European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 16, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes under Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers you generally Tell a woman to ask herself that Well known ques Tion Are you better off with or without often you go on to say it you decide you want to Lake Back forgive and forget and Don t insist on knowing All the details of his info 1 decided i did want Back so i forgave and tried to forget i those eight months of hell when i we were separated. When we rec i Onci led he told me some hair raising stones about group sex with both men and women. 1 was shocked. Finally. I insisted that we both be tested for aids. I confess 1 was t surprised when we both tested positive for the aids antibodies. There has been absolutely nothing in my past that could have caused me to lest positive so i know i was infected by . I realize that testing positive does not mean that we will develop full blown aids but the fear is there. I would like to suggest to any woman in these Circum stances that she think about where and with whom her sex May have been and if there is the slightest question ask to be checked before you take Back. I love my husband and will slay with but if 1 had known then what i know now. 1 would not have taken Back. Southwest Usa Par us a Tuu tragic Story. Aids he added � dimension to infidelity thai no one dreamed of 10 Yean go. In sad for Yon dear and Hope that Yon will harem by More Yew of Good health. Dear Ann Landers. I m writing about the scrabble player s dictionary you suggested the words you gave As examples that might come in Handy such As qaid Pindar i Odid or Xuy might be of. For use in is new York tournament but Here in Texas we Don t Cotton to such fancy Lan Guage. I anybody tries to get away with High Faullin made up foreign words in a game with me i will soph the Sloly Faqir right in his Muzsik . In Dallas dear Dalian according to my Chicago scrabble maven top in the Mui Jik is strictly against he rules. An Alert judge will throw you out an Jour in old. Dear Ann Landers As a woman who has spent All of her working life in hospitals May i applaud or. for his compassion concerning the rape victim who was treated with shameful by the emergency room personnel while her Young granddaughter waster alone in the wailing room. Your suggestion about contacting the Hospital adminis Trator was Good but i have a better suggestion for someone who needs help from higher up when a person is being mistreated or ignored get to the nursing supervisor in charge. If using an inside line to Page the supervisor is difficult Call the Hospital switchboard from a pay phone. The Uraine supervisors Are usually no nonsense people who will be on the patient s Side even to the Point of reporting the doctors who May own the Hospi Tal. I have seen it done. Nursing supervisors Ore overworked but they Are sensitive and caring people who know the Hospital inside out and what s More they have the authority to straighten out problems and they do it All the Lime. Many thanks for All the help you give people. A . In Honolulu dear Honolulu and thanks to you and All the others who give me the Benefit of your experience. There s an awful lot or wis Dom out Here. In anoint tun., Ain Calid Colum ill unt Aii Walton our Atnif. Tea on warm to Xiv m oat of to Stan and eur Poi. Apo Mill. Us. Nanny writes on responsibility of parents i am one of several British women working As Nan Nies for american military families. I never knew americans before i came Here. Gener ally 1 find you All really Nice people Friendly warm kind. But i am appalled How some families exploit us. I am one of the Lucky ones. I am treated As part of the family. I gel paid on Lime Don t you asked to do extra babysitting Well in Advance so i can make plans to and have plenty of free Lime to gel out and Dis cover life in Germany. However some of my friends jobs leave a lot to be desired. Being treated As a family member is really important but we Are still employees and should be Given the same rights and respect. Should a 12-year-old woman who chose to be a Nanny As part other plans to travel and experience life in another country be expected to stay Home every evening and play mom to four Small children while real mom and dad Are out having fun with their friends what about her fun another Friend makes plans for her weekend Only to be told Friday we re going out and no explanation seems necessary. After All we get paid Don t we or do we most of us Cam around $350 per month far child care Light cleaning laundry and cooking monday through Friday. I think that is a pretty full schedule. So How come working evening and weekends which is obviously extra hours is not considered extra dollars i guess members of a family Are not supposed to com Plain. Being most i Tant. 1 r Dren than you do. We influence discipline Tench entertain love and enjoy your children. The american Media places great emphasis on the importance of the family. It shocks me How so Many families prefer to dump their children and their responsibilities with a Nanny. If i Ever marry and have kids i Hope i la want to spend time with them. We nannies love your children but we did t come Here to play at one Parent families. I imagine that most of you chose to have children. Great but next time your child cries and asks for Nanny maybe you will understand Why. Name and location withheld guide to being one of military s finest i am writing in regard to a recent letter about senior cos headlined Reader lakes Pride in lauding super i would like to congratulate the Soldier who took the time to write the article and most of All his keen judgment of a professional Soldier. However there Are some Pitfalls in becoming that outstanding no that 1 would like to let you in on. First of All do you know yourself do you understand the army philosophy will you give your life for another Are you Colo Blind to the human race can you and do you Trust everyone you work with do you explain to your civilian wife in a language she can understand what your daily duties Are when walking with someone senior 10 you do you always position yourself to their left and last but not least do you Wash the dishes Iron the clothes mow the Lawn clean the House and Wash the car without Heing asked by the wife these arc just a few questions you might ask your self. If the answers arc yes to All then you Are Well beyond becoming one of the military s finest. The Point is How Many of us really appreciate that hard working dedicated motivated no who finds time for everything. Next time you re in the club exchanging horror stories about cos. Ask the sol Dier is his room clean has he shined his boots pressed his uniform or read the training schedule for the next Day before he left for the club thai s showing appreciation. Name withheld ludwigs Burg West Germany alcoholic rehab May save career i read with great interest the recent article from the Soldier who outlined the army promotion policy for personnel in the army alcohol rehab program. Although i do not represent the air Force i Hope that my Story May help some Blue suiters out there who think they May have a problem with alcohol. If you Are currently eligible for promotion and seek professional help with your alcohol problem provided you remain otherwise eligible you will remain promo table. I self identified As an alcoholic in May 19s7. In june 1987 i was advised that i was on the master sergeant select list. While attending an alcohol rehab Center in eng land i met another self identified alcoholic who had just been put on the master sergeant select list. During March 1988, while still in follow up support my line number came up and i was promoted to Mas Ter sergeant. The key in the air Force is self identification. If you seek help you will remain promo Abl if your Boss seeks help for you then you la be red lined. The Bottom line though regardless of promotion policy if you re sick and tired of being sick and ill please seek help. 1 could t do it on my own. Hut with help it docs get belter name and location withheld pen pals � Elk unborn in your Pun pal loot on or a Barczek Flohl 13 Virginia Takiaw . Tennety 3tm Paula Jarnol. . Mambo Anduha bw2 we we Hui in i from As wars world. angala410 Linn a would i Tiptn pall iranian am a world. 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