European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 11, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Sunday january 11. 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11  Landers letter dear Ann Landers my husband and i were mazed and delighted by these words written by my � 8-year-old father who is a guest at the masonic Homes in  a. It truly displays hit own philosophy and lifestyle. He wrote i for his poetry Comer Dis Cussion group. Perhaps you May find it worthy to share with your renders. Definition of a real Man by r. Nelson Valentine one who has self Contd Irinec but does nol show it. One who can be courteous in the face of discourtesy. One who keeps his word his temper and his friends. One who wins respect by being respectable and respectful. One who has a steady Eye a steady nerve a steady Tongue and steady habits. One who is silent when he has nothing to say. One who is Calm when he judges and Humble when he misjudged. Thul define a real Man and a gentleman and by i desc standards my lather is indeed a real Man his proud . Dear daughter thank for sharing Hal Beautiful essay. I Hope your father will be pleased to see in in the newspaper today dear Ann Landers my wife Donna had a hot love affair with John before we met John married her Best Friend. Ann soon after they broke up a few years ago. Donna and John remained close friends partly to protect her relationship with Ann and partly because she and John enjoy one another s company. The problem is that Donna and John is ill spend alot of Lime together. We four double Date Al least once a week. Donna and John talk on the phone frequently at work have lunch together every wednesday and recently they started to exercise Al our health club to Gether. John pops in for visits on weekends when i Mol Home. 1 know there is nothing illicit going on but i m uncomfortable with the situation. Ann apparently had a Tough Lime dealing with this relationship for a while. Now i see Why. Donna and John have stopped kissing each other on the lips and Donna docs l sit in his Lap anymore Al my insistence. He s a fairly likeable Guy but i m begin Anglo hate him. He always says Donna is like the sister he never had. Donna thinks i m ridiculous. She says she hardly remembers what their love relationship was like end suggested that i seek counselling to get rid of my destructive jealous Streak. Am i foolish to allow this to bother me or is some body in tic group being hoodwinked if not what Isth Wisest Way to handle it i Don t want to insist that Donna give up her Friendship hut i wish they weren t so chummy Odd Man Outin Chicago Detomo you say they talk on the phone frequently have lunch once a week exercise together at the health club he pops in when you re not at Home and you go out together once a week As a foursome i d say their relationship stands a Good Chance ongoing full Circle unless you Tell Donna All this Togel Emrit is making you feel uncomfortable and that Shemuil nuke untie hard choices now. Single Parent assails out processing Center earlier this year i kit the service ets from ans Bach Germany through the out processing Center in fort Jackson. . While the service was Quick and i was on my Way Home within 24 hours of arriving i would like to warn sole parents of he terrible conditions that they should be prepared to face. As sole Parent you will have to face inc Long flight to the states alone with your child and upon arrival Al fort Jackson Yuu will have to Deal with the outdated uncaring and unnerving conditions there. Counting the driving Lime to Frankfurt the wait Al Mac and the Hying Lime you will have about 10 hour before you arrive in the slates. Then Surprise you have a two hour bus ride to fort Jackson. Even if you arrive at Midnight local time be prepared you pity begin filling out paperwork. As a sole Parent you should know thai no consideration of your children will be made. Don t come without at least 48 hours Worth of diapers formula and food if your child drinks milk you re out of Tuckas none is available. Nor arc there any facilities in which to warm up your child s food or formula. Upon our arrival there was one other sole Parent the master sergeant in charge old us we had paper work and the children would be in the Way. He suggested we give the children to one of inc iwo mothers who had live children Between them and were dead tired so they could care for the kids while we did the important paperwork. We declined after 6 . Breakfast mess Hall no facilities for children we were Lucky to find that inc drop in child care Center had two openings. To link yous need to be said because finally our children had Baths babies do crawl and they had los Leep on the floors and were fed. We Oul processed meanwhile and finished Al 3 . Local Lime. This Means we had been up for 4b hours i d like to think the conditions have improved but i doubt it. As sole parents we would have gladly Pul off being Oul processed quickly so Hal our children could have slept in Beds had warm decent meals and been clean and Happy. What a Rollin Way for the . Army to say thank you for my years of service. Although i was nol an Early out i was treated with some disdain this should be corroded too. So sole parents be prepared if you re leaving inc service and going to fort Jackson know surely Hal there paperwork is first and children Don l count Al All. Name and address withheld editor s not it. Col. Larry i. Scull pub Lic affairs officer ill. . Array training Center and Forl Juluson replies under Ordinary circumstances Merom returners arrive Al fort Jackson a Cloven 8 . And 9 . Inca of Laic arrival of flights into Churk Ulun afp., soldiers May arrive As Lute a. . Regulations require the personnel Arri Xinji from overseas i separated no later than 14 hours Ufler arriving i the transition Point ranking it Nec Fuary to begin processing immediately after i he Cuning Meul i served during this initial processing Only thai Dau which s absolutely necessary for the preparation of separa Tion documents is obtained. Initial proc Monk tikes do Mare than 90 minutes and the emphasis is on Retting the Soldier to bed soon As possible. Sole parents Are Given the option of i Imp ont Ini tial processing tilth the group or of go inti to inc guest Bouse and completing their processing the following morning. Sole parents Are briefed on Day care can Lar Opra Lions i this time and the transition Point provides transportation Between he guest House the Day care enter and the transition processing facilities. In cases where Day cure is nut feasible if the child u Ion Young or lie Mother is nursing for in stance final processing is accomplished individually so that in is nol necessary to separate he sole Parent and inc child. Processing of single parents is not the Norm it the fort Jackson transition Point lion Vurr procedure hive been established to Deal wild the unique prob lems associated with the situation. 1 he cadre at the fort Jackson transition Point is concerned with sol Diers problems and do try to make it Brosl of a difficult situation. Of confused by overseas Extension policy please help i have been trying to apply for an Exten Sion to my overseas Lour. Having Recic cd so Many different answers i am confused. I have 18 months left of my command sponsored tour and would like to extend As soon As possible. My orderly room has told me i must a Viama year or leu before 1 can apply for an Extension. Could you Tell me what the Usarek policy entails i am frustrated. Name withheld Wiesbaden Germany editor s note chief Warr Mil officer John v. Taylor chief management actions Branch 1st personnel come ill Usa Keur replies thank you for letting us know of your confusion concerning overseas tour Extension policy. In s hoped that this response will aha let other soldiers know that he policy for extensions is not us restrictive As you thought and i designed to encourage More soldiers like yourself to extend. To address your questions specifically overseas extensions can be submitted any time a a Nutter of fact the earlier they an submitted the better Chance the have of being approved. The main Point to be emphasized about submitting extensions is that Here l deadline on when icy can be approved not when they can be submitted. In a dec. 11 stars and stripes article 1st per com announced a change in policy slating Hal Exten Sions Tor soldiers in the grades of it through e-6 must do approved at least six months before Date eligible far it Lurn Anim Nurst i Kros and Bluit extensions fur grades e-7 and is must be approved Al least 10 months before Deros. What this Means to you is that you May submit your Extension As Early in your Lour As Yon desire As Long it reaches the approval authority before these dead lines. 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