European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 29, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 10 the stars and stripes Friday january 29. 198b aim Landers letters dear Ann Landers. I am weary of Reading letters in your column about How family member neglect their Kin who Are in nursing Homo. Lord knows there is enough guilt logo around without piling on More. My 89-year-old Mother is in a very Good facility Tor the elderly. Every time i Sec her she com Plains that her sister and brother do not write or Call. I Don t want j to Tell her that they both have s been dead Tor 20 years. So i Lis ten and say Well maybe you la hear something  whenever i walk into Mother s room she asks. Why Haven t you been Here in such a Long time i Don t want 10 Tell her that i was there yesterday in fact 1 have rarely missed a Day in eight months. Some Days she does t know who i am and asks Why does t my daughter come to see Mer when 1 Tell her that 1 am her daughter she says no your hair is Gray. My daughter s hair is dark Brown. She then lakes out pictures or me when i was a Bride 40 years ago and says see t can understand Why relatives Are reluctant to Vejsil the elderly More often than is absolutely necessary. It is draining to be around a person who is argumentative negative and often irrational. And it s also de pressing to see my dear Mother who was a wonderful Parent and Friend in such a confused state. I cry every time i leave her. So please Ann give us a break. Sadi Decatur dear sad a Muni the Are two sides to every glory. Thank you for letting As her yours. 119 not new to me. Incidentally. I have heard it a lot and my heart rms out to All at you Pear Ann Landers recently my father and younger sister went id a National Park for the Day. While there my sister found a child s purse. There was identification in it so she wrote to the girl to let her know that she had found the purse and that she would Send it to her. Today my sister received a letter from the girl s Mother saying that site is glad my sister admitted that she has the  the woman added you can keep a Dollar but pm acc return everything  fortunately my Sisler who is Only 8 years old was not aware of the hostile attitude and accusatory Lone that the woman displayed in that Letler. But i was quite upset by it. Afler All my Little sister did not have to write to the girl in the first place. She could have kept the purse and forgotten All Aboul it. But we were nol raised to be dishonest and she is the kind of person who would do the High thing. How sad i thought. What could have been the Start of a Lovely Long distance Friendship turned out to be a sail disappointment. I Hope the Molher who wrote that letter sees this one in your column and realizes the damage she could have caused hid my Sisler understood the Ungan crazily of her words. Sign me Jacksonville Fla. Dear Jacksonville if the woman rends my column she can l help bul Sec herself today. How empty arc the lives of those who an suspicious and  and itt the worst in everyone. The miss Oul on All the fun in life at and Tel to syndic ill  Intorf Wal rerun your mini. Tea or will 10 he in Cut of to Suri lid Silum. Of 0 Mill . Forer a civilian employee details pay problems this is in regard to recent articles and idlers on retire ment plans for civilians and pay problems experienced by department of the army civilians Dac in Europe. I am a career civil service employee who alter careful consideration decided to enrol last August in the new Federal employees retirement system despite the fact that the plan requires greater employee contributions to obtain the same relic cent pay As the civil service retirement system and will not offer Cost of living adjust ments until age 65. Since our benefits Are constantly being eroded 1 my the possibility to obtain some retirement pay at age j5 could be very Welcome and would outweigh any disadvantages of the plan. I doubt very much thai t would have made ibis Deci Sion if i had realized thai just two months laterite would be announced thai those employees who had elected to change to fers would be taxed at 8,3 percent on an allowance intended to reimburse actual costs for overseas housing while those remaining under cars would be taxed All,4s percent. Surely employees should be allowed to change Back if they wish since they were not presented with the full fads of withholding. Co states that this is impossible even though As of december the maximum amount of Thrift savings plan which i elected in August 1987 has yet to be withheld from my pay. This is in Spile of contacting Hei Delberg two months ago when i was told that they had t the capability Yel to put the plan into action although it has been offered for some Lime. They added that this increased sayings will be All deducted at one Lime a ices than satisfactory arrangement. Our living quarters allowance la does not nearly cover he Cost of rent and the very High utilities prevalent in Italy although it did cover a reasonable apartment and utilities in Germany add to this the fall in the Dollar proposed taxation of la and a substantial reduction in biweekly payments thai has occurred since july for some unexplained reason adding up to a sum annually that u much less Ian the amount i was told i would receive and below my maximum allowance. Since our pay office was moved from Italy in Germany gelling in mix pay or information Aboul pay has become a Nightmare of time consuming Calls slow Post and less Ihan inform Tive answers. Scarcely 8 payday goes by without our realizing thai yet again Otic has not been paid for a Holiday worked for sunday or shift Premium pay for leave hours taken and deducted but nol paid. Our Vocat co and comptrollers do i hair Best and Lime sheets Are forwarded correctly yet the problem persists. When we do manage to gel through to Heidelberg it is Clear that payroll personnel there arc overworked they state they arc working weekends and Long Houn daily yet in look 11 months after submission of annual expenses to Receiva refund for last year s la underpayment i Don t know if Many other Days arc experiencing these problems. Perhaps if we All air our View something would be done to make the system More efficient i do know that my take Home pay is less than it has been in years despite raises few and step increases now eliminated. This is despite inflationary prices and reduced Dollar Power nol to mention increased work Load due to reduced staf tand budget cuts. A rallies dismaying picture. Name and location withheld Joe Clark praised by fellow educator the stars and stripes has faithfully reported the Saga of new Jersey principal Joe Clark As he defends himself against charges of violating a court order against Locking fire doors inti Seal Side High school. Nationally famous for trading his school in the achievement of instructional goals and restoring human dignity to students who once mirrored Dugen Fralc ghetto behaviour. Clark has put Good sense and judgment ahead of fire regulations. His attempt 10 Ward off illegal drug trafficking by closing the doors to dealers May have been inc Only feasible Way to keep the creeps out. This action reflects Clark s continued determination to put students first to establish a school climate conducive to learning and to take a controversial stand against an enemy which even Federal arcs have trouble combating. Not Only have education Secretary Bennett and president Reagan s head of pol icy development Gary Bauer supported Clark s do fans ability but 1 feel sure hundreds of school administrators across the . Support his Dogg Conesa to protect the learning Environ Mcnol. As a Dodds administrator. I had the pleasure of meeting Clark and hearing his dynamic presentation at u school administrator conference in july 1987. Never have 1 witnessed a More intense creative determination to return inc school House to a serious learning environment Clark succeeded in establishing a leaner meaner school curriculum for his ghetto school. He is a role Model for All administrators in my Humble opinion. Geneva p. A Lechle Deputy principal Izmir american school Izmir Turkey parents thank go for saving their child we would like to extend our sincere and deepest thanks to stuff sol. Williams Al our base in Rimini Italy. Had in not been for his knowledge and Quick action we might have loss our daughter. I Don t know of anything More frightening 10 parents than to have a life threatening emergency happen to i hair child. 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