European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 28, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse Ann Landers monday december 28,1987 the stars and stripes paga11letter dear Ann land As far Back As 1 can re Niemier 1 have been attracted in both uses. Call me Gay. Sua Ihl i or whatever. It docs i is Ner. As i paced through adolescence i fell in love Wilh a wonder Ful woman. We arc More than husband and wife. We arc friends lovers and soul mates. We have been married for i care and have in terrific boys of j 7 and 10. F j until a few years Ngo 1 continued to have affairs with men. I stopped when i became aware of aids. I Haven t been with a male Lover since 1983, but the past year of my life has been hell even though in May have been too Laic i decided to Slop making love to my wife she understood completely. A few months ago i found inc courage to take the aids lest. The results were negative. 1 was euphoric. I can live again love again and look Forward to seeing my children grow up Bui the 1rulh is Hal i am still attracted to men. It is apart of me that i cannot deny but 1 know i Musl never again give in to Hose passions. My message to those like me is this face the prob Lem head in. Be aware that you can control your do sirs. If you need the reinforcement of counselling got it. Although i feel terrific i realize that 1 am not Home tree. And now my question what Are the Odds that i will escape this Scourge face in the crowd new Orleans dear new Orleans f checked with or. Anthonys Fauci director of the National Slit Ute of allergy and infectious diseases in Bethesda my he Slid if in fact you hive not had any mile Lover since 1983 and your antibody Fesi a few months fro was truly negative then you Artt this Point Home free. If you have had sexual relationships with women other than Jour wife Over the Pul year you should doable chock your antibody Teal la nuke sure that Yon were not falsely neg tire within the put few months. You should consider yourself Lucky and avoid any risks in inc future that would be ultimately danger Ous to yourself and to your dear Ann Landers this is a message for All nervous wives who have the crazy idea that the i r husband s Secretary is after him. Please dear woman come to the office often. I need 3 break. Take your husband to lunch. Take him for a walk. Maybe he will ill you about his ungrateful kids his awful Mother in Law and his extravagant wife. I m tick of listening la him. You say i am trying to develop a social relationship with your husband. Why Don t you develop one i look him straight in inc Eye. He looks me straight in the Chest. Fall in love Wilh the Boss please great wife i have him nine hours a Day. That is eight hours Loo Many. Steamed in Philadelphia dear steamed you be had the Tat word ind his buttons up the discussion. Thanks to All who wrote on the Boss s time la mad Seren tons of Inger. Dear Ann Landers a Reader asked about the Chance of her Romance making it to inc altar. You replied about the same As a snowball in i live in Amarillo. We hive not had a year without Snow sine 1882. Last year we had 2s.2 inches. Please dear Ann Bone upon the weather or gel some help. Ace Smith Dor Ace i wider Way some Sharp eyed copy Reader on he Amarillo duly news desk did t set me straight before publication i would have welcomed the Eor Rectina. Del i wooo Down there civilian personnel an insider s View As a former employee of the Nutron Harg civilian personnel office i would like to address some prob ices i have encountered. First let me say thai having worked Wilh family members local nationals and department of he army civilians in the Numberg co for almost 18 months i am very impressed with inc dedication to duty that is evident in spite of the overwhelming workload and expectations of this Community. A Job Well done seems to be the motivating Factor because Many other less stressful jobs have equal status. Rather than cite the difficulties i would like to address solutions which May Caw some of the frus Lra Tiona you May encounter in dealing with the co. In spite of their dedication to duty these people actually Cal lunch. Yes. And at he very same Lime that you eat lunch. So please try to avoid leaving your Job site 10 minutes Early so you can arrive at the co jus As they arc about to leave. The five minutes you take is relatively Short but it is just enough time to allow another person to make it in the door and he Only needs a you should schedule your visits Dur ing inc Normal work period. Visits to co Are covered under administrative leave and cannot be denied unless abused or during excess work Load paychecks. There is nol a single person now in the co who is not just As concerned about your pay Check As you Are. It s True. Have seen people work harder to Trace a Check than the person receiving it. What 1 mean to say is once you have called and run the proper procedure rest assured that action is being taken. Many limes they hit a Wall which cannot be overcome and Short of writing you a personal Check in arc in t any More that can be done. Nol until they reach this Point will they relay his Tel Batalion to you. Actions. It is possible to reach a Point at which the input exceeds the Puipui and you create a backlog. As far As action ire concerned i do not think that the co receives too Many actions about 10 a Day on those already employed. If i Here were nothing else 10 do those actions would be simple and Quick. However with the phone and walk in Traljic people Are so Dis Irac cd that those 10 actions become five at the end of the Day and tomorrow there Are 15 and so on and so on. Walking an action through the system docs two things it takes you away from your Job and the co away from their. It does not expedite the action in any Way. Reason today icy Are doing the actions which were walked through yesterday because they could t get to he actions that were walked through the Day before thai because they were doing the actions that came in late the Day before thai. You get the idea. Truly there Are Many situations in which you really need some special attention. These happen All the Lime and co personnel can recognize inc difference. Don t think that because you did t get satisfaction hit it was because no one cared. Jobs. There Are some 20,000 persons wanting to work in the Norn Borg military Community and less than 2.000 jobs. Roughly 18,000 people at any time Are going to be unemployed no Mailer How fast they process your Appie cation. There seems to be a belief that if you apply for everything thai you will get hired. It ii not True. You Only cause More drag on the system by doing that. Only apply for jobs that you will accept if offered. You would not believe the number of people who apply for jobs they have no intention of accepting. Remember Many of Hose people arc on inc Lisl ahead of you. 1 certainly have no More qualifications than Many others in this Community but i have had the Opportunity 10 look at both sides of this Battle. 1 believe that co has gotten a bad rap without deserving it. Many Fine workers have escaped inc Al d and gotten other Johs within Lite by slim nol Al higher grades mind Jud. I suspect that some of the reasons they left Sturni irom these things i have stated. Failures. Yrs Many of i u have been failed by the people at co. I hear stories about lost applications Laic actions Many it Terent frustrations. There arc reasons excuses that could possibly account for each one of the failures. Challenge you to not judge Ibe c to for particular instances hut on the Overall performance under Adverse circumstances Many of you Are aware of the co s re can move to another building. Do you know that while every piece of paper was neatly stacked in boxes wailing for the movers a three Day process people actually came in during thai period and asked for things such As copies to he Pul in folders forms etc.? hard to believe bul people did that and actually did not understand Why they could l be helped there comes a Point when anyone can get so frustrated that they Don t care and will give up. Every person has a different limit. Try to imagine where your limit would be under similar circumstances. Do you req ulary work overtime to meet deadlines with no authorization for extra pay la is really nothing special to l How in a Cou pc of sundays a month bul dont you imagine that you might reach that limit on monday when a customer comes in and implies that you have been sandbagging because his action in t Complete everyone realizes that Many jobs Are never recognized for the Good thai happens Only when something goes wrong docs anyone Ever pay you any attention. Co personnel realize this More so than any other organization. 1 Don t think i would be asking too much to remind you to realize thai we at a Community Are All in this ogee her. We Are americans. As such cd us work within the by slim we have created. Recently some new ways of processing actions have been initiated. I for one see the results. I believe that soon they will be Felt by All of us. Yet Many people still believe thai co personnel Aren l trying hard enough drive by the Nurnberg cd o some night about 6 . The lights Are still on Many limes and icy Aren t wast ing Energy or one ids thing. Don t pick this in lick apart because it May contain some technical inaccuracies. React in and understand inc message am trying la express. So when you turn in that application or of 52, or request that position classification etc., remember thai the person you Are handing Illo is no different from you and is choosing to work 31 the co clicking in put through overtime with no pay. Why because a Job Well done is its own Reward. Maybe that sounds too corny nowadays bul i am sure it is a Strong motivating Factor la must be be cause As i slated before i saw no other. Name withheld number Germany editor s note Diana j. Roppo. Chief. Re Chi ziment did placement division nor Beig military Community replies the Reader is thanked for ill of the taxable cow menu regarding co and the efforts of staff in Enthen serving a Community inc size of Nurnberg. With itch .1,900 employees. It u extremely challenging. 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