European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 9, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday novembers. 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers Der Ann Lander your suggestions on How to avoid Dale rape were excellent. As a single Man i was especially pleased to tee you say women Ned to learn How 10 say no in an unequivocal forthright manner. Too often no sound like maybe1 or even " i would much rather be told to up front in a Clear and unambiguous Way than be Given a f. Double message. For example w two different women wound up naked with me in bed on he first and second Date. Both said after they look their clothes offi Don t want to have sex 1 just want to sleep with  1 am known at a Nice Guy but getting Strung along like thai makes me angry. The last Lime t was Given a double message her Mouth said no but her actions Aid yes told the Young woman you Are Lucky i m a Nice Guy. I m not going to Force you to do any thing against your wishes. But you ought to know that what you be clone to me tonight it pretty darned frustrating. You Don l know me very Well yet. There Are men out Here who would beat the hell out of you or rape you if you pulled this on them. Next Lime Jet it straight if you mean no1 say so and act accordingly. If you mean not Yel i want Logut v know you better that s of too. Just Don t Ever do this again to me or to anyone  i do not believe in blaming the victim. Rape is the fault of the rapist and it is the rapist who must be held accountable Bui 1 firmly believe that the boundaries Between rape and responding to melted signals Are not always Clear. I Don t Ever want to be in a position where my behaviour might be interpreted As criminal. It the women who read your column follow your advice Ann they will help the men they Date stay oui of trouble and they will also protect themselves against getting beat up or worse. Anonymous in St. Louis dear St Lon i Yew letter was ilk a breath of in us air. I ban been mandated with mail from women no Teli me Yoa in Nett Side with the  they insist that leading a Man on i no justification for by ii hat in Wiur an sued male if no different from a sexually groused woman. I agree with them. However they should be aware thai the mate is Al most always stronger and nature has endowed him with the women. The Bottom line however is shia Nice Gays Don rapt or beat up women who Lead them of or change their minis. Dear Ann Landers i have epilepsy that is controlled by medication. I m Able to drive and i hold a Tine position in Silicon Valley u a sales representative. Last year 1 had a seizure while giving a presentation to an important client. He was very understanding remained Calm and the next Day he signed up for a million Dollar order. Although that was the Only seizure i be had in four year i be been excluded from company functions and passed Over for promotions. At a recent business conference was shocked when i overheard the director of marketing say so definitely the Best person for the Job but we can t take any chances on her having another fit prior to my seizures i was one of the fastest rising female executives in the firm. I love my Job Ann but i feel discriminated against. Can you offer some advice High tech problem in san Jose letters writer praises Courtesy inspection recently after having decided to Purchase a second car i began searching the automobile Market. My intention was to Purchase a Good used car preferably a Volkswagen for its collector s value that would require a minimal investment on my part for the total restoration of inc vehicle. This was in Addi. Lion to the Purchase Price thai i was willing to pay. My search began with the newspapers then the local Aulo Flea marts and eventually inc private owners and used car Dealership. Finally i located my dream car a 1973 vow Beetle with new tires brakes Nice paint. And Tow mileage which was certified to be original. Sounds ? i was As convinced As you Are. As i waiter in the vehicle registration office 1 decided by Accident to visit the inspection Point perhaps to save the time of waiting or whatever. I am so glad that i did. There it an available service there called a Courtesy inspection just for the asking which is the greatest thing since hamburgers. The inspector looked at the car and complimented me on How Nice it looked. The paint glistened like a much newer car. Thai is probably what caught my Eye and blinded me. Suddenly he pulled Back the carpet that was so Nutly attached to the firewall rust. Rust. Rust deep Orange thick Nasty rust. I was petrified. I drove Back to the dealer who volunteered to repair anything hat the inspector found deficient this included wielding new parts where they were required. Tob Mhor we returned to the inspection Point. I was instructed to drive into the garage and Over the Trench where a full inspection of the Bottom of the car could be made. I remained in in car As the Hydraulic Jack hoisted the car in inc air. The sound of the spiked Hammer could be heard Asil attacked the Metal Frame. Rust. Rust. Rust. Rust. The Frame was rusted. The Axel was rusted. The floor was rusted. Now i am certain that Here arc those that Wilt say that this should have been easy to see. Believe you me i lapped on that car. I crawled beneath the car. It had a Nice layer of undercoating which was probably thicker than the Metal. The inspector asked inc dealer if he should continue with his inspection of inc vehicle. If so he would gel a Dustpan to place the car in and we could Han carry the brakes and Wircs out. This Beauty had Over i i Yean left on inc new German inspection i was delighted that i had not yet Given the dealer my Check. . Darby you have an excellent Crew working at that inspection Point those of you who Are in the Market for a used car prior to signing the contract and paying your Money please take the Carlo the inspection Pohnl and ask fat a Courtesy  it s free. Ricky Dulin Nuernberg Reader angry Over action by officer this letter addresses something that has offended and upset me throughout my 12 years of service in the . Army. I Hope that you will publish this letter in the Hopes that people Wilt think twice about using and abusing their rank. This letter is written to the lieutenant colonel who Cut in front of me in line at the Barber shop. I am an e-6 Apponi Anawat to talk with the director of marketing. He or she needs the edae Alt abort you brag along a letter Tram jew phys Idaa. A in Cluda my Nama m Jour pin pal column. I pm an Saman tub Verhn Oum Guta cily Pauli ppm i irn 25 km11 Oki and Wouk Hka pen paly Petruna Jowh Guf Tia i would Lilio pen Pula i to 3 my Botolf p. A Jim pm Dri. 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