European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 11, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the stars and stripes wednesday february 11,1987 columns today s crossword coed dorm a primer for career by Ellen Goodma Boston she went to College last tall carrying with her two family gifts a sense of humor to a answering machine. By mid Winter she had put to Gether these to weapons and produced a Salvo in tended for her elders. This is what her Mother heard when she called. Amale voice in the machine fluttered urn us you called at a bad time. We re urn. In the Shower ngh now. But Well be out in a few minutes so just leave a  unsuspecting caller was not freaked out As her daughter might put it. She wailed for the beep an the giggles to subside and left a return message. After All. The Mother said to herself it was Only 10 . The bathroom on her daughter s floor was All female in the morning. It Only became coed after noon. Or wait the other Way around Well never mind this is dormitory living 1987.the National fantasy and coed showers and the reality of coed friendships. Much less heavy breathing than laughing. What the Mother had witnessed when she visited Hii Campus a nol � Seething caldron of casual sex. Ii was rather a comfortable atmosphere of casual Friendship. Young men and women live with each other not in a stale of permanent arousal but of per manent disarray. In the morning they lurch past each other oozing the same unwashed Charm they had in their High school Days. Day and if Cal they walk in and out of each other s rooms dressed in i hair finest sweatpants and to shirts faces dotted with ritual zit Cream. The borrow each other s clothes and Cut each other s hair and listen to each other s complains. They Are inshore Al Home with each other. Male and female. Running through her own impressions it occurs to this Mother and Lilion payer How much has been written about College students and sex. Sex is easy los tudy to quantify. It s also sexy less has been said about the incest taboo that arises on a dorm or a floor where people list together like brother and sister where the family dynamic depends on avoid ing the storm and stress of Romance and breakup. And still less has been said about Friendship Plain old Friendship. When the Mother was in College in the Early 60s, Amale Friend was someone who was Shorter than you. Or maybe your Boyfriend s Roommate. He was called carefully a platonic Friend As if there were something ancient and idealistic about nonsexual relationship Between the sexes. And something altogether rare. Even in coed schools like hers where she studied with men went to class with men they did not live together in the real daily sense of thai word. For the most part women and men had to venture out to meet each other. They dressed for the occasion. As her classmates want into the work world it took Lime for them to  up anything like camaraderie. Ii in t easy to learn to be buddies Lale in life. Like learning a new language it happens most fluently when you re Young. To this Day men and women of her generation who travel together work together have to get through the Flack of Majc femaleness. When the Busi Ness literature talks about this it stresses the woeful Lack of experience women have As teammates in thei College years. Those who never played team sports they say have trouble in the corporate huddle. Workers a dormitory. Maybe in s not in Competition but in the easy give an Lake the naturalness of living together. Men and women marry one by one or at least on after another. But we work together in droves. We have far fewer lovers than coworkers. We tend to focus on the coed dorm As a Breeding ground. The value of this learning Laboratory of relationship maybe in graduating men and women who arc natural with each other in he work world. As for the Young Man in the recorded Shower the Mother cannot resist asking. The daughter laughs at their recorded prank. He lives a couple of doors Dow the Hall she says you met him. Of yes says the Mother he s your Friend. La Boslow Otobe Waal Nullon Post. But maybe the Best turf for learning How to together in l a playing Field maybe in Dormit Mayb flakes doing a capital Snow Fob Byar Buchwald despite what the president says the country does need a Star wars program in needs a Snow Kew Initia Tive. All or. Reagan had to do was look out the window of his limousine when the capital was brought to a grinding halt Wilho Tonc soviet . The idea of having enough Snow Clearing  . Has always been a dream of govern ment scientists Many who live outside the Beltway Werner Zamblowski a leading voice for devel Oping the Sno Ivlow initiative claims it is not Only feasible 10 produce such a system with present technology but it is absolutely necessary considering the Snow Job the soviets arc doing on Moscow the United states has the technical know How to remove the Snow from its streets he said in his thick German accent. It s just a question of getting the Congress to pay for in. To dump tomorrow we must be willing to invest in the future today. Our children and their children must never be snowed in. I see the Day when nol Only our main streets but our Sid streets will be slowed out from curb to curb i see the Day when Washington s honorable mayor will actually be in town when the snowstorm  opponents of the Sno plow initiative believe sp1is unrealistic. Jarrell Jerr Boam is opposed because he does t think Snow removal in Washington has any future. Once the firs Snowflake bits lie ground he says everyone in the nation s capital panics. In does t Mailer How Many Snow Lowi you deploy they re Only going to be blocked by people taking Early leave from the  showed satellite photographs of last week s storm to prove that Snow lows Are nol the answer to Snow removal. It takes More than equip ment to deter Snow. The truth is that there is no response to a Washington snowfall because the Chance of human error is too  of defense Cap Weinberger caught in a storm on the George Washington Parkway old report ers in an off the record Wiener roast that Moscow has three limes As Many Snow lows As  called the White House and asked where the president stood on a Sno plow initiative. A spokesman replied the president s dream has always been to leave a clean Washington behind when he finished his term. He plans to go on television next week and deny thai any . Snow removal equipment was Soldo Iran. He will also announce that he is appointing a Snow removal commission made up of those guilty of lust week s disaster to recommend what Washington should do in Case of a new storm. In an address to the nation the president will express sympathy for those who suffered during the past week and he intends thread a letter from a Little Girt who could t go to school and Pray because of the snowstorm and the supreme court finally he will cite a True National hero a Driver of a Tow Irude who was buried a a embankment for three Days on 1-66. 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