European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 23, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ahn Landers the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers thanks for printing he letter signed Alert in my sleep " As a nurse at a major Hospital for Many years 1 Loo have witnessed situations where the feelings of sick folks have been Hurt by things said by people who thought they could t hear. While lending a very ill woman 1 heard her daughter say "1 wish Mother would hurry up and die so we could All go Home True she and her Sisters had spent several Days and nights at their Mother s bedside and the prognosis was not Good but her Assumption thai Mother was in a coma was incorrect. The Wom an s eyes were closed and she was unable to speak or move her body but she responded to my voice and i knew she was conscious. The patient recovered and lived for nearly a year. I later Learned she Cut that daughter out of her will. 1 also took care of an elderly lady who had no family. Martha had a gentleman Friend who was handling her personal affairs. Horace stood to gain consider Able wealth when Martha died. He was annoyed that she was hanging or. So Long. He had an Active social life and visiting the Hospital every night was a great inconvenience. One night Horace suggested to the attending physician Hal he give Martha a Little extra morphine and gel it Over  she heard him sat Boll upright inbred and ordered him out of the room in a voice so Strong it startled us. The next Day she phoned her attorney three weeks later when Martha passed away Horace was stunned to learn that she had left half of her estate to her cat and the other half to a charitable organization. On the sidelines in n j. Dear sideline 1 received dozens of letters validating the theory that some patients who Are presumed to a to i coma in Alert ind listening. 1 Tope physicians As Well us family and friends will remember this. Some doctors make inappropriate com ments in the presence of very sick patients did they above All should know better. Dear Ann Landers awhile Back you published the results of a poll Indi Cating thai most women would rather snuggle than have sex. In View of these findings the ladies Nave no right to complain when males favor Golf Over sen As reported in another of your columns. As an avid golfer i Don t necessarily hold that View. After All a lot depends on the weather. Bill from fort Worth Pear fort Worth your feeble disclaimer won t help much if your wife finds out that is was you who mole it. Reid on Buster dear Ann Landers when i asked my husband a Golfo Holic what he thought about the Survey that showed golfers prefer Golf Over sex he replied. What s wrong with that most men Don t want sex in the daytime anyway that remark reminds me of a joke i once heard. Two golfers were playing on a Green near the High Way when a funeral procession came by. The first golfer removed his hat and stood quietly until the procession had passed. That was a Nice thing to do the second golfer said. Well replied the first golfer pulling on his hat she was a darned Good  tobaccov1lle, . Dea Tobac no joke is so ancient that someone somewhere turn l Beard it thanks for digging up thai old Bone and towing it my nay. Letter on newspapers Sparks response the spark for his letter was a recent letter to the editor titled Reader critical of newspaper  along certain lines of the writer s steam letting i wholeheartedly agree. However. I would like to ask the Wriler a question. Does she believe everything she reads in the newspaper simply because it was printed a reporter quotes people and then verifies what they say. There is no need to verify an opinion. That same reporter also writes a truthful Story. Now however the letter writer should learn a lesson a to where the reporter s Job ends. His Job ends when he closes his Story and sends it to his Section editor. Jesse Jackson s half brother charged with murder is an excellent headline. Obviously it caught your at Tention. But the reporter does not write the headline. A copy editor somewhere in a computer room throws the headline on a Story after he edits it. Don l blame the reporter for the headline or for writing a news Story he wants to be read. Reporters have a hard enough time As it is without being blamed for what they Nave not done. I also think the Wriler should lose the tickle Atli Tudic. Whether or not Quayle used influence to enter the National guard is no More or less of a moral Issue than with whom the married Hart slept. In other words it s not of to stay alive bul it is onto have Eitter martial sex who is guilty of immorality and of being cowardly the Man who uses his Abili ties to slay alive or he Man who has an affair i think neither. The writer should remember that the newspaper gives us information. Now if she wishes to believe everything she reads that is Fine with me. Good Luck Wilh life. 1 won t need Luck i also Don t base my Opin ions and steam idling solely on what t have read in a newspaper until now and i fault myself for having been influenced by this letter. I imagine that we All break once. Jim and Tammy May be going to hell but in writer better Start avoiding the headlines and looking into what is actually being said. If she believes in hell she believes in heaven. She has an interesting interpretation of morality. I m Happy for her. However. I Don t need to read in the new spa peer her opinions of who arc cowards and who Are adulterers or More specifically who Are not adulterers. I seem to recall someone who once said who Are you to judge besides was her letter actually against reporters or against what she perceives to be attacks upon the Politico she likes 1 thank the editor for allowing me to let off some steam. I feel much better now. After All t worked for the up at one time and i d have loved to have writ ten the Robinson Story. What a headline i would have bought the copy editor a drink spec. Glenn p. Collins Fulda West Germany writer offers tips on financial advisers As a financial services professional i read a recent article titled "$10.000 out the window with much dismay. It Only takes a few con men to destroy the credibility of Many hard working professionals. While i com mend both the Wriler and the stars and stripes for shedding Light on fraudulent business practices i feel the article did t go far enough. First of All neither the name of the individual nor of his company was mentioned. While this is a Good idea when protecting the innocent mentioning no names in this Case leaves the entire financial services Community suspect. Second while ensuring that an individual possesses a valid commercial solicitation permit is an excellent idea practising common sense will provide much More Protection. Some very Basic rules to follow Are never Ever make out a Check loan individual. Be suspicious of salesmen who guarantee invest ment performance or who Promise Large returns Wilh no risk. Before making any investments make sure you receive a prospectus that describes the investment and the Way in functions. If you Don t understand some thing ask the individual suggesting Illo you. If he can t answer your questions Don t invest. Be aware of your financial goats and know exactly How each invest men will help you to achieve them. Make sure thai the plan being suggested is comprehensive and Well diversified. This Means Hal not Alt of your Money should be in any one fund or asset group. Be aware of the importance of an emergency fund. This Money should not be invested but rather held in a savings or Money Market account for unforeseen occurrences. Pulling Money out of investments prematurely is never to your advantage. Ask for references. Have people you know dealt with an individual in the past is the representative Active in the Community if you get a reference talk to them. Last bul not least if you feel uncomfortable or have serious doubt about either the individual or the investments offered just say no. Robert t. Macdonald Weil Germany Reader says facts not always upbeat i would like to respond to the writer who would like to see More upbeat stories in the stars and stripes. You would think that being an no he would know that this world was nol jus daisies and Cher Ries bul also dirt and pits. 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