European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 10, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Arin Landers Friday. June 10. 19b8 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers the letter from the woman who wrote by the time you receive this i will have killed my  caught my Eye because t could have written thai idler my i would not encourage thai woman to commit suicide but i can understand Why she might do f it. The thought occurs to me often when he pressures of being j a single Parent without steady employment get me Down. Friends and Counselor Are not enough. It is Only by inc Grace of god that i have not done myself in. Rest assured Ann i do not need counselling. What i need is Freedom from Money problems. My poor friends care but they can t do anything but listen. My affluent friends listen but they Don t really care. Erratic part Lime employment has plagued me for nearly three years and i m afraid it will never end. My life is a continuing Nightmare of uncertainty How Long will this Job last when can i pay these Bills for As Long As i can remember i have been poor. The Only Way a Counselor could help me is by giving me Money to in my car or pay for my denial work. Face reality Ann some people arc desperately hard up. Suicide is no answer nor is some Counselor who works from 9 . To 5 . And then goes Home to struggle with his or her own problems. The Only answer is real Money to meet life s real problems. If his woman is still alive 1 Hope she will fight for what she really a cedi financial assistance from those who have the resources and Good sense to give it. In the same boat and still afloat in Canada dear same boat still afloat there is no doubt that your anguish is genuine and your problems Are horrendous but inc vast majority of people hit in Mph suicide do nut kill ilium solves Over Money problems. Most people who die by heir own hand Are de pressed emotionally fragile ashamed of a failure at tempting to make someone sorry or fed that the pain of living in t North it. Whatever the reason it never solves inc problem it merely creates Mote problems for those who Are left behind. Dear Ann Landers i was interested in inc letter from the woman whose father in Law stuck o her like glue under the Pretcul of helping her when in reality All he was trying to do was cop a fuel. You advised her to confront him openly and let him know that if he did t Slop it she would Embarrass him in the presence of the entire family. You might be interested in How i handled the identical problem. I let the problem person get Good and close. 1 Hen quickly stepped Back and rammed my 4 Inch Heel into his ankle with All my might. He let out a blood chilling howl. 1 quickly said of dear did i slip on you i m so sorry you must have been stand ing too close to me. Please watch it in the  i have not been bothered since. Been there in Raleigh dear been you be proved that there s More than one Way to skin an ankle. Brio girl and thanks for writing. Confidential to Black and Blue Des Ferate and trapped Call the toll free Domestic violence hotline the number is �00 333-Safr. This service is funded by Johnson & Johnson and is nothing Short of terrific 1 tested it personally and was very pleased with the Way they Deal with callers. Writer finds drinking driving not Worth it to whom it May concern and it probably concerns you this is just a Short note to inform you that no mat Ter How Good you think you Are or How Well you an doing in your career or school work the risk of drink ing and driving just in t Worth it. No i m not one of those unfortunate souls sitting Over to Mannheim with nothing to do but figure out where t went wrong but now that t think about it t could have been. Last saturday night this super troop a Maggot As some people would say along with his wife and a few friends decided to hit a disco for a few hours of danc ing and of course a few of them were going to have a couple of Beers. I normally Don t drink much less drink and drive but As the night and cigarette smoke wore on i found myself or Crini a Beer. One German beef no prob Lem in fact i did t even finish it. Whether i finished that one Beer or not did t mat Ter to the guard at the Gate when i rolled in at 1 3q . The Guy in the car in front of me had told the Gate guard thai i was weaving a bit i always weave a bit when i drive i Lold him. I figured this was All a bad dream and that i or. No of the Galaxy was t being stopped for driving under inc influence i guess it was when he asked me to shut off my car and stand by a few minutes right in Ibe Middle of the Stree that it nil me. You i Boot everything 1 had worked for Over her Isi 10 year meant nothing to this Guy who at 1 30 in the morn ing smell Cut alcohol on my breath. He could t care less about All the certificates on my i love me Wall or All my idlers of appreciation from the Pope on Down. This Guy just did t care All he said to me after he asked me to get out of the car was. Not Only arc we concerned Ghoul your safety but the safely of everyone on this  now it was my turn not to care 1 did t care about anyone else on that base even though my read ions May have slowed enough to cause a major Accident. And i did l care about this Gate guard s concerns for anyone else. I was Only concerned about me and my military career but now it was happening happening to the Guy who had silently chuckled when hearing about the of her poor slobs who could t control Luicir drinking habits. I was taking a Field sobriety my first the fingers on the Rose. Right hand right hand left hand right hand. Of hold it he said. Now if you would walk Heel to toe Down this while line do an about face and go to the of her end and then Plant both feel  this proved to be a Hil of a problem As my nerves were already shot the cruel shoes i was wearing did l help and i was even feeling a slight bit di/,/.y from inc alcohol of my unfinished her. Then just like that we were done and he Twu Guie guards whom i cursed under my breath for just doing their Job held my career in their hands if you think a dui on your record won t affect your career. Yuu Haven t been Reading How frequently the Powers shut re use the word substandard All the extra hours Al the office All the Volunteer ing for details and All of inc past 10 years of Honora ble service were out inc window. It was just me. Them and just enough Beer 10 arouse suspicion. I had taken a Chance and had gambled everything just by getting behind inc wheel after drinking less than one Beer. I honestly Don t know if i would have passed a breathalyzer Leil thai night if it had gone any further. A lion they looked at me and said we re sorry for the inconvenience and offered to follow me Home again concerned about my Sal i.1 by Only then is when fell this Nightmare was Over. I Learned my lesson hat night. 1 just wanted in pass on to you that the risk of drinking and driving is definitely not Worth any sort of imagined Reward. Name and location withheld wording in code of conduct discussed 1 am an american Soldier t command Hie 574lh personnel service company a unit of 196 american soldiers. While i applaud and fully support inc elimination of gender references in our code of conduct feel the revised code has lost inc significance and Pride of scr Virgasun american . I am proud to be an american. I am even More proud of being distinguished As one of the very few proud americans voluntarily serving in the defense of our country our citizens our rights and our freedoms. I propose a second revision to the code of conduct re emphasizing our uniqueness As being and i an scr ice members article i i am a member of America s armed  article ii if in command i will never surrender a member of my command while they still have a Means to  article i i will never forget that 1 am a member of America s armed  non Sci Iii and non Branch specific Rny proposal builds the singular Pride of serving in one of our armed forces Back into inc code. Maj. Raymond l. Miles Hunan West Germany editor s note col Fred k. Green director i legislation end a trial policy military manpower and personnel polity office of the assistant Secretary of Kehnie replies president Reagan tailed executive order 12633 on March is i9hh, on the recommendation of the depart men of uhf Csc. The chances to the wording of the code of conduct Here intended solely to remove Render specific language. During la extensive Courdina Lim process Many Aller Nalinie language formulation were carefully considered including a variation air Mil identical to thai suggested by your correspondent. The objective was to make the change Nihoul alter ing the substantive Content literary style or emotional Impact of the code. The version ultimately adopted by the president represents a concerted Effort to satisfy that objective. Reader concerned with children s safety pens rarely. Many ims i have had children run right in front of my car. I am writing this letter concerning something that happened recently in my housing area. Something definitely must be done. What am i talking about children crossing streets. In the past two months two children have been Hil by cars in our housing area. Luckily they escaped with their lives. What s wrong with parents out there from what i understand Bolh children ran out in front of the cars without even looking. 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