European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - April 29, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday. April 29, 1988 the stars and stapes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers the letter from . In oar land Texas demands a rebuttal one hat will explain the social trend he by moan what . Murm of the Rou ble. Soda of the trouble yes. Molt of ii no. Gloria Steinem belly Friedan the floor is yours if you Nuil in. Dew Ann Landers i need to know if i have a problem with my 12-year old son s behaviour. In May 1985 my Best Friend died from cancer. She had been ill for about sin months. Two Days before she died 1 went to see scr. She asked me to bring my son. She could t have any children and was like an Auni to  when 1 asked him to go he refused saving he wanted to remember her the Way she was. Won after i asked him to come with me to the funeral. Again he refused. Now his grandmother is ill and getting along in age a few months ago she was put in intensive care for a stroke. I told my son it might be the last time he could kiss his grandmother goodbye. He went to see her she got belter and was released. Soon after thai she was rushed Back to the Hospital this time he would t visit her or even Call. Is this Normal what will i do when she Dies ter1 in Springfield Ohio Deviteri i consulted with or. Llund a Slutsky professor and chairman of the department of pay Hilry a Northwestern uni realty. Thu is Whit he said the Mother should not push her son to visit terminally 111 people nor should she insist that he go to a Lunevil if he does t feel like it. When she a Nisei Ibe gritting Proeu on him she overloads the circuits. Children know How much they can handle. Pressuring him to exceed who limits will create feelings of Gull i an Buriff a did it Tery. Lot Arv Mirn Teaf Syndicate  Linden Rel Coltom a Tom Knar you can Arriett her i ear at to Start and Sui Pei Apo ok11, u.5. Foiter readers give views on Central America recently several letters appeared in the stars and stripes which i feel cried out for a response. For me they represented a Strain of prejudice and closed mind Deneu which is All Loo common in the military. In these letters americans protesting . Policies in Central America were called unpatriotic at be stand military dependents who joined in these protest were branded a slew of names from ignorant fools to  the consensus of the letters was that anyone protest ing the decision to Send american troops to Honduras was either uninformed a Coward or a red anything other than just another american with a different opinion than that of the letter writers and that Mill. Lary dependent in particular should t voice opposition to decisions made by their sponsor s Chain of command. That s i Thame i can t think of much die in the world which More menu protest than this country s policies in latin America and my feelings on the trial Ter slim rom feelings of patriotism and a Good bit of research not from a Lack thereof. Granted the decision of some of the protesters to Burn an american Flag showed extremely poor taste and judgment but i feel far More shame when read ing about atrocities carried out by american backed Freedom fighters in Nicaragua or by right Wing dictatorships who Are also receiving my tax dollars. I would never choose such an action to Register my displeasure but 1 can certainly understand the frustration and disgust which could Lead one to Torch one s own Flag. I could go on at length about How the Contra tactic of attacking civilians economic targets is the Nice Way to say this violates everything we claim to be Lieve about How wars arc supposed to be fought. Or i could go on about How our myopic practice of treat ing Central americans As cold War pawns in our Back Yard instead of As other human beings pos Sessing dignity and rights As ourselves who happen to live in our neighbourhood and supporting authoritarian even fascism governments Are the cause and source of strength for third world leftist move ments and How therefore it is actually the conserva Tive supporters of these right Wing forces who arc soft on  but that s not the Point of this letter. The Point is this it is Mure than a right it is a duly for us to stand up for what we believe in even if we to have a spouse or Parent in the 82nd airborne. Some serve their country in uniform some do it with placards and leaflets. Don t ignore these protesters they re part of the conscience of America. Stereotyping others so you Don t have to Deal with what icy have to say is a cop out and a slap to the face four open society. We not Only have the right to express our own opinions but an obligation to the Trulli and to the Well being of our nation and we should listen to and thoughtfully consider the opinions fool hrs. Without this democracy is meaningless. Spec.4tlmc.sttlle Wurzburg West Germany the recent sampling of letters you printed from americans angered Over . Citizens protesting United slates involvement in Honduras demonstrated How misinformed Many americans Are about the Reagan administration s policies in Central America. The general impression gathered by these writers were that icy american Scricc members were the objects of the protest. It must be made Clear however thai in is not . Soldiers who were being demonstrated against but rather Reagan s decision in Send forces to thai Region. I am in the military. I Realise thai i roust obey orders without question. I do not debate this fact because t know in would be impractical to have an army that would Only respond when it decided it wanted to. I am however thankful for the americans who express their right to free speech by protesting an illegal and immoral War being raged Fay our a Ion i commander in chief. His these people who Hove Kepi a set of checks and balances on those who would Send Young americans into a senseless confrontation. They Are not protest ing the military simply trying to keep in members from being abused by being sent needlessly into a conflict. The unfortunate truth is that your average Ameri can is pathetically willing to expect a use of Force As a Means of solving foreign problems. In this Era of rambo mentality americans will blindly put their Trust in a Man like Ronald Reagan and believe his visions and values should represent All of America. One of the letters mentioned How misinformed left wingers Are in general. Many of the people 1 spoke to after Lite United states sent troops to Hon. Duras with their America love in or leave it sen i men intact did t have the slightest idea what was going on in Central America let alone even where it is located. All they care about is that big. Strong righteous America is going to kick somebody s  one Young Soldier thought the sandinista were from Iran another thought Honduras was close to Vietnam historically maybe but not geographically. And finally when i was discussing the situation with a senior no and mentioned that he Nicar Gunna were communists in Central America he thought the United slates had been invaded. In must be understood that the government in Nicaragua is there due to a Papular revolution m must also be known that the sandinista consider the con tras to be terrorists and went to get them just .15 we did Libya. The Reagan administration says nothing when the contras Cross into Nicaragua to Terr Fri a villages. But when Daniel Ortega retaliates by lashing out to what lie considers a threat to his nation s Security. Then the conservative Righi is screaming. Commies bad How can we degrade the soviet Union s presence in Afghanistan when we do the same thing in Central America we Are in the armed forces to protect Freedom and democracy not to overthrow legitimate governments around the world. Always remember in is not on a your right but your duty to question inc motives of your government for if in gels to the Point where the government no longer tolerates criticism then that is the end of democracy. A Brilliant Man said a few years ago it. Ill i Blind Faith in your leaders or in anything will get you  in 1988 those word Are still very True. So. Handy Hansel Heidelberg All Letten to the Reltor must contain the full printed name and Vij Dot of the writer us nut be ilgner. Vve do not Raul in goed Letton Bat a will withhold Jam Nune on Raj Wjt and protect your Pringjr. 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