European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 31, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers monday August 31. 1967 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers the letter from your lost daughter appeared in print nine years to the Day that my sister had her son. Jane gave the baby up for adoption. It was the hardest most responsible and most Loving decision she Ever made. The Ither was a one night stand. While she was pregnant Jane i lived in an apartment without heat or hot water. She was 19 Tod ashamed to go Home. She also did t like herself much but thought she would be a Good Mother. We weren t sure of Jane s decision right up until the baby was bom. She named him held him Ted him then gave him up. Jane is married now working and responsible. She thinks or Jeff often but does not re Gret her decision. A Long Lime ago i found this poem and saved it because of Jeff. I Don t believe that Jane is Jeffs Mother. Jane is the one who gave him life but the woman who adopted him deserves to be called  did not Plant you True. Bui when  when the alternate pharos Forsan Tad for rain Are counted when the pain of weeding and the Pride of Waiching Are through i will bold you High a shining sheaf above the thousand seeds grown wild. Not qty planting but by heaven my Harvest my own child. One last thing. The adoptive parents whole a letter to my sister and sent it to her through the adoption Agency. They thanked her for their wondrous gift her love and her courage. To them Jeff was not an illegitimate child a reason to gossip and whisper. He was love Hope and the future. What Beautiful people they must be to have had such consideration for my sister s feelings and taken the time to write her such a kind letter. Janis sister Jeffs aunt dear aunt of Jeff Sliter of Jane we ire indebted id you for sharing your feelings and for that Beau Tifal poem. Along with me my millions of readers fab Jane godspeed. Loi Nohh Tom sird Fumi column los i Nolc can a full mm1.ywcn a Fol � my m a a tin Sun ind slnp.1, to Mil. U s. Form All letters to the editor must contain the full printed avow and address of the try intr and must be signed. We do Bot read unsigned letters but we will withhold your  on request and protect your privacy. All letters an object id editing. Quarters cleaning program protested government promotes laziness government promotes fraud Wasle  does the government do windows any of those three titles could have been used for a recent article. I cannot believe thai the . Govern ment is providing funds for cleaning government quarters so that we can Espenl retention to  i consider cleaning my apartment a necessity a responsibility and a fact of life but definitely not a major  the notion that it takes 10 Days living in a facility collecting temporary living allowance Lato clean your quarters is nonsense. In the civilian sector the landlord bears much of the responsibility for ready ing a vacated apartment for the next tenant says . Wilkerson Deputy chief of the army housing management division. I suggest that you keep your quarters clean while you Are living in them so that you will not have much to clean when permanent change of station time Rolls around addressing or. Wilkerson you apparently have not lived in a civilian sector apartment recently. I have lived Iny of apartments in the civilian sector within the last six years. Upon moving out the Fol lowing were required by the landlord to receive my sequin by Deposit refund remove ceiling Light fixtures and clean. Scrub window and screen Racks with a tooth Brush. Steam clean carpets. Clean behind and under major appliances. Clean the oven until there is not a speck of grime left. Putty Over Nail holes and repaint Walls. This is Only the beginning of the list of require ments Why should the government pay to do this when if started a few weeks Early any Able bodied Ameri can could be responsible there Are far too Many service members crying for useless benefits such As cleaning quarters when $22 million could be spent on something More logical and necessary. Please Tell us who arc dissatisfied with this unnecessary funding allocation where we can write to pro test with All of the mandatory budget cuts we do not need the government to pay for cleaning our House we receive Many benefits already let s not Lake advantage of the gone Rosity of the . Govern ment Michelle ii itt Hahn a Germany editor s note . Ukr son acting chief army housing management division office ass lit Nal chief of engineers replies thank Yon for the Opportunity to explain the quart in cleaning program in More detail especially its  the major Ghiotti of thu program Are to live Money eliminate the drae cons Kizik instant experienced by families during permanent change of italian mates the number so family bowing complaint and publish worldwide cleaning to Landau to families know what to expect during quarters clearance. In overseas areas major army commanders who elect to implement this program Are required to reduce the number of Dayt an outgoing Brolly can draw Tere Wrai wedding avow act la from 10 to three. Significant Larince to the  were  lid at three test site hand Gentay ten Korea and of the hawaiian ulant of Oak prof to the department of Defawn tiring As the a Abca. We expect to Tare at Lent 9s my Loo Owac a. Benefit. Other Hun urine and Quality of life include More Dory time for to flier no they will stay in quartet longer Elznia Atohi of a pm satire cleaning for example Ocon Naif then Dean of by Interior painters More control of Quarter for  be tween occupant maintenance and Lulu Qutul Walgn melts and better preparation of a Arlen for the next occur pull that la they will know what expect. Occupant will still be required to to Tome minor cleaning prior to arrival of Miliate same and repair mid then cleaning contractors. This cleaning i at a ice that you would expect a prudent tenant to do periodically. Thai is Why Ibert were two standards published on for contract cleaners and another for occupant prior to clearance of quart an. I nope Ihbe exp Uini the program Buller. Writer Hopes his Story will help others i m writing his letter in Hopes that in May help someone someday. About four months ago i attempted suicide. At the time i did t even realize what i was doing except that i wanted All the pain frustration and anger to go away. Things were Tough at my shop and past problems were coming Back to haunt me things that i thought i had forgotten about a Long Lime ago. Being thousands of Miles away from Home did t help. One Day on my lunch break i went to the dormitory and took a Bunch of nerve pills. After Silling there for 30 minutes i realized what i had done. Pictures of my family and friends thai Hung on the Walls seemed to jump out at me and a voice in my head said logo  help. I left for work at that moment and told a Guy in my shop what i had done. He look me to the medics and hey gave me something to make me throw up the pills. I was taken to the nearest military Hospital and admitted for two Days. I was Fine after those two Days physically but emotionally i was t ready to face the world again and especially my shop. I was allowed to go Home on leave for three weeks which helped a Little. Bui when 1 came Back to work it All was the same. I started having suicidal feelings again. Luckily my Branch chief was there for me. I called him and he came Over Ini mediately. He was very patient and i believe thai if in weren t for him i would have at tempted suicide again and succeeded. I was sent o a mandatory appointment with a psychiatrist that Day. I m doing Fine now after a lot of thinking and talking and help from my friends. I be Learned to Deal with my problems. This letter is to All who feel it is so bad thai suicide is the Only Way out. It s not. When you feel thai Way think of your family and friends and other people who care about you. Talk to someone. Anyone. I found out who my True friends were almost too late. This is also to Alt supervisors. If you notice someone who looks and acts depressed a lot talk to them on a on on on basis. Get them to talk out their problems. If you Don t appear to be making Progress take them to a chaplain. You could save a life. 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