European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 11, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Lam monday May 11, 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers your column recently carried a Teller from a woman whose two adult tons fight constantly. She was upset because she could t invite both of them o family  answer indicated that one Day when a relative Dies he Broth ers will be sorry they wasted so Many Yearsin a Long. Ann i a glad you did t Lell the letter writer to hold her breath while she Waits. Several at. People in my husband s family have died and it has t made a bit of difference. I m convinced thai for some people fighting is a cherished Way of life. I married into such a family. My in Laws yell and swear to each other every time they get together. Their children re to Fly competitive and go to insane lengths to outdo each other. Do you have any idea How difficult it is to be around such people the strange part of it is that no one in the family thinks this son of behaviour is unusual i often wonder by 1 feel embarrassed for them when they Don t fed Ems armed. 1 Learned Long top the Only Way 10 survive around this pack of jackal u to stay uninvolved. Chicago Dew Chicago 14 my Yos lure fired tiling i oat Well and need no 4ric few it. Maybe to Bould Wear a Headset at to a it atom cd Toft Ben and Puy Leo Bush Sulla tape. Dear Ann Tanders my former employer has ripped Rne of quid Don t know what to do. I knew her from a previous Job in an insurance office Nerc i was a Secretary and the was an agent Mabel opened her Owa office and i went to work for her. She said she d pay me a Good salary to run her computer proposals Lynx letters collect insurance applications and set up appointment. I worked hard for iwo weeks and asked for my paycheck. She said that since Lam also licensed to sell insurance i should Start Selling and we would split commissions. T made a few Nice safes along with All the secretarial work. Two weeks went by and i asked for a month s salary. She said my sates commissions would be computed in about three weeks so i wailed and asked again. She then said she doubled that i d Ever be the great salesperson she had been looking for and i could see she did t want me around. I gave her two weeks notice and started to Check the want ads. Two Days later she asked me to come to her office and sign Over All my commissions. She said that since i had quit 1 owed her for the us of her office her computer the Telephone and photocopier. Accenting to Hur i had been working As an insurance agent not a Secretary. In Short she swindled me out of several weeks of secretariat pay plus she tried to steal my commissions. What can i do i m in debt and have iwo children to support please give me some advice. Just Judy no City. No state dear Judy Check with the Agency that licenses insurance Bro kers and flip a complaint. The state s attorney can guide Yon. If that does t work tale Mabel to Small culms tout and act As your cd lawyer. If be bets Are a Yoo to Tutei Tucay Haw u exit ont Chaan of winning. Dear Ann Landers our son is engaged to a Lovery Eirl she has been a guest in our Home Many times. They met in College we would like to meet her parents. Is it proper for us to invite them Here who should make hotel reservations who pays the Bill please advise. Anxious in peor1a Dearan Xic by All Means. Invite them to Peoria. Offer to make Intel reservations. If you can afford it pay the Bill. It would be a Lovely Guitare. Pm a adj Timm Syndicate married army couples not always United i am writing in reference to a minor problem that has developed into a major problem for my wife anime my wife and i got married on dec. 30, 1536. Upon our return from the states on Jan. 9, we started our paper work far an Intrain catch Transfer Itta com Mon Date eligible for return from overseas Deros and joint domicile. Thai s when total chaos broke out. My wife s Chain of command rejected strongly in every Way her Transfer to Augsburg to be with me and our two girls age 6 and 8. Although she received a letter of acceptance from 7th corps arty her Chain of command said it was l going to release her even be fore she submitted her form 4187. Several times she tried to submit he 4187, but to no Avail. Finally cite got a 41s 7, but it was prepared incorrectly and the necessary documents weren t attached. The 4187 was forwarded in this condition to the c1d come in Falls Church va., by her Chain of command. Her Chain of command briefed her on the 4187 and said it was disapproved at that level because of a shortage of 71  they did t Lake into consideration the stress de pression hardship or our family togetherness at All. They said such things As Why did you get married and look at the predicament you 301 yourself in and other sarcastic and discouraging remarks. As Soldier we abide by the Rule of the military. As adults 28 Yean of age in love do we have to ask our Chain of command to get married i feel that was totally wrong and unprofessional. 1 know that every Soldier is replaceable. 1 am sure that any 7il who was to go to Augsburg could be reassigned to go to my wife i unit in Stuttgart As my former battalion commander quoted. Her move would be to no Cost to the government. Is this right where is Justice where is the Constitution where is the compassion for and welfare of the soldiers can anyone in 7th corps or Lisa eur help us please staff St Hugh Hobo a Gibot Germany editor s note mister Sal. David Snyder chief  officer enlisted alignment a Tablon lit personnel come replies pen pals i am 22 Yra Oti and a n London. My May Star Tea  writing tatty ind Mung my Frt Noe. Fir Dreuw Ai Man. Sandy Grandon b it Knob polm Park Qto Levton Eis my. England 1 a Itata famil. A witty a Simmon uru a the tying Rocial wot. I butt 31 ind i e think you for giving us his Opportunity to djs cuu the married army couples program and provide an explanation As to Why joint assign men of married army couples cannot be made automatically without regard to Force management considerations. Every Effort is made to assign married army couples to the same Community however this cannot always fee accomplished primarily by Zaitse of Oref rident military readiness Issue. Specifically we must maintain All is. Army Europe to Anundi at comparable strength Levels according to their respective military occupational it Dalty mos add Grade . This tame logic is also applied by the Many non Isar eur army com mands located throughout Europe. As Yon indicated your spouse la assigned to a no Usah Euk unit Jed Skaliy he 2nd Region Cid come which b headquartered in Falls Church  when assignments or reassignment Are made from one Mjor army overseas command to another the . Army military personnel Center is lie approving Ai Lanty. Contrary to your comment that any til who was id go to Augsburg could be reassigned to go id my wife Mil id Stuttgart assignment to your spouse unit re quires special Security screening and not All soldiers with mos til an qualified for that auf amen. Additionally Yon must be aware thai marriage and subsequent earn lenient h the married army a melts program does not in i Stu ensure immediate joint assignment and Normal reassignment procedures must be followed. La coordination with Yoor spouse s  head quarters a a Aneloi we an attempting la resolve her req Eil for reassignment with the is. Ann personnel Center however. 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