carol Orsborn a Busy Mother. This is the time of the year when it is most appropriate to have peace Quality relationships and a sense or Joy said Orsborn the founder of a women s organization dedicated to the Pursuit of downward mobility. Yet most people replace these ideals with stress struggle and trying to please everyone. So what you have is a lot of bum cd put people trying to believe they re hav ing fun she said. Orsborn the Mother of two is the president of the Orsborn group a Public relations firm the founder of the 2,500 member women s Anonymous Organiza Tion and the. Author of the Book enough is  she said said women in particular take on super chore attitudes during the holidays. Our Basic message for these Supero men is that the most precious gift you can give yourself your friends and your family in t Money or material things it is time. The most valuable commodity inthe 1980s is time she said what your friends and family really want is a Happy  instead of falling into the trap of try ing to make All of their children s dreams come True she suggested that women downscale the theme to May some of your dreams come  otherwise you la end up working overtime and they won t get what they really want anyway which is a Happy and relaxed mom she said Orsborn who is balancing the Art of Sim ple living with a profession and family says women can be successfully taught How not to Cope juggle or manage. In her Book she gives exercises in doing nothing and believes that women can dare to be less. For turning stress into sanity Orsborn offers the following suggestions for the Holiday season instead of trying to find the perfect gift for everyone buy All your friends tickets to a concert or play and go together As a group. Go Holiday Spir iting instead of holi Day shopping. Enjoy the decorations Yule lid crowds and festivities without having any particular goals in mind. Without the usual stress you might find the perfect gifts. If giving a party Send out the holi Day invitation but make the event sometime in february providing an off season Opportunity Lor family an friends to gather together White keep ing you from being overwhelmed. Reconsider the time consuming convention of sending cards to everyone you know. Suggest your friends do the same and share a real gift Relief. If the children Are clamouring for expensive gifts sit Down with them and have a talk. Santa can still bring some surprises but ask if they would rather you be pressured to buy them gifts or whether it would t be better if you look some of that stressed time and spent it relaxing with them buy a smaller tree. Computer has drug sex data for youngsters Chicago a Young people in More than20 slates who have trouble asking their parents Tough questions about drugs and sex can Lurn to a computer program for confidential advice. Barn or body awareness resource net work is geared to help 11 to 18-year-Olds facing the temptations of premarital sex drugs drink ing and  40 percent of kids say they be tried cigarettes by the sixth Grade the seventh Grade is too late to Start educating them said Kris bos won barn project director at the University of Wisconsin which developed the health Edu cation computer  makes it easier to get answers to questions you might be too embarrassed to ask in class or ask your parents said Anna Morales an eighth grader at Lyman a. Budlong elementary school on Chicago s Northwest Side barn was developed Over four years by the Center for health and research systems at the University of Wisconsin at Madison which con ducted extensive tests involving 6,000 youths before completing the project last year. Students can choose among several subjects on the 25-hour, 40-disk  s five sections address body manage ment stress management alcohol and other drugs smoking and human sexuality. Schools Are encouraged to buy the whole set at s 1,195, but can buy just one Section Bosworth  in november 1985 by encyclopedia Fri Tunica educational corp., a subsidiary of Chicago based publisher be inc., barn Likely will have its greatest immediate Impact in Chicago the biggest customer. The City s Board of education bought 300 barn programs during the summer with an s800.00q Grant from the state department of alcoholism and substance abuse said John Briggs Brit Anica s barn director. Barn should by in place by february m Chi Cago s 69 High schools and in 20 selected elementary schools City officials said barn which takes its style Cue. From video games is colourful and very very visual using language geared to Young people said Britannica spokesman Michael Copeland. When a student goes to the diet Section. Cope land said he is asked to describe what he eats on a typical Day. The computer then might say you know Bill you re not getting enough  should eat More broccoli.". The program makes no moral judgments Copeland said. They can gel straight answers. The machine is not going to Tell them what to do but gives them information on which to base their decisions be said barn also has been purchased by school systems new Jenev. New r one arum us Wuido us. Soul Tiu Utah Virginia Wisconsin is Well As in Canada and Germany said Boson a. Cosmonaut Vladimir Sololov