European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 28, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tip soy april 28, 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters parties should be voluntary writer says now that the Christmas season with at its Partne it Over. New year s eve s big bang is Insl an Echo and we have danced again at the sweetheart Ball it is time once again for senior cos throughout the . Mili tary to heir the Sermon on the evils of no supporting the base social events. How can you expect the younger in oops to support these events if you the senior cos do not support them asks the base or Squadron commander Ormi be lint sergeant. It is not a new question. It has been expounded by commanders of american Soldier since the american revolutionary War. In 1776, Dur ing a Hill in the Battle col. Cor none probably said this men now a know y Aller pretty lard from Batsho brits All Day bet Dun Jil ate gals or havin � it git Tuv Pober us night an a m Gwine us be jest a mile Down in duh Pouf eff a Doan we All of y Alfi Smikun ice in guv the military has changed a to since the revolutionary War with maybe the exception of a few commanders attitude toward the troop not attending social affairs. It is unrealistic with and the change in military life for con Ninder to left a twp of senior no that unfed a they socialize with their Young troops they Are shown a Lack of concern Tor the troops welfare. By a Rafaat they mean going to the club with the Young men or women alter work for a drink or attending parties Witt them. More and More Young people in the military now Are married and have their families with them. It May make a Jota Man or woman Happy to be invited lathe Dott after work for a drink by Tut senior no but it sure won t do much for the Young wife at Home with a crying baby and dinner getting cold. It is Only reason Able to surmise that what his wife says to him that evening will have a much greater Impact on his life than what the senior no said Over a few Beers. Mom unmarried military personnel in the 19 to 21 year age group see their senior no Ai a father image a knife of authority. It s great that he s there if they need someone to discuss their problems with but when they go out to have fun they d rather not have the old Man around. With the Many group activities that go on on a Mili tary Bate there u no reason for anyone to be lonely unless he wants to be. If All the fails go to the no club order a drink soft or hard and look around. The different groups Are not Bard to spot. The mod types arc wearing the latest fads the Good Ole boys Are thrones in the jeans boots and baseball Type Caps with tobacco or Beer advertisements on them the country and Western fans have on Cowboy hats and the hard Rock fan arc the ones that seem to be having a prob Lem hearing. Select a group with interests similar to yours and go introduce yourself. Most of the time Presto instant friends. Now you have someone to attend base social functions with and your senior no does not have Loreel guilty if he does not go along to keep you from feeling lonely. Explain this to the commander if you gel the Chance. He seems to be having a problem understanding How it is. Most functions thai senior cos Are expected to much owns plan reunion much work dry try my u it pfc. Run. On my t. Tin inurion01 lunar mud Arib a min d to nowt Kimbo c bin m in 2d m of Elm any. It Tom Putti Kubr Kirthi Pott. The muffin Mil Towi of on part Tatom bc6i h. 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It does assume that most military personnel attend base functions at least twice a week such As baseball foot Ball basketball and Vobe Ball games children s school events Chapel activities Volunteer work night classes. Bus trips celebrating patriotic Holiday and Lei s not forget Che occasional night spent helping support the dub. Add this to six or eight major social affairs thai commanders expect senior cos to attend and it adds up to Over 100 Lime a year that a person is spending his or her off duty hours on the base. Bit any wonder that after 15 or 20 years of 100-or so events a year a senior no might be experiencing activity Burn out there is usually a bar set up for these balls dinners parties or whatever name the event Falls under. Of course the people attending have a Choice of drinking or not drinking but How Many people who were Gonglo have just one end up intoxicated before the eve Ning is Over alcohol destroys a person s willpower and then the Best intentions just become paving stones in that proverbial Road. The same commander that suggested the troops attend these get together is the Sun commander that stresses harsh punishment should one of his troops get a own or is involved in an alcohol related incident does t seem fair does it and How about the senior no who May have had a drinking problem in the past or one that is struggling with a drinking problem now who finds that the Only Way he or she can solve this problem is not to be around where alcoholic beverages Are served is this person s commander helping him or her by dropping Little hints As to what might happen to a senior no that does t attend the base parties the wives clubs Are usually the sponsor of these affairs about which the commander is so Lucid Active. Naturally the commander s wife is pushing him to ensure that the event is a Success even if he has to apply pressure la accomplish this end result. The Pur pose of the wives club functions is to raise both the troops morale and Money for their clubs but not necessarily in that order. People enjoy doing something much More if they Are doing it because they want to do it and not because they Are being forced no matter How subtly into doing it. Why Don t the wives clubs make it More widely known that the event which they Are sponsoring Are fund raising event and that the Money goes to Good causes and not to just support the teas for which the Yare famous a lot More people would buy tickets for a fund raising event even if they did not plan to attend than would buy tickets for a party which they had no desire to attend in the first place except for coercion. Which is More important to the wives club to count Money or to count How Many people attended their parties just As we have Alt voluntary military troops we should have All voluntary party attendance in the Mili tary. Name and location withheld Ann Landers dear Ann Tanders thank you for warning your readers about the dangers of be coming involved with strangers through lonely hearts Adi to the past 12 month three Virginia prison inmates have been successfully prosecuted in Federal court. Each of these men corresponded with people they met through Toney hearts per Sonal ads. All three had signify  cant criminal records. Two a Sassy a placed ads portraying themselves nah i Szijj i Btu u women. The men who answered the ads were unaware they were writing to inmates at an All mate maximum Security prison. Respondents were sent photos of Young attractive females and the Story was i am serving a Ter for drunk driving i Wilt never drink again and 1 want to Start a new life with a Good Loving nun. Several men believed they would be the Lucky be husband. They sent Money and girls. Both inmates were found guilty of mail fraud and sentenced to additional Lime. The third inmate answered personal ads placed by women. A concocted an elaborate Story to nuke himself appear glamorous. He lavished attention on hit victims with a profusion of cards tet Len and collect phone Calls. He hauled in More than 120,000 which he spent on his Girlfriend. Al pleaded guilty when apprehended and received another stiff sentence. Not All pen pal relationships have such disastrous endings but it is important to know what the hazards Are. Please keep telling them. . Alters postal inspector Richmond a. Dear or. Luers hunks for the documentation. You can be rare i nil continue to Hammer by at the dangers of playing Post office. Over he years Many readers Tan asked Mlo put Ibum in ouch with hang up in Hartford or pining in it Nacota t refuse to take such risks hot told i eel them some folks can sound wonderful on super even though they Are Nib the croaked and crazy. Dear Ann Landers the letter from a woman who was tired of people knocking her beloved new York was of interest to me. She pointed out thai not All new yorkers say deep Dent and Mcrae and read newspapers on the subway while pregnant women and old oils stand i Hope you Wilt give equal Lime to the South. An ugly incident in Forsyth county ca., resulted in lot of bad publicity for All the Southern Stales. It u not Sirur that southerners Are Lazy ignorant rednecks who do nothing but go Coon Hunting drink Moonshine and run Arou Tufto Kun flux Kjan meetings. Many Southern cities Are thriving because business and Industry have chosen to go there. Some of the finest institutions of higher learning Are below the Mason Dixon line. So please Ann let me set the re Cord straight. To love Dixie dear . So do i. Thanks for giving me a Opportunity to say it. 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