European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 16, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Urban amenities in country a new Vort tim., television Monitor Nam sol to no Itom of into bedroom waft Swan Long Tel tuition Tiang bal wami Tow Aca i Ami faring Tea. By Carol Vogel new York times while the prototypical american Homo a freestanding House on its own land May still be the Norm in Man american suburbs a now style of housing is changing both the suburban landscape and the Way people in the United states live expensive Archil acl designed Cluster housing developments Are proliferating in towns around Many major cities offering the comr Orla and amenities of luxury Urban High rises in a country setting. Often built on open land surrounding Golf courses or on old estates these Cluster Homes May be from two to five attached family units grouped together into a design con rolled miniature Village. Amenities include microwave ovens iacuz2i3, centralized humidifying systems and Irish compactors grounds maintenance is usually included in the common charges. Unlike developments of the 1950s and 1960s that emphasized affordable housing these new developments Are priced according to what the Market will Bear. In some communities outside new York City for example Fife Cost of a two bedroom Cluster House ranges from $275,000 to about $500,000. Everything provided Tor these High prices has been carefully considered based on surveys conducted by Market research teams hired by the developers. As a result the similarities among Many communities Are striking clapboard exteriors with commodious entrances and eat in kitchens combined living and dining rooms powder rooms walk in closets skylights fireplaces and two car garages. Moreover buyers who Purchase Early can customize their units choosing such items As flooring and veneers on Kitchen appliances As Well As having the option of making More substantial structural changes with the help of the developers architectural teams. Our target audience was affluent couples from Wesl Chesler Long Island or Manhattan who have an Affinity toward a country dub Wea Lyte explained Ric Katz president of raws marketing. The company that worked with St. Andrews a development in Hastings on Hudson in was Chestar designed by Robert . Stem a Manhattan based architect so far two thirds of the people who have bought Homes in St. Andrews Are Between 10 and 60 years of age the other third Are split Between those under 30 and Over 60. About 85 percent Are golfers. St. Andrews is set on the grounds of the 3t. Andrew s Golt club the oldest Goll course in the United states which was redesigned by Jack Nicklaus. The development also offers its residents the use of an outdoor swimming living together big word is Compromise by William r queer new York times after she had moved into her husband a House Mary Meyer would wait until he had fallen asleep at night then slip out of bed and change things rearrange her Glass sculptures maybe move some furniture. If her husband did not like what she had done he would simply change it Back. Nothing was said bul you see it it bugs you. Then you sneak around in the Middle of the night and change things. Now Rie hangs his own pictures and i hang mine so they re All at different  Whan a couple decides to live together whether married o not one often gives up a Home to share the other s place. In the new Home they have to balance the newcomer s need to feel at Home with the first resident s need to preserve whal was there when i lived with him i did t feel that i could touch anything because it was his Domain said Moyer who lived with her husband for three months before they got married. But when i moved in after we were married the ural thing i did was rearrange the Kitchen to auit. Me i Hung up a lot of my Art. I rearranged a furniture. I had to put my Mark on the place now that i was  psychiatrists say that there is nothing Subtle about a newcomer s need to change the Home to Twig pictures Divide a closet or move the Couch. It is a need As Basic As expressing affection or anger. But More conflicts Are arising Over this Issue today because More people have lived alone before sharing a Home when they were on their own. Habits became ingrained we like to think that we As humans Are much Superior to animals but the nesting instinct is prevalent in All of us at All limes said psychiatrist Samuel c. Klagsbrun medical director of four winds Hospital a private psychiatric facility in Katonah . I think it s part o our innate need Tor control Lor Home kind of order that reflects who we Are but More primitive than that. It s our Security  because they Are going into a foreign land the person moving in must be allowed or invited to make some piece of that new turf their  Klagsbrun said. The one who is inside really must symbolically on some Laver make a behavioural statement of giving up a piece of their turf to the other  Helen a. 0ro an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the new York University school of Medicine says that setting aside space for the newcomer s things makes him or her feel like less of an intruder a 27-year-cu woman tool a Day where she had been living alone Lor five years to Many a new yorker. She arrived at the apartment they had purchased together and found Hal in the seven months her Bance had been there he had made no Effort to Clear space Tor he in the Cowels Tat alone the rest of the apartment. I did not feel  she said. "1 Felt As if a really was t prepared to split his space and it made me feel elected in t the right word but sort of lonely like a stranger. It was scary enough moving to a new  what did the woman do i unpacked fast and spread my things around she said. I took Over. His books were everywhere and they kind of overwhelmed the place so we bought proper bookshelves. This Guy is a pack rat and he was holding on to things for purely sentimental reasons. I offered gentle suggestions and a really trimmed things Down. Although he put up resistance and questioned my motives. I Don t think he resented ii she added it just did t Register that these might be things he should think  Detroit of mid him to prevent misunderstandings a couple should discuss what the routine was in the House before the newcomer s arrival. Where did sheets and towels go when was the laundry done How waa the House cleaned who came to visit and then they have to talk about How that routine might be changed. The premise Here i cooperation and anything that would intrude in any Way on the partner has to be  to triad Mali Abb word is Compromise and it Mut be there. As mover put it everything la an Taw Jeun e8 two people do the Twne thing the same Way. I it i had to have a pretty Good reason it order to assert my own  when h bugged him i Ildri l11 %. Page 16 the stars and stripes tuesday december 16.1980