European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 24, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse Early signs of family trouble by Crystal Laureano staff writers Tevon had a drinking problem Lor or Long As he could remember. Perhaps Haf 15 what Donahy pushed his w 1o to Icahn one Day and not come Home again Al least to Smi hid Little Joey their son was t Happy and norther was Joe Jony Afler school wailing Toi his dad to come Home. When Steven did arrive he greeted the Billle first. It his son the More he drank Rne More Fie reserved lha a Anglo Parnel Burden i did l Lake Long Lor Joey to become the punching bag Lor Steven s Drunken frustration following the example of his own father that he had vowed no to repeat. Sloven took b harsh Slanoc with discipline Small in fractions resulted i a Nimg local urls. Beatings toys being smashed and nights withal dinner. Joey s to year of a Worff became a Rev Orving door of loneliness and violence he lashed out Al his Peers his school work sul ered then one Day to Ian away. I was Hurt and lonely and full of self pity Steven said. 1 v Oulen i have those thou tits and do those he mrs Vonen i was t dunking Bui the More i drank the toss 1 cared i was atone. I did t have Money Lor the rent and i Ell there was nothing i could those Are tie words of one abusive Parent by they could be the inc words of Many most abusive situations Boom with family stress. And Sharon Davis. A Barcuh advocacy program manage the sooner you s a/1 to lanky the problem. Inc sooner Tiu la be Able to resolve it. And you child in will not be hurl in the meantime " she tilled Acme parly inn ii is in rouble it of All thai vetting at the chif Carcin moot inc Lime Rady talking id Thorn in a Normal tone of voice using physical push Fen most of the Limo Cipe Ctm your children to jump to when you command of pm la do something losing control of your actions when the children misbehave pinching biting. Scratching of burning to discipline Irio child drug alcohol or marital problems financial problems inv orc a a Olaf on strained Abs july to Tope feeling isolated Tom any source of help or support Riu Lra led in attaining career goals recent tragedy among family or i rinds wishing your children would hurry and grow up wishing you had never had children feeling your children demand Loo much from you. Always feeling the children Are driving you there arc numerous avenues of help at parents who Leej hey May be Loo abusive. Chaplains danger signs substance bum by on or both parents Yelling at your children Abol the time using physical punishment must of hum family indebtedness violence Between parents comm Tenily snrvicc5or Lamity advocacy a Cicil workers alcohol and drug counsels can ass at parents in gelling the specific help they need for striven and Joy. A combi Nahan of menial health professionals Schoof Counselor and alcoholics Anonymous was Inq answer life has turned around Lor Steven and Joey. They both have completed counsel my. Stolen regular attends alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Joey s Mother has returned and now there is a new baby m the House. Our Home is stable Steven said my son and i have Lound something we never had. We have a &0tid Fellion shop we Crit we listen to each other and share More Nowr to just Tafee it one Day Al a time " Naples preventing problems in the Home Bealba Bragall Mediterranean bureaus Ake a person in a stressful environment Wilh of pressures and to Mohnal distress. I in poor parenting skills and you gel a potential Chad abuser. People Warjo abuse Don t Ficor stanly have serious problems said Bennett Samuels who runs the family advocacy program in Ofiu Navy Community in Naples Italy. Generally they have problems that can be corrected such As Bohol or drug addiction. Or Iney have hems lives been abused As Samuels said Olen they Aie just people like you and me who need to improve their parenting skills and Ihei ability to Deal with stress and anger the family service Ohice at the naval support ache Ray in Ples encourages parents to participate in its parenting skills enhancing programs. We try to Deal with issues before Why become problems said Frank Chiapp Oka acting chios of clinical services Lor the family Center. To believe that becoming More effective parents walks hand in Glove with preventing Many o the problems that can arise in a child abuse and child abuse prevention is one of the subjects covered in she effective parenting class uttered quarterly by the family Center. The message we want to get across to parents is Inal it is natural to Leel anger toward their children. It s natural to think it. But not to act it out. We Tell them Hal when it docs happen whether in i hair Home or in someone else a this destructive behaviour Towa d children can and must be slopped Chioppi Essaid. To pointed out the Many programs available to help defuse Potin Tifty Dang Rou re Walron Blore they become unmanageable we have counselling alcohol and drug rehabilitation programs budgeting stress reduction anger containment and Bonavier Modisti cation Cla pcs Chiappella said we Teel that Len ouch Iheson classes most parcels can find the resources and the information they need to handle Dith cull situations without saving it out on Ihen children " single parents face especially situations to help them. Family service encourages single parents to join support groups single parents Tecl a tremendous obligation toward hair children often they Don i take any no Oul or themselves Chiappetta said. Quite Oflyn Al the group meeting they will say How they Teal Guilly when they eave their children for intended pc nods of tone inevitably some parents will icel some kind of resentment toward a child who so restrains heir Freedom he said. The group helps them to Deal with that problem before it gets Oul of control a new addition to the Tefo Clave a cling classes is a Volunteer program called Peers Parent Educ Honal enrichment resource service coordinated by family Sam cd Peers has been running Lor a liult1 Oxer a year currently we have t9 volunteers working a Vii families single parents new arrivals any Lamity Gong through difficult said Kathy Transou. Peers coordinator like an extended sponsorship program Peers volunteers of Fiir emotional support arid acl As in ends when none Are available a Short while Back n doctor Cal cd i Ghoul a new said Transue the Young woman hardly knew anyone Yel her baby had been sick Tor Isicc weeks and she had been shut in the hotel for he ten lira inc her husband was gone and she was worn Oul the Docto was very concerned about the Mother s and the baby s Ellaie unfortunately the girl s sponsor was t very Active just did l have much Timo to spare Lor Transue said. Thai s when one full our Peers volunteers stepped in. Well to Visil her in Iho hotel and uttered to babysit so the Mother could gel some rest or go shopping. In the end All a poor Girt needed was to know that she was no alone Brut somebody undo stood and sunday april 24, 1sbb the stars and stripes Page 17
