European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 17, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse Could television fans imagine Jama Brolin Star of the series without that Beard facing up to beards it s a close shave or. Of photo by Margot Slade new York times t came As a cd rinse. I usually does. One mule to stood there in the prime o Board with a Mustache Loo. The next minute not even an upper lip hair was let standing men in this country Are judged less on their appearance Han women said Ann Weber a social psychologist and an associate professor of psychology Al the University of North Carolina at Asheville. Attiat is Why men Ore thought to owe no one an explanation Tor changing their appearance while women Are thought to owe everyone an men Are particularly silent on the subject of beards. For men. Shaving off a Beard is one of the few now hear this those ears May be failing you entered acts possible in arms of looks said Bonnie Jacobson the director of the new York Institute Lor psychological change in Manh Tui Weber explained since a Man s appearance has i Ellie to do with his social value whether to Wear a Board or not is a matter of How a teals about the face staring Back at him in the the link Between appearance and social Worth is double edged. Because of it women Aie expected to Experiment with their looks which gives them More latitude to change hair clothes makeup physique. And women can change these things drastically without violating people s perceptions of them As female Weber said there is Little a Man can do to vary his appearance without violating people s perceptions of him As but a Board is fair game psychologists say Jacobson said it can also be part of an interpersonal game. How a person looks when you marry Lliam she said. "15 almost a part o the marriage con Iraci Ida says i his is the person i am Tor a Man to radically change that took might mean negating his partner and her influence on him. We men May Leel no need to consult pail ners Aboul growing or shaving a Beard Weber no led Fiat consulting could prevent partners from what the new look Means. After All shaving Oil a Beard can mean Many things the said irom 11 makes me fed hot and bothered to i m angry Al you and am in Len i Natly doing something you won t like " a Man who shaves Olf his Beard might a jul to look Youl Hull More roguish or More proves on a Man who grows a Beard might wan to lock Nave Mure or signal that he s survived a rile of passage almost every Man in my graduate school grew a Beard when he received his degree Weber Caid Lett predictable Are women s a Cal is to a Man s growing or dispensing with a Beard i Cornier my husband s growing a Beard or shaving Oil Mem mount to me changing clothes or hair sad Holly Mcneely a designer who lives in Brooklyn. Her husband Joseph Poindexter grow a Lull Beard while on a Mountain climbing expedition in the soviet Union in 1976, then shaved in off while vacationing in Jamaica in 1979. Had Hea Skad to Aboul Mcneely said i would have told him i like he so does Elizabeth Avitabile Olsmith Iown. N y., who raises while German shepherds. John can Wear a Lull Beard a Beard and no Mustache a Mustache and no Beard or to can go clean shaven any number of combinations just As women might vary their hair Avitabile said ii could be Way Jacobson said like having More than one partner while staying within the Bounds of the marriages a Man s Beard can also connote a scholarly nature or in the Case of Wendy Pesky and her husband Alan Rusti City. We take tots of outdoor adventure Lype trips rafting expeditions climbing and such said mrs. Pesky the vice president of a fragrance company in Manhattan. He grows a Board on she trip then keeps it Lor a Lew weeks afterwards. It s Asil once the Board is gone the adventure is ready the Beard gives her husband an outdoorsy feeling she added. Why Sava it off then because alter four weeks in s Lime for the adventure to be Over mrs. Pesky said. By Charlie Laiken new York. Times have always prided myself on my acute hearing and fabulous memory. I could be of walking and hear my name called irom two City blocks away or ride the train and overhear a conversation in the next car. I be never missed appointments and can recite my lines from a grammar school play. Vet in the stillness of my Home when just my wife and i were engaged in conversation with maybe the mets or giants on television i could barely hear a word she was saying. Even worse i often could t recall the conversation Ever taking place i had grown old before my time. For years i lived in my own private inferno too afraid to Ell anyone at my problem. In desperation i poured out my troubles to my Best Friend. Instead of laughing at me he broke Down revealing that he Loo. Had been suffering in silence. Knowing thai i was no alone gave me the impetus to confront other married friends and they too. Confessed to being victims of selective hearing and memory lapse. I wondered How widespread the problem was did in go beyond the Urban american husband i plunged into research. Foi More than a year i interviewed medical experts distraught husbands. Perplexed wives. One fact was irrefutable hearing loss and memory lapse Are growing in epidemic proportions in the United Stales among husbands. The affliction recognizes no religious racial or ethnic distinction ii you Are a husband your chances of being struck Down Are staggering. If left untreated the problem can Lead to serious complications. One of the most damaging is refrigerator when i strikes a husband is rendered helpless he utters Honey Don t we have any milk when a Hall gallon is staring him right in the Ace. Refrigerator blindness if unchecked can Lead to total Home blindness which causes frantic husbands to search endlessly for their keys socks and gloves. Why do Only husbands suffer from this problem i be uncovered several theories regarding the loss of hearing there is medical evidence to suggest hat Over a prolonged period of Lime the ear builds up an immunity to certain sounds. It s believed that the higher pitch and timbre of some wives voices can no Fonger be picked up by their husbands. Try As he might to hear her he is betrayed by his own ears there is Hope. Miraculous work is now being done at the Lauren Bacaj vocal Institute. Wives whose husbands have been unable to hear them for years Are fed a steady diet of Lauren Bacall and june All son movies. Then under the Tutelage of trained speech Pathol Fliss they strive to imitate their voices. If successful the husband s hearing is restored. To explain our plight Lurl Hor i d like to cite the mule theory an evolutionary belie espoused by Festus of Aram. An eighth Cousin twice removed of Charters. Festus Darwin postulated that husbands evolved irom the mule and have taken on some of the animal s characteristics. A husband like a mule is capable of intelligence comprehension and acute hearing a wife must Fust get his attention to Benefit from these qualities just As a mule s attend in must be captured in the mule s Case a Well placed kick has been used with favourable results. This method of getting attention is being tested on selected husbands As part of a reseated program sponsored by Wade wives against deaf ears. This militant group vehemently denies the existence of any hearing loss or memory lapse among husbands. It is the group s Contention that there is a Universal conspiracy among husbands to never Ever listen to wives. To Hall this conspiracy the women say that husbands must be programmed to listen perhaps As Early As the wedding Day. Through legislation they suggest the marital vows should be changed to include the phrase love Honor and hear " a More compact Iiona theory developed by a team of memory specialists slates that at certain times o the Day husbands become incapable of remembering. These memory lapses Are most Likely to occur when a husband is watching television especially sport seating drilling Ollo sleep 01 waking up in the morning. Studies indicate Hal wives have unwillingly attempted communication with their husbands at these precise times if this new information was Givan a wives memory lapses could go the Way of whooping cough. I m pleased to report thai my hearing loss is in remission and my memory lapses Are Low and far Between still there Are millions of husbands battling these diseases and their dangerous complications there is growing evidence thai these afflictions Are highly contagious and easily trans milled to other segments of the population wives old you Hoar what i lust said can you hear what i Fust said saturday. October 17,1987 the stars and stripes paga17
