European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 6, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers dear Ann Landers i m 25, Well educated pleas ant looking but not Beautiful better than average figure fairly Welt read self supporting not a prude but with Good moral Slan Dards. I moved to Chicago from a neighbouring state eager id make my Way in the world and of course find the Man of my dreams j i have met lots of Nice people i through my Job and some Ailrad live men at a health club where i work out two or three times a week but it s hello and  i Haven t had an honest to goodness Dale in seven months. 1 would hate to think that at 25 1 have nothing to look Forward to but business promotions. To put it bluntly 1 want a Man in my life. I see women All around me in relationships meet ing men for lunch applying fresh makeup for dinner dates going away for weekends. I m beginning to won Der what s missing in me. These women Are not gorgeous or Brilliant but they must have something i Don t have. In Short Why am i alone and lonely what am i doing wrong or not doing right any answers unlisted personality in Illinois dear unlisted i have just written Booklet tint May provide some answers. Ii is called How to make friends and Slop being  the following lines will give you an idea of Whit the Booklet is about. Everyone wants recognition attention Praise and acceptance. We bristle at criticism and respond warmly to a compliment. We steer Clear or people who make us feel uncomfortable. We gravitate toward Ihulse who nuke us feel Good about ourselves. Warmth kindness and Friendship Are he most teamed for commodities in the world. Hie person who can provide them will never be lonely. When you an in a group and feel uncomfortable rest assured thai there we others in the group who feel the same Way. Introduce yourself to stranger who looks lost Pushy not at All. Yon will be viewed As a Savior. If you get a dead fish handshake or a cold stare from some snob what this Means he or she has a problem not you. Get a conversation going with someone else. For every Clam in the crowd there ire 30 people who Are longing for someone to talk to. Ask questions. People love la Tell you about themselves. It s human nature. When you me a group photo for example whose face do you look for Fust your own naturally. We All do. Everyone yearns to be included and accepted. The Best Way to gel acceptance is to give  again the Booklet is How to make friends and Slop being lowly 1 Send $3.50 plus a self addressed stamped business size envelope to . Box 1q562, Chicago Iii 60611-0562. Ive received More positive feedback on ibis Booklet than any i have Ever written. Dear Ann Landers Here s my entry for a prize comeback. My sister was out with friends recently and they went to a bar and dance club. A Nice looking Man came Over and asked her to dance. He seemed taken with her and asked. Are you single married divorced or what she replied  he looked at her with disgust and said i be never met so Many Divor Cees in my life. What s the matter with you women anyway Sis stared into his eyes and replied do you know that for every divorced woman you be met there is a divorced Man Sacramento fan dem Sac Beautiful. I Hope the gave him a Heel in the ankle. Letters cafes explains need for special form i read your letters to the editor every Day. After three years of chuckling at some of your responses from people with Golden pens and very Little Elsei was finally moved by a recent response to write a letter of my own. I refer you to the recent letter from a dependent spouse who wanted to change some App paper work at cafes. Even though her husband had Given her full Power of attorney before he went to the Field cafes refused to change the paper work because she did t have an cafes Power of attorney. Now i ask you How Many people out there would suspect that cafes would not accept a full Power of attorney and that an cafes Power of attorney is required if cafes requires its own Power of attorney How Many other places spouses might have to Deal with on base might require their own unique Power of attorney How arc we supposed to know Short of Call ing All those places beforehand to be sure a spouse has the right Power of attorney seems to me As simple As i am that a full certified Power of attorney ought to do the Job. The cafes policy is ridiculous enough. Even More so was the reply. The Usa eur judge advocate was no doubt legally Correct when he stated that a Power of attorney docs not have to be accepted. The dependent spouse did t want a Legal decision she wanted a problem fixed. That is Why won t cafes accept a full Power of attorney rather than giving her a Legal answer from the a Why did t you ask cafes that very question if a writer s concern is great enough for her to Lake the time to write you owe it to her to get a reply that really addresses the Issue. Too often legitimate con Cerns Are Pooh poohed away by bureaucratic Bato nay. Textbook answers we can get from books real help comes from people who care enough to get a legitimate answer to the problem. A. Col. Poll Teller ramble in it Germany editor s note 1.1. Col. Charlie while Public affairs officer. To. Cafes Europe replies the discontinuance of accepting general Power of at Torney forms was intended to simplify the process and save individuals the time in seeking Legal assistance. The serve remember designates who b authorized la use the account at the Lime of application and add or de letes a person from the account at a later time by using the same form. The rationale for not accepting a general Power of attorney is to require the sponsor to personally initiate any action after Ting his or her account. This in turn protects cafes from any disputes sponsors May have Over transactions initiated by family members not specifically designated by themselves. It should be Kepi in mind that general Powers of attorney do not specify which acts the family member May perform on behalf of the sponsor. The acceptance of such generally worded documents could at a later Date be disputed by the sponsor on the grounds that it was not intended to authorize a family member to use his or her App account. If a sponsor can not personally change the App account cafes Wilt accept a special Power of attorney specifying actions to be taken on the App account. Writer gives thoughts on Vietnam mias in a recent stars and stripes article on Vietnam suspending missing in action efforts because of the hostile policy by the United states i question who is being hostile to whom. Vietnam has made Little Effort in the past to genuinely cooperate in searching for remaining soldiers missing in action and prisoners of War. Now that they say they Are willing to finally cooperate they arc Loo quickly insulted by a statement made by assistant Secretary of stale Gaston Sigur. Sigur made a statement indicating he was against setting up a Low level diplomatic Bureau in Hanoi because it would not better relations Between the to countries United states and Vietnam in humanitarian issues. I lend to agree with Sigur As Viet Nam docs not seem to View humanitarian issues As highly As the United Stales from what 1 have observed in the past 1s years. 1 say this As 15 years ago on Jan. 27, 1973, my Uncle Cape. Harley Hall us was shot Down Over Hanoi and listed As missing in action. He left behind his wife who was seven months pregnant and a 5 year old daughter. His son was born March 29. 1973, and has never seen his fatties. Over these past 15 years i have never Given up Hope that he and others arc still a live and waiting to come Home. It just seems As if very time some Posi Tive Steps Are being made towards finding our servicemen left behind the efforts in their behalf Are once again hampered because someone has been of fended. So 1 ask you who is being hostile to whom concerning our Scricc Man listed As missing in action and prisoners of War Jamte g. Butterfield Raf upper Heyford England let s share our facilities Reader urges it often seems that most letters to the editor come from Large american communities where the services Are Best and Are Petty gripes poor an reception or programming soggy pizzas Etc this is not one of those letters.  is the most densely populated Ameri can Community outside the Continental United Stales. Not surprisingly the services an commissaries and cafes facilities arc among the Best programmed locked and operated overseas. There is still plenty of griping though about exceptionally Long lines said out items Etc. Often this Hap pens on paydays or weekends and the poor Patron caught in the frenzy May think Cis Only shop on those Days. Not necessarily True. Consider the following most overseas military and family members live in much More modestly serviced areas where there is no an or stores Well stocked with american goods. 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