European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 20, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse Woman As the Hunter by Jan Gehorsam associated Pressa researcher who a enl More than 900 hours spying on the singles bar scene says it s time to forget the notion of boy meeting Girt two thirds of the Lime women make the Tirol move. Tim Peiper a former assistant professor in biology and genetics told the annual meeting of the american anthropological association in Philadelphia that a woman chooses a Man not so much for his looks humor wealth or Power but for his ability to respond the Way she wants. Perper. Formerly of Rutgers University and his wife Martha Cornog conducted the research from in a to 19b1, mostly in now Jersey and in Philadelphia. He found that courtship Between strangers mounts to a five a tango they defined As approach talk turn touch and synchronize it begins with the woman picking her target and placing herself near enough to be noticed allowing the Man to think their meeting is a Chance encounter ii the conversation goes Well she turns her body toward him. Thai prompts him to turn toward her until they Are almost facing one another. The next stage is touch and again it s the woman who acts first touching the Man s Boulder or picking lint off his shirt Perper found. A Man who touches drat even with just a step on the Bach May be considered too familiar but he s in trouble if he does t reciprocate her touch. After touching the couple synchronize Ihler movements. They pick up Ihler glasses at the same time lean Back or Forward at the same time. It May even be a Mirror image he s leaning on his left Elbow she s leaning on her right Cornog said when they get to that Point you have two people who Are getting along very mod woman expert men to get the hint eventually and Lake charge Perper Laid. If she cuddles against him he s expected to put his Arm around her. If aha puts her head an his shoulder be e expected to kiss her. In anthropological jargon this is called initiative Transfer Overall Perper said the Sac Jenoe involves a. Romantic division of if thamm does t do his share he added the woman will move away. Even so. A Man who does not rasped a woman s wish to delay sex May lose his Chance he noted. It s a pattern of conduct that was first described Perper said by Plutarch in the first Century the Harry Frank Guggenheim foundation funded the two yer $34,000 project in which a also interviewed couples. In 1985 he wrote sex signals tha biology of love. Singles groups Hava since frequently sought i advice. Nflteam4bttnit it student of sife the truth can Hurt by Bob Webster United Presa International he truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth May do More harm than Good to relationships a University of Southern California study says. White lies those seemingly harmless of lad actually May do More Good for a relationship than a steady onslaught of honesty said or. Kenneth Serene chairman of communications arts and sciences at the u3c College of letters arts and sciences. How can you be sensitive thoughtful and caring ii you just blurt out what s on your mind All the time 7" Sereno asked. The general body of research shows that in a marriage you have to have Basic honesty Sereno said. It you Don t have Hal you won t have a Good relationship. The question is How much Sereno conducted a yearlong study of couples married and unmarried to determine How much tha Rulh hurts or helps relationships. The study of intimate communication found that the Tel it Ell hang out Credo of the 1960s May not Fly in the marriage. Inert t an Assumption Hal came out of he 18808 that the Best kind of relationship is one in which people Are truthful and honest with one another Sereno said. Not Loo Long after these ideals can out people realized what people were really he now they Are beginning to think it in t Elk that great to be totally honest All the Sereno and graduate student Melanie Rich interviewed 140 married or Cohan ralling acuity members and students at several California collages. After determining the amount of set Date closure in relationships Sereno then attempted to gauge the degree of satisfaction couples enjoyed in their relationships. According to the study satisfied couples tended to spend More Lime snaring their Hopes and dreams with one another unhappy couples said most of Ihler discussions entered on ears anxieties and moreover the study found that couples Hal could communicate in a polite manner with one another tended to get More satisfaction from their realtor whip. As for the truth Sereno said a Little bit can go a Long Way in Day to Day Ute. Urr no toying self disclosure in t relative in a relationship. We re probably saying that on a Day id Day bails this heavy Tola Honsl communication is probe by not what people ought to be doing he said. On a daily basis where seemingly innocent questions can spark an intense and usually unwanted probe of one s innermost feelings Loo much truth can be destructive Sereno said. No one wants to go Home every Day after working hard and have an intense conversation about the kind of relationship they have and the kind of person they Are Sereno said. Most of the ume it s Best to say Tine if your spouse asks How you Are. Then just relax and Eal but when a health or financial crisis arises full disclosure of the truth is the Best approach Sereno said. Concealing How one feels or what one thinks can cause serious problems he said. When these i hangs happen that s when people have to be honest about what if the crisis a of a More personal nature. How for example does the full Rulh come into play when an affair is discovered during a marriage or otherwise committed relationship if one of the parties finds out then both parties have to be totally honest Sereno said. If one does t find out i d read dear Abby and see what she a course. 9 whale school 11 old Eulier re 44feiwenr4sa h 5tn6u mfg tin duh it judge concern Ellonen i Bairn 31 frowhli23 Rev 8s cockpit. Vip84 the Turin More it Tattoo event � ii Tower alters Church Nutu Kury concern 11-10 Page the stars and stripes saturday dec Weber 20,188fl
