European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 12, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse Arm Landers sunday. April 12, 1987 the stars and stripes -. Page 11 dear Ann Landers it we sunday at 7 , turned to your column first. You Lold any woman an town Hal on the first Date it ii always be a to keep tour feel on the floor j and All hands on deck that s what i would Tell my 21-year-old daughter i think. My marriage however was a j disaster. Aside from a few Brief 1 Isle Rudet during which we jointly conceived four splendid children we were totally incompatible. For 16 years there were rages threats with Butcher knives unforgivable betrayal eavesdropping on Telephone conversations Jur loaned tellers Anonymous tips to the internal Revenue service just name the ways that a husband and wife can wreak vengeance on one another and we did to. After your therapists thousand of dollars and a River of tears i decided i had Hue alternatives Mur Der my wife kill myself or get a divorce. If you think it i easy for a Man to walk away from children Ages 14, 12,10 and 9, please think again. Nonetheless i did it not Only Tor my own survival but to preserve the mental health of my children. I decided they were belter of with a living Dingbat for a Mother than with a father serving 10 to 20 years for justifiable homicide i stayed in close touch with the kids got them All educated the baby is graduating from an Ivy league College in May and found myself dating women closer to you pm daughter s age than my own. The kids never Wen Loo crazy about that but they recognized that it was my life bless them. A few years passed and i moved to a Large Eastern City where 1 enjoyed the change of scenery and climate. My oldest daughter mentioned casually thai the Mother of a Good Friend Back Home was now widowed and living in the area. I remembered her from it a and. Car Pool Days and recalled that she was attractive cheerful and pleasant. How would i like to take her out i thought for a moment and decided Why not so i invited the old Friend out Tor dinner. We got along famously and she asked me in for. A Nightcap. I went borne five Days later. We were married within four months that was five Yean ago. While i agree with your advice when it comes to teen agers 1 am glad my wife was t operating under your Rule that night. Granted the five years have not been a perpetual honeymoon but we Are closer than Ever and our marriage is the envy of most of our friends. Would we have fared so Well bad i not spent the first night u a privileged guest i doubt it do i have a spectacular memory of what our first Date was like you d belter believe it do i have any regrets does my wife no. I would t object to your using my name but 1 suspect a few of the More conservative of the kids might not enjoy the sudden publicity. When they see this column and i believe most or them read you daily they la know. I m sure you Don t have room for my entire letter and you probably would t print anything that Contra dict your advice but please be aware Hal there Are exceptions to almost every Rule. Don t you agree son the East coast dear East coast yep i agree. Most first dates Don t even Lead to a Taco and Date let alone nuni Ige. Congratulations for beating the Odds. I m Happy for Yon. La mgt Kiwi by Noah readers recall a lesson in christianity to the Media recely. We have seen to what extent the failings of a single member can affect an entire Community. In the Christian Community a serious fall results in ruptured relationships Between cod and thai Community ruptures which need to be healed. In the recent goings on concerning the television evangelist Jim Bakker the most shameful happening seems not to be the pastor s past misdeed but the re action of the people of god to it. If this is the Way his brother ministers treat a fellow sinner i Don t blame Bakker for trying to keep it hidden with the woman at the Well. Christ confronted her with her sins privately in the Case of the woman caught in adultery her accusers teamed a lesson from Christ that we Are not to judge our fellow sinners. Not even the sinless one himself would condemn Hen he forgave her if Bakker truly docs know something of the faults of his accusers then it is he who is acting in a More Christlike manner in not revealing them publicly. Why should we expect higher moral standards from our ministers than from ourselves Are we no tall equal in the sight of our father if a repentant Minuter he s not still at it is he can be busted what it to become of the rest of us sinners if christians would spend less Lime trying to to tithe world what they think the Bible should say and spend More time Reading it they would least How Christ treated his fellow Man. Cod does not judge or condemn we do that to ourselves. God forgives. It is time for the Christian Community to go and do like Wise. Joann a. Schlaser Wuenn tuft Germany i m really enjoying this publicity Over Jim Bakk Erand Oral Roberts. I Hope people finally realize that no one person is perfect also i Hope they realize that christianity is big business. I m a Christian Buti m not stupid. The bakkers $700,000 Worth of real estate an automobiles and combined salary of $72,800 yearly is certainly Well above average. On the subject of Oak scr s salary Jerry in said it would not be Christian to Cut off the life Supply of the couple responsible for this of i la admit it. I never realized 172,800 n year was life essential. Of course if god put an $8 million Price tag on Oral Roberts who am i to argue All this publicity comes from our High expectations of these spiritual leaders. They a Cal a Little Flaky on us i think 1 know Why. They re burning the wrong records. Those demonic Andy Williams and Wayne Newton albums have finally taken their loll. What s the cure a Good dose of Ozzie should do it. David vol Larrat Hellen Kon a Greece i am writing in response to a recent column. Preachers preying on the it is this kind of Wlinich has turned our one nation under god into the demoralized society in which we live in today. Or. Murray was Quick to condemn their Money raising techniques. Did he give consideration thai nobody was forced to give that Money nobody was held captive no one had a gun to his Back. The Money is Given with More thought and consideration than an alcoholic gives or a Gambler uses when they use their last dime. 1 wonder if or. Murray uses his own idea of help ing the poor without going through an Agency. I also wonder if he took into consideration that christianity is a love of god not of Jim Bakker Oral Roberts or Jerry Falwell. It is not our right to judge. There will come a Day when these men will come face to face with the lord and will he held accountable for sins commit led against him i m sure that it will be worse than this kind of close minded thinking and writing Neu Ulm Germany she saw Pride prejudice on Donahue i recently saw a broadcast of Donahue concerning the emigration of an american family to the soviet Union. I realize this is old news As an receives this show a few months behind. However wanted to Point out what my reaction was to the audience. They were very hostile and rude to these people. Arethey representing most of America Well no wonder there Are so Many prob Tema Between our two coun i i i ii dam and am looking Tor i pin pal. I am 21 Yawara Hor i an i in a old tit own Pytro to Imp out my Engthi. I m Ltd unmaking Amartin Mandi. My Nobby Are of Copulan to Tang football and to Menfi admin Lvi 35120 ten Turtz i Ajna a and my Hobita i Are cooking and Reading. I would nun Nhom Bra Dedialo extol i. Eliot fld m Mundt and i would Ifni pm Pill in lilt human Urtel. My Lena . Lara Mostone 2t,wm16t�et tries this is prejudice of the wont want peace and yet they show no compassion whatsoever. How free is a country when people Aren t allowed to have their own opinions and beliefs i strongly believe that this family was harassed because90 percent of the audience was doing just that. I blame the Media for a lot of this yes but it has changed my viewpoint it s Only strengthened it. And my View is that there will never be peace amongst people who Are too proud to accept difference. And difference spurs prejudice. It s much easier to hate a country of monsters than a country of human beings with love and emotions the same As americans. No country no people on this entire Earth have the right to Call judgment on another country. The Only one who could Ever that right was a Man who walked this Earth nearly 2,000 years ago. Only then can there be True peace on Earth. Mra. 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