European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 28, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Arm Landers Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers regarding thai column in which you printed the Post mor tem message a 64-year-old Man left for his sister to be read at his funeral he said. Death is Noah ing at All. I will be waiting for j you somewhere very near just i around the  you called his interpretation of death a comforting  perhaps you Are right Ann but it does raise a question or two. What about the great num Ber of people 1 am one who have suffered the loss of More than one spouse who is going to be waiting just around he Corner for me will it be my first wife or my second wife or both and where in this picture do you see my second wife s first husband is he going to be around the Cor Ner too if so the Corner is going to be quite crowded and it could present a few problems. A great Deal of Wishful thinking goes on in regard to what happens on the other Side of the grave. I believe that something does happen but 1 have no idea what it is nor in my opinion does anyone else. So. Dear Ann there is nothing left to go on except futile speculation because people Are inclined to be Lieve what they wish to believe in spite of the fact that there is no empirical evidence. Waiting at age 78 to find out Der waiting i agree thai purple believe who they wish to believe and hit is just Fine with me. It is nol however just Fine with some folks. I be been getting Nasty letters All week from heathens agnostics mhcist.1 and an assortment of nud Niks who had some rather unkind things to layabout that column. If heaven is All we Wurl it to be everybody gets Ong beautifully firs spouses second spouses and relatives on both Side. Incidentally dozens of readers wrote to say the author of that Eulogy was Canon Henry Scott Holland Oft. Paul s Cathedral in London. He died in 1918. Dear Ann Landers my Fiance and 1 arc planning to be married in a gust. Both families arc very pleased and have Given us a lot of emotional support. The problem started when i began to talk about wedding pictures. My Mother and dad were divorced a few years ago. And they refuse to stand next to each other for the pictures of the Bride and her parents. I want my children to have a picture of me with their real grandparents the ones their mom grew up with and loves very much. Am 1 asking too much is this request unreasonable please Tell me. Springfield Ohio dear Ohio your request is nol unreasonable. You Are not asking Loo much. S our parents should be Able to put aside their grievances in matter How legitimate on this one special Day in your life. To do less would be unspeakable. Dear Ann Landers according to a newspaper Story angry Drivers no longer need to resort to curses and obscene  they May buy a $200 toy that allows motorists to Rake offenders with simulated machine gun tire. The manufacturer plans to distribute 700,000 to guns by the end of the year. Comment please on this latest lunacy. Rochester  Koch i can t think of anything this country needs less than 700,000 angry idiots shooting up our highways. Good grief. What next Serviceman appreciates wives sacrifices at least 20 times i have begun to write a letter to the editor. Half of those letters got finished one eve made it Inlo an envelope. Each time i decided others had expressed my views better than i. This time i can t resist Here is a response to military wives from Soldier husband based upon 16-plus Yean of service and 21 Yean As a military brat. You five ladies along with other wives from columns past understand and live the Challenge of the toughest Job in the  i am glad i am not a Mili tary wife because i know i Haven t got what it takes. This Soldier husband along with most others knows How Good we be got it even though we forget to Tell you. If you were married to a civilian you would have left us Long ago each of us husbands could go to jail for child and wife neglect. You know our oath to defend our country and you support us. You Don t complain when we give our Timeto soldiers who need us Only to have Little time for our families. You say nothing when we decry another Ham Burger or Chicken dinner As if it were your fault that Sall the commissary had. You come to seemingly endless social functions to struggle to learn the names and jobs of guests you veneer heard of before because we never Tell you any thing that happened at work. After the party we ask where you got the Money for the new dress forgetting it is the same Exchange special you Wear every time but jazzed up with some Doodad. With incredible  we ask Why you can t give even More time to acs or the of Icen no wives club As if caring for the kids dog House ungrateful husbands your Job because we need the Money and your husband s soldiers was nol enough. We drag you from country to country and House to House and ask Why the Rug does t match the  you manage to cover the holes in the quartermaster furniture plants and other decorations cover the places that should be repainted. All Day you suffer the Lack of privacy and other glories of stairwell living to have a husband who comes Home flops into bed and asks this in t so bad is it even though you he kids the car the stairwell and All the household chores need our Lime you say Noth ing when we go Back to the Field Barracks motor Pool or office. You Don t unload with the kind of Day you had or Tell us your needs because we had a bad Day and we need to Tell you. When you need our Lime or our car you decide to wait for another time knowing Damn Well that time won t come. Only after going to work in civics every Day for two weeks did you learn we were on leave. You thought the new Home computer your husband bought bul could t afford was for the kids and to put some recreation Inlo the Home. Later you discover the computer has become another Way for your Hus band to work at Home. After the cake plate your great grandmother gave you is broken in shipment we ask you Why you Are crying. Then we Ell you not to worry we can submit claim. Somehow we Don t understand that if you had a Normal life that cake plate would have the place of Honor in the China Hutch and would never be touched by any hands but yours. All the furniture and family heirlooms arc scratched and nicked from 20 moves. Each incident of damage was t Worth a claim but taken together your valuables could t be Given away at a garage Sale. When we ask Why you did t gel our adds from the cleaners you bite your Tongue about All the thing that happened that Day and decide not to mention that the Exchange is across the Street from where rework. Just As things begin to look up after we gel promoted and you look Forward to those privileges we have Strung you along with you learn those privileges Only bring added responsibilities. Instead of having to care for just one Soldier in the House you care Fornall your husband s soldiers. Whatever extra pay we gel is spent on those soldiers gladly because some one has to Lake care of them. You always thought the higher we went the More Lime we spent at Home. We forgot to Tell you a Good Leader does t let his soldiers work while the Leader is at Home with his feet up. Through it All you stood by us making sure the oath h r look is honoured. You stand by us nol Only because of your wedding vows but because you Are extra special. No other group of women anywhere in the world could or would do what you do. Thank you. My wife and my Mother you make soldiering look like a piece of cake. Keith 11.1 Lodge Gissen Germany Reader wants More on Campaign issues the Media coverage of the presidential candidate for the 88 election has been a constant scandal digging Campaign. Gone Are the detailed articles specifying the Candi dates stand on he issues hat effect the world today issues such As world peace he budget the status of the american Farmer he homeless in America human rights in our own nation and abroad. The Media has chosen to take a different course in presenting he candidates to us where they slept last night or alleged balloting fraud. While the moral issues Are important and should not be ignored i think the Ameri can people deserve the right to know the entire picture. A prime example is a recent article in which you reported on the issues that were brought out in a debate of the democratic cad Dales with one exception. With Gary Hart All you reported on was his reaction to alleged contribution concealment by his Campaign officials. While his is an item which the Public has a right to know i also feel the american Public has a right and an interest in what his stand on the issues at the debate were. Your paper is not alone in this Type of coverage on the candidates. Nor is Hart alone As a candidate fight ing to express the real issues in his important election. I would like to say to the people who really care about the important issues to dig deeper than the head lines of he local paper and he evening news and re search he real issues in other sources of  May take a lot of work but the need for an informed and conscientious vote is a Cornerstone of the Ameri can electoral process. Staff set. Edward . Lewis. Ramsten a Germany Peta pals please nil main your pen Pat column. I am 35 years old. And my Hobden re cooking writing and Reading  c. Lioun san Pedro Academy. Valeana Negros Ormal. Pm Mel phase list it in your pan pal column i am 22 years of and like Walc rung to. 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