European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 20, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Lander. This letter i by wry Par ii. Mint you hit your kid us your self Why am i doing ihis7 i Bun a 40-year-old nun who a vivid mar Norico of being slapped hit with a razor strop and beaten with a Belt. I was old that i was no Good. T did t understand what that meant How could i i was Only 6. I never married and since j pc never had children or my Awn one could male he Point that 1 Don t know what it s like to have two or three Kream ing Kidi in the House. I acknowledge that this is True. Maybe i m Lucky that 1 did t marry and have a family because i m not a Well adjusted person. Flunked Elaise in High school have been fired from jobs and was court Martiale in the service. I was told thai 1 was a loser. 1 believed it and fulfilled tie prophecy. It s Loo late for me but it s not too late Tor millions of others to begin to treat their children with respect. Parents should remember that they Are training their children for life and for parenthood. The Way they Sre treated is the Way they will treat their children. The Cycle is unending. . In by. De Rajji Vonda yourself an injustice. The insight and under standing reflected in Yot Teller song Jet that my bight make a very Good Parent. Thank Cor letter thai Desteni to be us i Uri Only by Ewry a nil who Waluyn his or her child. To often such Benior b an it omit a poise u Urr my nut Ntow. Dear Ann Landers women Are forever asking where Are the Desira ble men men ask he same question about women. Both sews tend to categorize within the first few Minum of meeting somebody new. They engage in a winnowing Oul process to eliminate the uni Csira unfair maybe. Realistic be. Here Are some of the categories Tail or Short. Fat or Skinny american or foreign. Rich or poor. College graduates or High school dropout. Aggressive or Wallflower swinger or Waltz cars. Boozers or Drys. Smokers or non smoke Good arts scr or Sloppy. When i get through sizing them up i go Back to playing poker. F.a.z., Arizona both main did females lose Mil when they Nile out inn pet based on Inch fat or Skinny Rich of poor. Skinny Homen a Melium get at. Rich i co Cut lose their Money. Smokers a quit and Dys am Start drink tog. Kindness patience loyalty integrity generosity and the ability to communicate Are the thing that count in a but Yon can t determine if these be present by looking to i Noman Between poker Tandi. I d Sty you re lucked the deck against yourself mister. 4un Angelh to Law up Catt we Minim a dwt Wulw Refl you Towt. Ecu on it m or � out of a Suft lot strip. A m31i. Us. Reader offering advice for complainers i think u is time to Tell All of you complainer and Exchange shoppers id Slop writing about what you Don t Lite about things thai you fait to see As Tui urics. No Thi is nil another Story from Greece or Turkey. 1 am an american civilian living and working on the because i have Learned the language and can enjoy and appreciate the difference As Well As the similarities of this country. As for you Billy a hrs j do feel sorry for you. Not because of your gripes complaints or discontent but because if the inevitable happens and the us. Ever gets into a conflict your buddies will be Short of personnel because 20 percent of you will be lounging around at the Burger bar and Reading newspaper to see who is complaining about what. Ten percent of you will be shopping at the Exchange and complaining about prices and what s not in Stock. This is not to mention those of you walking out of the Exchange with your arms full of computer or stereo equipment while your children tag along with to Weir behinds hanging out of their pants because their clothes Don t lit. Another 30 percent of you will be at Home trying desperately 10 turn your to and radio to an because you can t understand a dam word on the Normal channels. Then 5 percent of you vill he in a German store trying to pay in dollars As if they Are the currency in Germany. And the rest of you can t wait to get Back to the world meaning the place where you grew up and the Only place that you know anything about if this letter sounds a Little harsh then i got your attention. I spent two Yean in the . Army in West Germany and have had the Chance to see the military from the inside and the outside. My opinion is shared by most of my German co workers. If some of you would at least iry id speak a Little German instead of expecting the germans to speak English you would find the germans to be a lot Friend Lier helpful and understanding. Stop pretending hat you Are at a Man. You left Home behind and it is time for you to be quiet and Start trying to overcome your ignorance. Those of you who cannot resist the urge 1o answer this letter with a defense will Only serve a example of what i have been talking about. Randall a. Morris Offenbach wot Germany service member wife not a dependent upon volunteering to serve a consecutive overseas tour Coti received a message from 1st personnel come per com staling hat i was authorized free travel to a place no farther than Ray Home of record. In addition the message stated that my command sponsored family members were also authorized to accompany me. This policy seemed like a great incentive 10 stay in Europe. Nevertheless i think there is a problem with this program. When i tried to get the order for the tree travel i was informed by my local military personnel office m1lfo thai because my wife is also a service member she was not authorized to accompany me at the government s expense. A phone Call to 1st per com confirmed Melpo s position. I have no doubt thai these personnel organizations Are interpreting the army s regulations correctly. How Ever i do not understand the logic behind this aspect of inc regulation. If my wife visa a civilian she would be authorized command sponsorship and hence could accompany me. But since she is a Soldier this privilege is denied her. Since 1 am the one who earned the travel. I do not think thai in should matter whether my wife is a civil pen pals inn or not As Long As she is authorized by the army to be in Europe. Ai a Soldier rationed in Germany she is obviously authorized to be in Europe. J would appreciate it if you would address this Issue As i do not believe l am inc Only one with this problem name withheld mahr Lingen West Germany editor s note maj Darrell Harris person Del Suff officer Offlie of the Deputy chief or staff personnel he u5areur, rep if during mid-1986, congram approved free Home Lam travel Tor wider and their comma and pan sorted Dpn Denu when the Soldier incurs an obligation la sen 4 consecutive overseas tour. The wanting of the tavern uni dare the. Depart steal of defense directive 1315,7, military pin Otto of Sijon Mentz is very specific when it allies a spouse or Wobu ii a of a Snelcer Zenober shall not be considered dependent,14 it is Thea specific excl Sluti that prevented your wife from accompanying you it rat Estment expense we regret and and inconvenience caused by his restriction. A in your pin pts Cakov i in co Jota us Tutt pm in Jom St Fth Dippini t to 13 Ytit m. My Nobby us taken 4ind it Frog to Nett. I a41 Hia to Iwin 12 id 14 Yri Crit. 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