European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 2, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday february 2, 1988 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear readers the National 1 is title of men Ial health suited the following question of 50 parents who had raised their children to became Welt adjusted productive adults Rosed on your personal experiences what u the Best advice you can give new parents about Rais ing children their responses were in my f opinion the most thoughtful and � i succinct guidelines i have seen in of j a Long time. Here they ate 1. Love abundantly. The most important task i to love and really care about your child. This gives him or her a sense or Security belonging and support. It smoother put the rough Edget of society. 2. Discipline constructively. Give Clear direction and enforce the limits on your child s behaviour. Emphasize do this instead of Don 1 do that 3. Whenever Pouble spend time with your Chil Dren. Play with them talk in them teach them to develop a family spirit and give them a sense of be longing. 4. Give the needs of your male priority. One Parent put u 111is Way a husband and wife Are Apt to be successful parents when they put their marriage first. Don t worry about the children gelling second Best child entered households produce neither Happy marriages nor Happy children5. Teach your children right from wrong. They need to be taught Basic values and manners so that they will gel along Well in society. Insist that they treat others with kindness respect and honesty. Set personal exam Ples of moral courage and integrity. H. Develop Mutual respect. Act in a respectful Way toward your children. Say please and thank you and apologize when you Are wrong. Children who Are treated with re Spiel will then know How to treat you and others respectfully. 7. Listen. Really listen. This Means giving your Chil Dren undivided attention putting aside your beliefs and feeling and trying to understand your children s Point of View. 8. Offer guidance. Be Brief. Don l give speeches. And Don t Force your opinions on your children. 9. Foster Independence. Gradually allow children More Freedom Arm control Over their lives. One Parent said once your children Are old enough phase your self out of the picture but always be near when they need  10. Tic realistic expect to make mistakes. Be aware that outside influences such As peer pressure will in crease As children mature. One Parent said Don t expect things to go Well All the time. Child rearing has never been easy. Ii has its sorrows and heartaches but it also has its rewards and Joys. This is what makes i All worthwhile. Dear Ann Landers i be been living Wilh Jack for is months. We became officially engaged two months ago. Our wed Ding Date has been set for August. T have put on a few pounds in the last couple of years but j Don t consider myself fat. Imagine now i Felt when last night Jack told me that unless i lose 25 pounds he will not marry me. 1 am shocked and hurl and am rethinking the whole thing. Help me Ann. Idaho deaf Idaho the marriage sound if it s in trouble before the ceremony. If you should Luw the weight in please hint and gain it Back after the wedding would Jack divorce you think about this carefully. Its real possibility.  of Khili Tifni 5pid4ile Colum nil Lara Tan Wal gown your Toner you in Wolfl to her it. Cut or tha seen and Sanpei Apo ob21i. U & for nth of alternate fitness program discussed u makes Little sense that after Yean at least 17 for this airman the air Force now decides the 1 i mile is not a test of fitness i was one of the Lucky individuals in 1984 to be tested under the rial period for the upcoming lest. They did not implement the program then because after the lest period was Over they found that the majority could not pass it. The talk about finding 100 additional people to manage the program is a joke. Just like during the trial period in 1984, the people to manage the program will come out of unit Manning which Means More worthless additional duties. You Don t think that if commanders can t get Money for flying and spares they Are going to spend Money for new positions do you the air Force should Wise up. Start proper physical training in Boot Camp and for us old timers in the held enforce the regi thai allow for time off to participate in physical training not after duty hours. People in their upper 30s or in their 40s or 50s Are not right out of Boot Camp. What is the air Force going to a kick out the technical sergeant and above and the majors and above who can t meet the new requirements what laugh. Tech. Sgt. Stephen l. Debts Raf run Waters England editor s note col. James k. Wile director morale wet Are and recreation Deputy chief of staff personnel he Safe replies the air Force alternative fitness program scheduled far implementation june i was designed to ensure a More positive effective and Safe program with pm Phis in three major Arm the individuals wanness la be fit for their own health opportunities la achieve and maintain the individual level of Flat i and professional assistance for members of the air Force font the alternative fitness program regains More de manding 1.5-mlle run grand anti far men la bring them up to the Jmc Tarel Al which women an being tested Merle to inc optional 3.0-mlle walk to people me 35 and older uses i Landals based on 10-year Pool bus in Stead of fire rear from Plotr adds muscular endurance performance Tel Napkin nit Dps and pm Nuj and re Anim All air font people to be to Ltd Semi an Noills. Physical fitness has always been an Indira Deal t per Sonal . The Alle Matte Al leu program will help those who Eam Tot achieve the standards for their inc group Many of oar people hut Luceen fury completed the a Heikal fitness course Al Ceil to fab my i to Iraln filth new gala suit a Tunnel on the proper procedures for  and maintaining flown programs. Air Force people have taken to the or let for better individual a Tom. Look Al the number of Early morning noontime afternoon and evening Joine on your base. Set How Many aerobic classes Are being held at norms recreation centers and youth cent Erwe Ait about the physical Al tons of our people. Study after indy bold in the military and in the Cut Tun Arena have shown the positive relationship Between in creased Filesi of workers and increased productivity. The alternate fitness program will provide 01 in creased awareness and Opportunity to develop and main Tain a healthy lifestyle the fora file in and health Branch has done 111 part in developing this program. We u individuals must do our part by preparing our selves id meet the new Sun dds. Cafes explains adult movie designation during the Christmas season my Apo gave its patrons a memorandum listing non mailable items. These included. Obscene or indecent publications or films. I would like to know Why i have come across an advertisement far the cafes mail order Cata logs sell ing adult movies when it s against the Law to use the postal Mervien for this Type of pornography. Allan Walsh Ansbach Germany editor s note u. Col. Charlie while Public affair officer to. Cafes eur pc replies the advertisement for " Dull Murlph should Proba Bly have been for adult  it was intended to separate them from children s  our supplier assures us that the movies Are not \ Rattel nor Are they rated at Alt. They Ore. In fact readily available in the United slates by mall and Are add Tlsty on television. The . Postal service in Washington said it has no restriction on mailing any of the title we Cany in the Catalon. The Moln Are not considered adult Moviel in the  scum the would have to be declared so by a court of Law. The postal Laws of individual countries Nuy however restrict certain types of a do by name or action. This could also include some aerobic or workout Lap. Since the tapes in question can Only be viewed if ordered from the Catalon an incl Vidil would not by exposed to material be or Ibe would consider objectionable. Cafes Europe does not censor films or video Cas settes in whole or in part. We do however reject movies because of poor Quality obscenity and pornography. Recurrence of spelling mistakes noted How about declaring English the official language at the stars and stripes in the stars and stripes Jan. Ii the word reoccur. No matter Bow bold the print does not exist to occur again is to recur. 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